How do you go about dealing with Toxic RP partners? I’m in QUITE the rat’s tail right now - in an off-site RP group I’m in I’m dealing with a very abusive and toxic person - I literally don’t want anything to do with them anymore… however, a friend of mine has to deal with this abusive person until the end of January. I worry if I tell this person how I truly feel about them, they’ll explode and take it out on my friend.
(Please note my friend is physically safe from them, but I worry for their mental health should this abusive person explode on them.)
I’m… really not sure what to do.
In short: I want to tell this abusive person how I truly feel about them, but worried if I do they’ll take it out emotionally on a friend. Advice?
(apologies if this is the wrong subforum, I’m... really not sure where to put this...)
(Also, if you want context for this cluster fuck of a problem I’m in, click the spoilers for a huge summary of behaviors.)
(Please note my friend is physically safe from them, but I worry for their mental health should this abusive person explode on them.)
I’m… really not sure what to do.
In short: I want to tell this abusive person how I truly feel about them, but worried if I do they’ll take it out emotionally on a friend. Advice?
(apologies if this is the wrong subforum, I’m... really not sure where to put this...)
(Also, if you want context for this cluster fuck of a problem I’m in, click the spoilers for a huge summary of behaviors.)
TW: mentions of emotional abuse and bullying, but nothing in explicit detail.
So, to start things off let me establish the people.
Group 1 consists of:
I will attempt to summarize the history of trouble...
A and I (Mainly A) have been dealing with some trouble from D and E (Mainly E) for a while: E has had a history of going behind their fellow Mod’s backs: for instance, telling A that they will probably have to drop their character because no one (IC or OOC) will be happy to see their character again. (This is not true, but that’s besides the point.)
A and I have talked to B, D, and E previously about how their characters interactions towards our characters/OOC behaviour towards us have made us incredibly uncomfortable, only to be met with: E accusing A of manipulating me/ A and I attempting to manipulate B, D, and E, telling A that their behaviour (IC/OOC) is essentially A’s fault and that they need to “suck it up and get back to work” on getting people to like them/their character again. D, despite being Head Mod, is largely silent and complicit in E’s behaviour. B’s reaction, while still upsetting, was less accusatory.
E’s behaviour towards me, while not outright aggressive, is no less favourable: for instance they talk to/talk of me like i’m a child incapable of my own thoughts and have actually railed on me in the past behind my back.
D’s behaviour towards me… is practically nonexistent. Like they’ve stopped talking to me, etc. No apologies for their behavior towards A and I.
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Recently, B has messaged me and apologized for their individual behavior (IC/OOC) towards A and I during previous talks. Important to Note: B apologized to me first (roughly 2 ish months ago, at the end of October. As B and I discussed the troublesome behavior towards A and I, I learned QUITE a few distressing things that have been going on with the Mods.
Not wanting to detail the abuse, I’ll be a little vague - sorry. As B and I talked, they provided proof that D and E have been emotionally abusing them, bullying them, arguing with them for hours/days until B was emotionally run into the ground, accusing B of being toxic and isolating C from the entire RP group/D and E.
C and I have recently started talking because of this, and I’ve learned that D and E force their characters to have some sort of relationship with ALL of C’s characters. C has also shown me that E talks to them passive aggressively, and has even messaged C behind my back to talk about me. D has messaged C to rail on B.
E has recently messaged me wanting to apologize for upsetting me and A (it’s important to note that E has only apologized to me directly, despite claiming to apologize to both A and I.) If it wasn’t obvious, I find E to be an absolute piece of trash of a human being and want nothing to do with them anymore - however, I worry that given E’s past of accusing A of manipulating me, and the revelations that they have been abusing B, I worry E will say something to B (thinking they had something to do with my feelings) if I truly speak my mind… and I worry for B and their mental health, as they have to deal with E until the end of January.
So, to start things off let me establish the people.
Group 1 consists of:
- Me
- Friend “A”
- Friend “B”
- Friend “C”
- Person “D”
- Person “E”
I will attempt to summarize the history of trouble...
A and I (Mainly A) have been dealing with some trouble from D and E (Mainly E) for a while: E has had a history of going behind their fellow Mod’s backs: for instance, telling A that they will probably have to drop their character because no one (IC or OOC) will be happy to see their character again. (This is not true, but that’s besides the point.)
A and I have talked to B, D, and E previously about how their characters interactions towards our characters/OOC behaviour towards us have made us incredibly uncomfortable, only to be met with: E accusing A of manipulating me/ A and I attempting to manipulate B, D, and E, telling A that their behaviour (IC/OOC) is essentially A’s fault and that they need to “suck it up and get back to work” on getting people to like them/their character again. D, despite being Head Mod, is largely silent and complicit in E’s behaviour. B’s reaction, while still upsetting, was less accusatory.
E’s behaviour towards me, while not outright aggressive, is no less favourable: for instance they talk to/talk of me like i’m a child incapable of my own thoughts and have actually railed on me in the past behind my back.
D’s behaviour towards me… is practically nonexistent. Like they’ve stopped talking to me, etc. No apologies for their behavior towards A and I.
.
Recently, B has messaged me and apologized for their individual behavior (IC/OOC) towards A and I during previous talks. Important to Note: B apologized to me first (roughly 2 ish months ago, at the end of October. As B and I discussed the troublesome behavior towards A and I, I learned QUITE a few distressing things that have been going on with the Mods.
Not wanting to detail the abuse, I’ll be a little vague - sorry. As B and I talked, they provided proof that D and E have been emotionally abusing them, bullying them, arguing with them for hours/days until B was emotionally run into the ground, accusing B of being toxic and isolating C from the entire RP group/D and E.
C and I have recently started talking because of this, and I’ve learned that D and E force their characters to have some sort of relationship with ALL of C’s characters. C has also shown me that E talks to them passive aggressively, and has even messaged C behind my back to talk about me. D has messaged C to rail on B.
E has recently messaged me wanting to apologize for upsetting me and A (it’s important to note that E has only apologized to me directly, despite claiming to apologize to both A and I.) If it wasn’t obvious, I find E to be an absolute piece of trash of a human being and want nothing to do with them anymore - however, I worry that given E’s past of accusing A of manipulating me, and the revelations that they have been abusing B, I worry E will say something to B (thinking they had something to do with my feelings) if I truly speak my mind… and I worry for B and their mental health, as they have to deal with E until the end of January.