Experiences Things that instantly make you drop an RP

[thebigbadwolfy]

This isn't like pet peeves. I'm saying, like, when you're reading through the rules and you see something and immediately know what kind of RP something will be.
Or if you're in the middle of an RP and it starts heading in some direction and you just gotta stop before you suffer.

To kick it off, if I see someone even remotely fetishising/being weird about gay couples, I'm out of there. Especially if, for example, they're using the same/uke terms or other similar things.

 

[Tartaglia]

I really feel uncomfortable when my partner puts their character in a shit ton of suffering. Like, I don't mind that if the situation is right but too much of it, it makes me weirded out.​

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Example, their character got beaten up earlier in the morning and during the afternoon, they run into the same guys who beat them up and beat that character up again.​

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Dramatic shit is nice but too much of it makes me want to gag. Also angst. I am an angst enthusiast myself but when someone overdoes the angst, idk how to explain it but I just know, I immediately want to say "I'm done." ​

 

[adrian_]

This isn't like pet peeves. I'm saying, like, when you're reading through the rules and you see something and immediately know what kind of RP something will be.
Or if you're in the middle of an RP and it starts heading in some direction and you just gotta stop before you suffer.

To kick it off, if I see someone even remotely fetishising/being weird about gay couples, I'm out of there. Especially if, for example, they're using the same/uke terms or other similar things.

Same here, i find that sexuality has become the new 'in' and it's really stupid.

I will instantly drop an RP is it doesn't use mobile friendly code, because i will have to keep asking them in their posts to give me the transcription.

I love visualising posts but when you are simply starting to add purple prose in i will leave, there is already one Stephen King in the world, and we don't need another, his books are fucking horrible.

 

[Jules8008]

Zero research when writing characters with, let's say mental illnesses. No, I do not want to roleplay when your character has depression and is crying 24/7. No, I don't want to play with your schizophrenic character which is basically 100% sane and knows that his/her hallucinations/delusions are all fake and ignores them without even thinking about panicking. And no, I don't wanna play with your traumatized character which solved all of his/her traumas by snipping with their fingers.

Also, the basic Mary Sue/Gary Stu. And those characters that apparently know what to do when the other feels shit. I once had a roleplay with someone. My character semi-struggled with someone, but it was something he would have easily solved alone. I dunno what eexactly it was anymore...no clue. Anyway, my character semi-struggled, but it was obvious he'd solve it at one ppoint. Her character? shows up and solves the problem instantly. Y-yeah. No. She didn't even ask me if that's ok with me. She didn't even wait. Instant. Help.

Also when rules count for me, but not my partner. Then the roleplay's dropping faster than my mental health.

 

[Platypus]

When the gm accepts too many overly silly characters in an otherwise serious setting.

 

[_Line 213]

Rarely do I automatically quit an RP, because I usually try to give things a chance. The only thing so far that makes me revoke my interest entirely is absolutely forcing people to use faceclaims. I don't really like using them, and as someone who draws, I prefer to have pure visual control over a character, even if that's through written description.

Other than that, the one thing that weighs on my mind extremely heavily (but doesn't make me quit automatically) is overpowered GM characters. Having a character there for the sake of guiding and influencing the story in subtle or set directions makes sense, but I think it's best to keep that character secondary, fill a hole in the party that no one else has taken, or make them specialized in some aspect that makes them key for transitioning the story from scene to scene or place to place as opposed to something super important (i.e., a navigator). In my mind, it's a GM's job to ensure the players shine and not themselves, so OP GM characters set off all my alarm bells.

 

[d1uni5ys24si3o]

• When it's a group roleplay with practically only...
  • LGBTQ characters in a non-focus LGBTQ rp.
  • Too many Asian face claims in a non-focus Asian rp
  • Too many piercings/tattoo emo characters with funky hair colour in a non-focus emo rp
  • Too many players with only one character each (example 14 players and with 14 characters unrelated with no relations put in a new setting... like the fuck)

BASICALLY, WHEN THERE IS TOO MUCH OF SOMETHING RIGHT OFF THE BAT IN CHARACTER CREATION MODE, I LOSE INTEREST RIGHT AWAY.

• When it's a 1x1...
  • being passive during roleplay creation
  • pestering me to reply when I stated right off the bat my speed
  • when the player forces drama and is inconsistent with personality. Personality is not predictable, but you can't go from super bubbly to a psycho bitch because someone didn't want to go to the aquapark but rather the fair O.o

BASICALLY, DON'T ANNOY ME .-.

 

[Daughty Creature]

A classic: OP characters. Too many peopleI have RPed with have totally OP characters, and ultimately nothing ever happens because as soon as something tips downwards they’re like, “fixes with magic.”

Or there is always that one person who asks me to change just about everything of my character, including race and height and age... it’s ridiculous.

 

[Platypus]

• When it's a group roleplay with practically only...
  • LGBTQ characters in a non-focus LGBTQ rp.
  • Too many Asian face claims in a non-focus Asian rp

Would you mind if I asked why? I mean, no offense, but isn't it a bit silly to leave an rp over such trivial things as other characters sexuality and race?

 

[Wasted Ink]

Would you mind if I asked why? I mean, no offense, but isn't it a bit silly to leave an rp over such trivial things as other characters sexuality and race?

Diversity, I guess. Admittedly, I have been in roleplays where it takes place in America or Britain, but people's love for K-Pop or Japanese culture makes the roleplay filled with Asian-only characters. It gets a bit tiring after a while, I guess.
As for the sexuality thing - the issue might be the same as the other one.

 

[d1uni5ys24si3o]

Diversity, I guess. Admittedly, I have been in roleplays where it takes place in America or Britain, but people's love for K-Pop or Japanese culture makes the roleplay filled with Asian-only characters. It gets a bit tiring after a while, I guess.
As for the sexuality thing - the issue might be the same as the other one.

Yeah, it's exactly because of that.

Would you mind if I asked why? I mean, no offence, but isn't it a bit silly to leave an rp over such trivial things as other characters sexuality and race?

The above explains well.

It's a question of diversity. The issue isn't the sexuality or the ethnicity of the character ... It's a question of diversity and realism. If the roleplay is in Korea or a highly-Asian populated area in the USA (like LA), it is normal to have most characters be Asian if not more, especially if the storylines calls for it... But if the roleplay is in freaking Mississipi and 3/4 of the characters are queers of various gender with Asian blood who sing country music, it just kills all realism for me. I exaggerated in my example but more often than not it ends up pretty bad like that .-.

Also, I focus on visibly different minorities cause, unfortunately, most settings are more often than not focused on white American settings/areas/lifestyle. Same could be said if we did a Black Panther roleplay and 3/4 of the characters are Swedish .-. It just gets to me.

As I said above, it's not at all an issue with minorities or the LGBTQ community, more often then not I will make characters of various backgrounds, religions, genders, and sexualities... But I hate too much of one thing. It's probably also one of the reasons why I chose to live in the most diverse city in the world xD

I hope you can understand what I mean.

 

[Shuusuke]

I don't join any RP on impulse, so hopefully the time I spend stalking the joined members prevents me from facing any of the things mentioned by other posters above, as well as things in the other peeves threads out there. But if I do face them mid-rp, I'll at least bring it up in OOC or talk directly to the source of the issue. I think the one thing that would make me announce that I'm leaving an RP is if that conversation fails. That is, the person is too stubborn to view my side of things and why I think what they're doing is hurting their RP, because then I'll feel like the person is not that interested in the cooperative nature of RPing, and instead are in it for some other reason, like a power-trip or fantasy-fulfilling or whatever, and I dislike those.

So basically the one reason I'd leave (I'd announce I'm doing so by the way, I don't like ghosting maneuvers even though I get why people do that) an ongoing RP is if the other persons did "peeve-y" things and refused to listen when I talked to them about it. If you're curious about what are everyone's (including mine) peeves and deal-breakers are, do go check the threads for that. Here's my post on one: Deal Breakers. What makes you "walk" away? (after the first half, where I was ranting about an ongoing out-of-place discussion...)

 

[DeusExAlice]

Profile entries revolving around sexuality when it doesn't feel appropriate for the game premise

 

[rae2nerdy]

When people romanticize abuse or mental illness. Or people who romanticize highly problematic relationships in general.

Like I can't tell you how much it skeeves me out to see a roleplay revolving around Abusive Male x Abused Female or Student X Teacher. Like it just makes me skin crawl to think about romanticizing what is a real life abusive situation.

The same thing with like Adult x Child roleplays or anything dealing with power imbalances. I see someone who has a lot of those kinds of pairings and I turn right around without even bothering to look at anything else.

Mental Illness a lot of my family suffer from mental illness and the older I get the more it makes me uncomfortable to romanticize their suffering. However I can at least understand that romanticization is a lot of time unintentional so if the person is willing to like respect my boundaries and talk about altering the storyline I might do a roleplay with them.

I don't even bother with people that romanticize the abuse. I'm like we are not going to reach a common ground on that difference opinion so I find it better to just walk away and let them find partners that share their interest.

 

[d1uni5ys24si3o]

When people romanticize abuse or mental illness. Or people who romanticize highly problematic relationships in general.

Like I can't tell you how much it skeeves me out....

You must hate the majority of roleplayers in that case xD

What you mean by romanticizing though?

 

[thebigbadwolfy]

Oof yeah people romanticizing weird things like that? Big no

 

[_Line 213]

You must hate the majority of roleplayers in that case xD

What you mean by romanticizing though?

Generally making a point of suffering out to be something "cool" or not all that impactful in a realistic, researched way.

Usually what this involves specifically is removing the majority of the elements or consequences of a mental illness that makes it problematic or difficult to live with, and keeping the parts that feel dramatic and "interesting," or using said aspects solely for the sake of drama without considering how they might affect a person, or keeping the illness but ensuring that the character doesn't actually take pains to keep their illness under control because apparently the mentally ill can't act normally 90% of the time. Examples include making an "edgy" character that is "depressed," but said depression is really just angst and without any actual depressive side-effects or "uninteresting" aspects (i.e., no melancholy, no memory loss, no low energy, no emotional swings that aren't just "angry to sad and back again") and "split personality" or "bipolar" characters that come off more like possessed people (i.e., "it wasn't me, it was my other half," or "I can't control it and I take no steps to do so").

The most common example of this (at least in my experience) is probably the character that "just snaps," hurts someone terribly in badass bipolar rage mode, and then whiplashes back to normal for some crying and some "I didn't mean to."

 

[rae2nerdy]

You must hate the majority of roleplayers in that case xD

What you mean by romanticizing though?

Above commenter did a good job going over mental illness so I'll tackle romance.

Basically it's the same problem. It's when people roleplay something that in real life would get you arrested or at least make you a totall asshole and completely ignore the problematic elements because TRUE LOVE = EVERYTHING IS FINE.

Basically if you are following the same basic plot as Fifty Shades of Grey in terms of "healthy loving relationships" than we're not going to work out.

I mean I don't necessarily have a problem with other people roleplaying it. But to me it sends a bad message when your fantasy is essentially - woman is object to be desired and man can do whatever he wants as long as he claims to love object of desire.

Add to that that 99.9% of the time I'm supposed to be the douchebag guy who treats you ( I'm sorry "your character" ) like shit in the name of epic romance and that is a hard no thank you.

 

[d1uni5ys24si3o]

Generally making a point of suffering out to be something "cool" or not all that impactful in a realistic, researched way.

Usually what this involves specifically is removing the majority of the elements or consequences of a mental illness that makes it problematic or difficult to live with, and keeping the parts that feel dramatic and "interesting," or using said aspects solely for the sake of drama without considering how they might affect a person, or keeping the illness but ensuring that the character doesn't actually take pains to keep their illness under control because apparently the mentally ill can't act normally 90% of the time. Examples include making an "edgy" character that is "depressed," but said depression is really just angst and without any actual depressive side-effects or "uninteresting" aspects (i.e., no melancholy, no memory loss, no low energy, no emotional swings that aren't just "angry to sad and back again") and "split personality" or "bipolar" characters that come off more like possessed people (i.e., "it wasn't me, it was my other half," or "I can't control it and I take no steps to do so").

The most common example of this (at least in my experience) is probably the character that "just snaps," hurts someone terribly in badass bipolar rage mode, and then whiplashes back to normal for some crying and some "I didn't mean to."

lol that's honestly the worst. I mean sometimes it's just pure ignorance from the part of the roleplayer which is fine if you learn as you roleplay... If you don't bother, that's the big issue.

But yea, totally get why it would strike a nerve.

 

[d1uni5ys24si3o]

Above commenter did a good job going over mental illness so I'll tackle romance.

Basically, it's the same problem. It's when people roleplay something that in real life would get you arrested or at least make you a totall asshole and completely ignore the problematic elements because TRUE LOVE = EVERYTHING IS FINE.

Basically, if you are following the same basic plot as Fifty Shades of Grey in terms of "healthy loving relationships" than we're not going to work out.

I mean I don't necessarily have a problem with other people roleplaying it. But to me it sends a bad message when your fantasy is essential - a woman is an object to be desired and man can do whatever he wants as long as he claims to love object of desire.

Add to that that 99.9% of the time I'm supposed to be the douchebag guy who treats you ( I'm sorry "your character" ) like shit in the name of epic romance and that is a hard no thank you.

HAHAHA

I can't really comment though cause I won't deny I enjoyed Fifty Shades of Grey for what it served and don't totally agree with the mainstream idea of it being tasteless, 100% abuse and non-consensual, and all that stuff. Which is strange because my first opinioning after watching it once, I thought to myself "I can't watch this, it's the worst! It's so bad and anti-feminist! What is this?" by the end of the movie I absolutely hated. Then I watched it again because my friend wanted to watch it, so I focused on details and not just the superficial plot...and it surprised me. People see Anastasia as super weak yet I find her very strong and with some serious character. Which is totally bizarre cause it doesn't concord with my initial opinion

Anyways, I think it's greyer in that regard.

Although, I love learning and having more conversation about this. Hit me up if you wish I don't think the thread is meant for this ahhaha

 

[rae2nerdy]

HAHAHA

I can't really comment though cause I won't deny I enjoyed Fifty Shades of Grey for what it served and don't totally disagree with the mainstream idea of it being tasteless, 100% abuse and non-consensual, and all that stuff. Which is strange because my first opinioning after watching it once, I thought to myself "I can't watch this, it's the worst! It's so bad and anti-feminist! What is this?" by the end of the movie I absolutely hated. Then I watched it again because my friend wanted to watch it, so I focused on details and not just the superficial plot...and it surprised me. People see Anastasia as super weak yet I find her very strong and with some serious character. Which is totally bizarre cause it doesn't concord with my initial opinion

Anyways, I think it's greyer in that regard.

Although, I love learning and having more conversation about this. Hit me up if you wish I don't think the thread is meant for this ahhaha

Well my basic point is that : you are creating a roleplay where the whole point is that one character is just an object of desire. They have no thoughts, opinions, wants, or needs. And if they do happen to slip up and show a character trait it is totally ignored in the interest of having Male Character treat them like a pretty lampshade that he gets to do whatever he wants to.

Plus just romanticizing relationship where a person essentially holds someone else prisoner OR a relationship where an adult is clearly taking advantage of a vulnerable child in their care is not cool to me.

It's about the idea that - real women in real life suffer this. It is not glamorous. It is not funny. It is not something that should be taken lightly. I see it the exact same way as I see someone making light of bipolar disorder. My mother suffers from this and seeing the trouble she has dealing with her illness turned into a cheap excuse to make a character more "interesting" is extremely distasteful to me.

These are things I do not take lightly and anyone who does take them lightly is not someone I should be roleplaying with.

To be clear I am not trying to shame those people. Different strokes for different folks and if you happen to enjoy roleplaying abusive relationships as just harmless fun that's totally fine.

But as the title says - this is something that I will immediately drop a roleplay for because to me it's not something I can compromise on. It's just a hard and instant- no thank you we're not going to work out. Best of luck in your search.

 

[d1uni5ys24si3o]

rae2nerdy makes absolute sense to me and I'd do the exact same if someone roleplayed like that. If you are to roleplay that thematic, make sure most aspects of the power disbalance or mental illness is present. I think that's absolutely a good point you have there and quite a lot of roleplayers think the same.

I'm surprised it's an issue on RPN though... I'm kind of new here (never active until now)... Do people even get to that point? You can barely swear on here lol. I'd expect to see this issue in erotic roleplays mostly.

 

[thebigbadwolfy]

oh buddy oh boy head on over to the 1x1 search and every other thread has slavexmaster or abusedxabuser or teacherxstudent under their interests

For me, a lot of the time it's less so dealing with the actual thing in the RP than it is seeing something and knowing that that reflects the character of the person behind the screen. So like geeking out said, if someone is willing to rp those things so willy nilly, it's very insensitive
And for my example on the first post, if someone is using anime terms for a same sex relationship, that makes me extremely uncomfortable as a gay individual, because it says to me that this person is okay with viewing my sexual orientation as a fun, cool kink. That may not be the case all the time, sure, but the overwhelming majority is and I'd rather not take that risk.

 

[rae2nerdy]

rae2nerdy makes absolute sense to me and I'd do the exact same if someone roleplayed like that. If you are to roleplay that thematic, make sure most aspects of the power disbalance or mental illness is present. I think that's absolutely a good point you have there and quite a lot of roleplayers think the same.

I'm surprised it's an issue on RPN though... I'm kind of new here (never active until now)... Do people even get to that point? You can barely swear on here lol. I'd expect to see this issue in erotic roleplays mostly.

You can swear actually you just can't use racial/sexual/homophobic slurs. So you can't say the C word ( rhymes with runt ) , the F word ( rhymes with maggot ) , or the N word ( rhymes with trigger ). I'm sure there are more but you get the general idea.

But you can say hell shit damn son of a bitch whore slut bastard fuck.

And you can't roleplay EXPLICIT sexual content. So like no describing detailed sexual acts or his throbbing member this and her heaving bosoms (sp?) that.

So if you where for instance to say - Character X raped Character Y repeatedly for hours then locked them in the basement and forbid them to come out. That's totally fine. You just can't go into graphic detail about the sexual acts.

Same thing with Student A has been sleeping with Teacher B since they were thirteen. The two talk all the time about how they're going to get married and have a family. Recently Teacher B asked Student A if they could sleep with Student C. Student A said yes but only if they could sleep with Teacher D.

Like all that is totally fine again as long as no explicit sexual acts are described. And as long as you don't promote the illegal acts in real life. You have to make very clear this is just a make believe story about fake people not something you think people should do in real life.

 

[d1uni5ys24si3o]

HAHAHA, It did go off topic from the initial conversation but, honestly, thanks for the info I didn't know where the line drew itself in this website. I appreciate the details.