RpNation

Amen

I must disagree in one regard. Well, I disagree in two regards but one of them concerns something that I don't really think is something that can be properly debated, so I'll leave it aside.

Now, the thing I disagree with here is that I think a teens should definitely date. But people shouldn't marry or have the impression that the relationship will be eternal right off the bat.

To begin with, the idea that relationships are easy or should be entirely based on an emotion is mistaken -> There's a lot more to love and committing than something so fleeting as passion.

So I believe teens and young adults should definitely date, not to make lifelong commitments necessarily, but to have a chance at learning about romantic relationships, making mistakes and growing from those.

I suppose you have a point. But the thing is, those two ideas - short term and long term relationships - to teens, at least nowadays, are mutually exclusive. Everyone seems to think their high school crush is meaningful enough to go on for the rest of their lives. There isn't a distinction. And because of that, they're absolutely broken when it finally ends, because they see it as something they did wrong. [Cont.]

As I said, with all the depression going around and suicides going up, it can't bee good for them. For anyone.

I'm not saying everyone is depressed. I'm just saying that they've got bigger and better things to worry about. Like mental health, where they're going to take their life, getting a job, ect.

Short term "Practice" relationships are a good idea logically. But in reality, they toy with someone's [cont.]

Feelings a lot more than I'm comfortable with, honestly.

Sorry if I seem scattered, as well.

No, it's fine. You do have a point and your reasons are without a doubt plentiful. However, I believe your solution tackles the problem by the petals, not the roots. The problem isn't the dating - it's the very confusion us youngsters have regarding the nature of relationships, the expectations to have and our own lives.

The problem can't just be left like this, but what the solution's aim should be is towards a

better awareness of the reality of these things and more support to those that need it. Not promoting that something that is tangentially affected by the problem be stopped.

I suppose I'm more against the idea of short term relationships. It occurs to me that it seems a little wrong to PLAN on a relationship being short, or less meaningful. Breakups hurt a lot for both sides. I feel like that pain should be avoided if possible.

Truth be told I wish i never dated when I was younger, it was a lot of pain, a lot of happiness and a lot of emotions.

Wait, wait I think you misunderstood. I wasn't proposing that one plans for a relationship being short, but rather that one has more realistic expectations of relationships at that age.

Oh, I guess that's true.

I suppose I would just rather be pickier. Not have relationships unless I know for SURE they're the right one for me. I could be just too picky though.

Again, however... Short or long term relationships, I WOULD rather still have a mature mind to back me up. Everything is better when you have the clearest view you can get. I'd still rather wait.

Like the Mechanist said, I don't [cont.]

Want to cause any pain to myself I simply could have avoided by having a more mature brain. There's bound to be stuff I just can't see right now. Stuff that goes under the radar. It certainly doesn't hurt to wait.

There's nothing wrong with waiting. We can speak generally but in the end it comes down to hwo each individual is in each individual situation. I just believe that, in more general terms, it's best for people to try and (usually) fail, then be able to get back up again, than to wait until there is no longer time for redos.

Thing is people don’t like failing, and some who’ve failed tend to give up. Sometimes it’s better to wait so that way you have an advantage for when you do try

Of course people don't like failing. And people don't like getting burned. But most people may need to get close to fire to understand that it really burns.

I get that it's better to try and to fail. But when you try, it's important to give yourself the best possible shot, yes? That's just something I don't have right now. But I WILL have that later.

I believe your best shot is something you can give regardless of an arbitrary cap. I mean you'll always now more, grow more experience and so forth... is we could only give it our best when we have the utmost tools, then we would only have one measily milisecond of our whole lives to try.

Yes, I know that maturity is ever expanding. But physically, the FASTEST your brain ever matures is within your teenage years. I know that just 1 or 2 years ago, I wouldn't even be capable of knowing the stuff I know now.

That maturity greatly slows down when one reaches adulthood. It doesn't END, but it slows down enough. And I think that's around the point where one is (generally) mature enough to see [cont.]

Enough to keep them more safe emotionally.

I'm NOT saying wait until the last possible second. I'm saying have patience. There really isn't any reason to rush. Love can be found at all ages. Just keep looking.