Deal Breakers. What makes you "walk" away?

[hologram]

Personally I love immortal characters but more for exploring the psychological aspects of immortality. I don't use it as a battering ram to derail the RP with or make an unstoppable character, but I also don't do groups anymore so presumably my partner is OK with immortal characters and using them in the method I'm interested in. Unfortunately it does seem it's often used in less than ideal ways in group RP to the point where I definitely understand where the distaste comes from.

 

[HeathertheGamer]

I love doing OC x Canon doubling RPs, but I hate when I can't see any compatibility between the OC and the canon character. Normally, I am able to understand why my partner would pair the OC with the canon character, but there have been OCs who were absolutely detestable (the sad thing is, I think they were supposed to be charming but weren't conveyed that way).

 

[sad boy]

When people approach me with, "what do you want to RP?" when I have an
entire list of cravings, prompts, plots, and pairings right there on my search
thread.

When people immediately hit me up with the fact the only play sub-type
characters and fully expect me to be their dominant for whatever reason.

When people leave me to play all the side characters, advance the plot on
my own, and never lift a finger to aid the story. I might as well be writing
my own book.​

 

[Coco Adel]

That person who takes forever to reply and then have the nerve to rush you and constantly pester you about replying. I don't normally take long to reply unless something comes up but damn it if you can take 2, 3 days to reply then I should at least be allowed that amount of time too, don't take forever to reply and then antcy then it's my turn because you didn't seem to have that same kind of urgency when you were taking your sweet precious time to reply.

 

[smallnscrappy]

Hang on *wades into the sewage* Okay...

I have so many deal breakers and I am afraid that I will remain the Old Maid of the RP world forever if I don't get some of these hooks out of my back. I mean hang ups. Are you ready for this laundry list?

1. Obsession with one's own character. We spend so much time talking about your character and their problems, that the rest of the story is totally derailed. Everyone else, yes, even the other protagonists and the supposed villain become but shadows in the awesome spotlight of you; the be all end all. I promise you, your character is not that interesting by his or herself. They need the contribution of others in order to become a better person.

2. Anime. Its just not that interesting. I am not sure how it translates into an RP. It is a style of animation. As is its namesake.

3. Rigid plot. The creator has little room for the rabbit trails that characters and fellow writers naturally takes. This is just bad DMing. You have to be able to tie stuff together, even when something doesnt go exactly according to plan.

4. Pretending to be a cat?

5. Godmoding. Hands down. This is the worst. If your character is the chosen one and he/she is slogging out of the manure stacked village of distant Yondersville...he/she needs to go through some trial and tribulation before discovering those awesome super powers. Lets put back grandpa's legendary armor, scuff up our knees and find that loot in a dangerous pond.

There. I have added but five of my complaints to the pile. Do with them what you will.

 

[sad boy]

1. Obsession with one's own character. We spend so much time talking about your character and their problems, that the rest of the story is totally derailed. Everyone else, yes, even the other protagonists and the supposed villain become but shadows in the awesome spotlight of you; the be all end all. I promise you, your character is not that interesting by his or herself. They need the contribution of others in order to become a better person.

I have a very close friend who does this and it's entirely draining to deal with. Nothing else really matters outside their precious, perfect baby and it was endearing in the beginning but now it's all the time with literally even things not relating to our RP and god its old.​

 

[Melpomene]

1. Obsession with one's own character. We spend so much time talking about your character and their problems, that the rest of the story is totally derailed. Everyone else, yes, even the other protagonists and the supposed villain become but shadows in the awesome spotlight of you; the be all end all. I promise you, your character is not that interesting by his or herself. They need the contribution of others in order to become a better person.

This is probably one of he worst problems I've ran into on here. And what makes it the worst is exactly what you mentioned, the character isn't even that interesting. In my experience those characters are usually pretty lampshades.

 

[smallnscrappy]

I have a very close friend who does this and it's entirely draining to deal with. Nothing else really matters outside their precious, perfect baby and it was endearing in the beginning but now it's all the time with literally even things not relating to our RP and god its old.​

I am so sorry for your loss. If ever your characters or even you need a shoulder to cry on, I am here for you.

I've written with several people like this and in the end it was just easier to part ways. But, if this person is close to you, maybe there is a clever way to channel their self indulgent rambling.

Brainstorm everyone. How do we deal with narcissistic co-writers?

 

[Tove]

When brainstorming on a plot turns into an outlet to complain about everything under the sun except the plot.

 

[Damafaud]

Pretending to be a cat

angry cat noises

 

[Gh0st1e]

When in discussion the partner completely disregards what you say, or once you start the RP they go completely off course without running it by you first or just adds in something totally unnecessary? And I'm not talking unnecessary like a short little outing to a place that has no real addition to the story, but is fun and builds character. I'm talking unnecessary like having a character do something that doesn't add to the story or build on who they are and what they do?

 

[GreatSaiyaman31]

Working on an RP together based off of a fantastical world where people can do impossible things and then your partner starts asking you to change your posts to utilize real world physics and data. You're ruining the story. The whole point (for me anyway) to rp is escape reality by entering a different world where anything can happen.

 

[Sleek]

One of my biggest deal breakers has to be god-modding/mary sue characters.

Say your plot involves searching for an individual among a crowd, but you don't know what they look like and only what their name is.

If the person in question shows up and 'Pulls out a scanner, which can detect people's thoughts' or just outright 'taps person on shoulder' without any prior buildup, it's a no-no for me.

 

[smallnscrappy]

I wrote with a group of fellows once...there was this one person who would ONLY use the name Yasmine. Every single time. Eventually we worked out it was the same character. She crashed about five or six really good stories and we finally said "Hey...you gotta do something different."

 

[Adamant Silence]

For me, it's the "I ONLY play females because I want some romance-y stuff because I NEED it and I'd prefer you play an A-hole male that falls head over heels for mine!" There is absolutely nothing wrong with people liking romance or being more comfortable with female roles, but it just sounds so...obnoxious. I have to turn down that offer. It just feels limiting to me.

 

[eggyulks]

Probably posted by someone before, but I nope out of RPs really fast when someone expects me to baby/coddle their character the whole time.

Also when someone attempts romance out of nowhere. I'd prefer that discussed over before the flirting starts, thank you very much.

 

[rae2nerdy]

For me, it's the "I ONLY play females because I want some romance-y stuff because I NEED it and I'd prefer you play an A-hole male that falls head over heels for mine!" There is absolutely nothing wrong with people liking romance or being more comfortable with female roles, but it just sounds so...obnoxious. I have to turn down that offer. It just feels limiting to me.

It's the selfishness really that gets me. It's that old saying you catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

If you just ask - Hey would you mind roleplaying this male character for my female? Chances are I'll be like sure fine.

If you ask - Hey would you be okay if we added this romance plot to the roleplay? I'm really craving it. Chances are I'll be like I'll do my best.

However if you are like : So I have to play the female in this romance story because I (want my crush to love me) don't understand males. Also your male character has to be like every shallow YA trope known to man because reasons (I want Edward to love me! Me! Not Bella)

Then chances are my response will be - *sound of backbutton being clicked*

 

[Adamant Silence]

It's the selfishness really that gets me. It's that old saying you catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

Tell me about it. I absolutely dislike it when someone basically just wants me to fulfill fantasies rather than actually roleplay. Unfortunately for them, that's not what I'm here for, nor do I enjoy it.

 

[Lord Aphrodite]

I wrote with a group of fellows once...there was this one person who would ONLY use the name Yasmine. Every single time. Eventually we worked out it was the same character. She crashed about five or six really good stories and we finally said "Hey...you gotta do something different."

I have a character named Yasamin, and the name is so similar that I feel like I’m being called out.

 

[smallnscrappy]

I have a character named Yasamin, and the name is so similar that I feel like I’m being called out.

We found 'em boys. Lock em up.

 

[Lord Aphrodite]

We found 'em boys. Lock em up.

YOU WONT TAKE ME! NOT AGAIN!

 

[smallnscrappy]

SMACKS! Bungled again.

 

[Coco Adel]

People who say not to abandon an rp and then say they reserve the right to leave at any time. So basically you're telling me that I can't just leave the RP, but you can leave for any reason at any time? No, we're not going to do that.

Or the person who says not to leave without saying anything because it's hurtful and then ghost on you after the first reply. Dick move.

The person who controls your character, I'm sorry I don't care how small it was it irritates the shit out of me. Don't do it at all, don't say you called to my character and she stopped to turn around and look at you with a confused look on her face. I don't care if you're not controlling her during a fight, just don't do it.

 

[Tove]

A person that expresses interest in a plot or pairing, send me a PM where we discuss a roleplay make character sheets and the person vanishes as soon as I write up a starter.

 

[Taylor]

Discourteous partners, for sure!