Other Arthur Aron and the 36 questions

[Vali Ulfr]

So a lot of people i know don't stay in a relationship as long as they intend to. Its always my intention to stay out of peoples business but one day a friend of mine asked me for help and he was desperate. he said," Dude i really need your help. it feels like she is pushing me away." i told him. "look i don't know what i can do for you but i will try" he was one of my oldest friends so i would hate to see him down. My sister came home and started talking about her psychology class. she said something about an essay and famous studies. then came up Arthur Aron, a psychologist who studied love basically. you see i got interested being a scorpio ( scorpio's are all about love). she mentioned the 36 question experiment and how it can bring polar opposites together. THIS ACTUALLY FUCKING WORKS. so i gave it to my friend to try out and it really worked. ps this was all done by a psychologist so it is actually tested. IDK HOW BUT IT DOES

 

[Randomfella]

Being born in a certain month doesn't decide your personality. 

 

[punkinblackk]

@Randomfella I think that sometimes, but then I go searching online and realize I'm 95% typical cancer, which is my zodiac.

 

[Windsock]

I don't get what the hell you're actually trying to say.

 

[Vali Ulfr]

what im trying to say is there is a experiment that can bring anyone closer together. like as in love together.


these are the 36 questions. then afterwards it must be followed by a 4 minute stare into the eyes

Spoiler

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?


2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?


3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?


4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?


5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?


6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?


7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?


8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.


9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?


10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?


11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.


12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?


Set II


13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?


14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?


15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?


16. What do you value most in a friendship?


17. What is your most treasured memory?


18. What is your most terrible memory?


19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?


20. What does friendship mean to you?


21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?


22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.


23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?


24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?


Set III


25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... “


26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... “


27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.


28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.


29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.


30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?


31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.


32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?


33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?


34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?


35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?


36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen

 

[charleen]

IS THIS REAL???

 

[Windsock]

I'm gonna call bullshit.

 

[Vali Ulfr]

IS THIS REAL???

Yes


i put the questions in my last post

 

[Venom Adhamm]

I think that sometimes, but then I go searching online and realize I'm 95% typical cancer, which is my zodiac.

That's because the zodiac horoscopes just list off a bunch of extremely general personality and character traits that could apply to anyone regardless of what month they were born in.

 

[punkinblackk]

That's because the zodiac horoscopes just list off a bunch of extremely general personality and character traits that could apply to anyone regardless of what month they were born in.

Yes, perhaps it's entirely by chance that I am a person that wholly agrees with the zodiac for the month I was born in. But the personality traits typically seen with zodiacs are quite ranged, with very little overlap?

 

[Venom Adhamm]

Yes, perhaps it's entirely by chance that I am a person that wholly agrees with the zodiac for the month I was born in. But the personality traits typically seen with zodiacs are quite ranged, with very little overlap?

It's important to note that an individual person will often display a wide range of traits at various points in time. People are not one-sided characters. The traits of the various zodiacs, although ranged, are traits that can still be found in most people. Also note that many people do not have an entirely accurate and realistic image of themselves, either viewing themselves in a more negative or a more positive light, meaning they might identify with certain strengths and weakness they may not actually possess.


Returning to the first point, let's take a look at just one of the zodiacs. I'm going to take the first zodiac (Aquarius) as the example, but you can do this for any of them.


First off, let's look at the Aquarius dislikes:


"Limitations, broken promises, being lonely, dull or boring situations, people who disagree with them"


Oh, look. Things that everyone dislikes (excluding maybe that last one). You don't have to be born in January to not like people breaking their promises to you.


Let's look at things Aquarius likes:


"Fun with friends, helping others, fighting for causes, intellectual conversation, a good listener"


Oh, look. A wide variety of items, one of which (fun with friends) everyone enjoys.


Let's look at strengths:


"Progressive, original, independent, humanitarian"


Everyone, at one point or another, thinks they're one of these things, even just a little bit.


Let's look at weaknesses:


"Runs from emotional expression, temperamental, uncompromising, aloof"


Everyone who doesn't have a highly-inflated self image will say "Yeah, I'm one of those things from time-to-time.


But, anyway, if you really want to believe in the zodiac, then go ahead. I'm just telling you that each of the zodiacs is very broad and vague with likes, dislikes, and personality traits, meaning absolutely everyone can identify with each of the zodiacs on some level or another.

 

[charleen]

yoooo if this doesn't work on me, i'll sue you!!

 

[Vali Ulfr]

yoooo if this doesn't work on me, i'll sue you!!

Don't sue me sue Arthur Aron. All of this is psychological 

 

[The Gunrunner]

So what if I tied someone down and forced them to go through this list - Would it still work? Man's gotta be sure