rae2nerdy
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I disagree. The OP doesn't insinuate a child and adult having a relationship. Student doesn't equal child. I'm a college student, which is still a student by definition. My instructor is still my teacher, regardless of semantics. I think it's the fault of the OP for being slightly vague and the posters assuming it means one way when it is clearly more broad in its wording.
I have gone into this at length from multiple standpoints. Starting with simple matter of adult x minor all the way through why a power-imbalance relationship requiring one or both members to quit their jobs is a bad idea.
So I won't go into that again. If you want to see my indepth thoughts on the matter you can read my posts.
I will say this - ADULT is not the same as AGE OF CONSENT. All age of consent means is that the law won't come after you if someone is XX age. And that varies wildly between countries. In America for instance depending on your state the age of legal consent is between 16 - 18 years old. I don't know where you live so I can't speak to what your age of consent laws are.
But just because the law says at 16 you can have sex with an adult person doesn't make you an adult. Heck turning 18 doesn't automatically make you a more mature person capable of making life altering decisions with an eye to how they will effect you years down the road.
There isn't conceivably that much difference between someone at 16 - 17 - 18. Yes legally speaking they might have more responsibilities but that doesn't make them more mature or more fit to be in a relationship with someone several years their senior.
To go back to my sister as an example.
I don't care what the law says if one of her high school teachers quit their job and tried to date her at 17 ( or 16 or 18 ) I would have a very serious problem with that. If they attempted to force her to quit her education so they could date I would have a problem with that as well.
Further when she goes to college sometime next year and starts having college style professors. I would also not be okay with one of them dating her or forcing her to quit her education so they could date ( and I don't give a damn if she's 18 or 24 ).
Because it is still a relationship in which
A - one person is choosing to terminate their means of employment just for a romantic relationship that might not even work out. So that tells me they are very immature at best , predatory at worst.
B - someone is pressuring my sister ( or any student in their care ) to quit their education just so they can have a relationship. Again which might not last. But they're still going to have a lot of real world consequences. I mean high school yeah you have the messy legal side of things potentially but you also don't pay for it. In college you are paying for your education so making someone quit their education means you are basically wasting THEIR money , their families money, or a scholarship opportunity.
So ironically given the OP's original wording switching this to a college setting really just makes the relationship itself worse. I mean sure we're not all arguing over what constitutes a child and what doesn't. But it just makes the whole relationship seem a lot more stupid in my opinion.
Because really - any relationship that requires one party to quit their place of employment OR the other party to tank their education isn't going to seem rainbows and sunshine to me.
I don't know maybe I'm too old to get the nuance.