RpNation

Happens so much to me I've come to expect it

Why don't you respect that some people are just busy and think they're gonna get around to it but end up forgetting about it because of how much they have on their plate?

The_Omega_Effect because i understand that i have a responsibility to get back to anyone i rp with and that letting them know if i need to drop an rp is just common courtesy? if someone is so busy that they forget entirely about an rp then maybe they shouldn't be joining any.

I don't know how you see these rps but for a lot of people, it is only a hobby. Not even the main hobby that they like to do in some cases. This pretty much means that it is not too high on their priority list. Also, because a busy person would like to respond but has a lot to do, that person likely just kept putting it off until they forgot about it.

The_Omega_Effect so many users on rpn express frustration over ppl ghosting. even if it is just a hobby, it’s still really annoying when someone decides to be inconsiderate by just dropping without a word, leaving others waiting on them. in a lot of cases it leads to entire group rps dying just bc of the inactivity of one person. and really, how much energy does it take to send a simple message?..

I agree w/ Allure. It takes about 2 minutes just to write up a simple "Sorry, I can't RP anymore" message.
Plus, in most cases, when people get ghosted, they make many attempts to get back in touch with their partner/remind them of the RP. And more often than not, it's greeted with no response. It's not a matter of simply forgetting or being too busy, it's going out of your way to ignore a former RP partner.

Daisie If that person is still active on that site then yeah I guess it is fucked up that they wouldn't just let the person know. allure But overall, its not about a person being inconsiderate or careless. I will tell you the third time. They read the post and put it off like "I'll write a response later." After that, they are busy with work or studies so the rp is the last thing on their minds.

Then they simply forget about it. It is a simple human mistake that is very common. And it will be common considering how this is a mere hobby.

A real-life example: you're in a program to meet up with a complete stranger, and can leave at any time you want to. You agree to meet up with this stranger, and you sit down, have some lunch, start talking, getting to know each other. Your partner says they need to use the restroom, and they never come back. Congrats, you've gotten ghosted. Of course they can leave any time, but they didn't even say goodbye.

That is not a good analogy at all. This here is a lot easier to forget than actually going out and meeting with someone. A person to person meeting is much more intimate and by personally being there, you are committing a lot more than agreeing to anything on here.

It doesn't matter that it's a mistake, nor does it matter that it's a common one. When someone makes a mistake, they're still the one at fault. By telling someone you want to RP with them, you're making a responsibility for yourself to follow it through. If you make a mistake and forget about that RP, it's still YOUR FAULT, and the other person DOES have a legitimate reason to be upset.

I mean, you are already distant from someone on the internet because of the long distance thing. You know nothing about the person you are talking to. You probably aren't even being yourself as you can play any persona you want or pretend to be anything. My point is that you are already detached from the internet. And if you have a busy life in real life, then this rp thing isnt a secondary or even a tertiary concern

That STILL doesn't even really matter. By talking to this person and AGREEING to role play with them, you're the one who has to understand that this person is EXPECTING something of you. And rightfully so, as well. If you forget about it, sure it's a mistake that you didn't mean to make, but nonetheless, you LET that other person down in some way, and they have a right to be upset.

There are mistakes like a doctor accidental severing veins and killing a person. And there are mistakes like spilling a few drops of water on your pants. Not all mistakes are the same. Some weigh more than others. Understand that the rp in question, probably weighs a lot less to the person that ghosted.

Then Allure is correct in saying that when you ghost someone, you're literally telling them that you don't give a crap. Again. They have a right to be upset, whether or not the person cares at all.

If the person who has been ghosted should understand that the RP means little to the RPer who left, the one who left, by the same logic, should understand that the mistake they've made makes a great impact on the RPer.

With how much of a commonplace it is, the only thing you can do as a group rp is to regulate how often people can post and boot them out if they don't post. You have to be strict about it like that as it is the only way. But overall just get used it.

Okay, "get over it" is a valid SOLUTION to help you to feel better once it does happen. But all Allure is saying is that it SHOULDN'T happen as much as it does, in which I agree. If someone agrees to RP with you, you shouldn't EXPECT them to immediately leave. This is not not something that should happen, and THAT'S what they're trying to say. Unless I'm mistaken.

Look. Virtually all rps on this server end the exact same way. One person forgets to post, then the next, then the next, until everyone is inactive and their passion for the rp dies. It has happened, is happening and will happen to every single rp at some point. With this in mind, the expectation is that they WILL leave at some point. So getting upset about it is a waste of time.

I agree that most RPs do end like this. All Allure is doing is acknowledging this fact, and trying to tell people to try and do their best NOT to do this, because it IS a problem. There isn't much harm in posting a status update that reminds people to try their best to solve it. It's an issue that makes people unhappy, so they're saying that we should try to avoid it by being better, ourselves.