Ren_93
Consistent Randomness
Okay, I need help with a question I've been mulling over for quite some time now. Like, a few months...
So, my bf (23) and I (20) have been living together for a little over a year and been together a year this past May. We're both active duty Navy and I've received orders to Japan that'll last 3 years starting February in 2015. We haven't had any issues that we haven't been able to work through so far, and we're both thinking about our future together.
My question is that since we've both agreed we won't do anything serious until after my stint in Japan (unless he gets orders to there in 2016), would you say an engagement is too serious or not? We want to know how we'll fair with being separated at this distance and possibly with limited contact when I go out on deployment for months at a time. I'm just not sure how to bring this up to him without sounding like I'm begging for the engagement because I know marriage is a good 3 years AT LEAST off for us both. I'll be reenlisting in 2016 for another 4 years and he'll likely be reenlisting as well when he's up for it.
So, my bf (23) and I (20) have been living together for a little over a year and been together a year this past May. We're both active duty Navy and I've received orders to Japan that'll last 3 years starting February in 2015. We haven't had any issues that we haven't been able to work through so far, and we're both thinking about our future together.
My question is that since we've both agreed we won't do anything serious until after my stint in Japan (unless he gets orders to there in 2016), would you say an engagement is too serious or not? We want to know how we'll fair with being separated at this distance and possibly with limited contact when I go out on deployment for months at a time. I'm just not sure how to bring this up to him without sounding like I'm begging for the engagement because I know marriage is a good 3 years AT LEAST off for us both. I'll be reenlisting in 2016 for another 4 years and he'll likely be reenlisting as well when he's up for it.