Emotional Enigma
Empathetic Empress
I guess the moral of the story is people like what they like. I have a degree in psychology and I don't know if I believe this "trauma" explanation but I haven't done any research on the topic and I've been wrong before so I wouldn't be surprised. It just seems like a weird notion that generally people would RP these pairings through some innate desire to work through trauma.
I don't mean to assume sexuality. But the fact it's still mostly a female fantasy still stands.