RpNation

As someone who's mentally ill herself... if the behavior isn't normal but isn't hurting people, it's generally fine with me. There are even some ways I'd try to help the person, if that seemed like the right thing to do with the specific situation/behavior, and the person was important to me.


But if someone was behaving in such a way that I'm not getting what I need out of a relationship anymore, or they're hurting someone, I'd confront that person and possibly leave the relationship regardless of whether it was mental illness causing the problem or not. I think that even though we can't control some of the things we do, it's our responsibility to find ways to keep it from causing problems, or at least to apologize and get help. Being mentally ill doesn't give you a free pass to be mean or controlling or hurtful.


tl;dr I'm accommodating, but only up to a point, and I expect others to act the same towards me and my behaviors. I can be more specific if you have a specific situation you want people to respond to.

Depends on the behavior and depends on the illness. What you posted was an extremely broad comment. 

Someone told me that the sight of me using my phone irritated her and told me to put my phone away. I wasn't in a conversation with her or anything. She just randomly said that to me. 

Do you know for a fact that was spurred by mental illness? Do you know her? Were you in a place where it might be irritating to have a phone (like, a theater or something)?

I know for sure she has a mental illness. No, I do not know her and no I was not. It was at a party, and even then I was just sending a text, which was important. I told the person off, and she screamed and shrieked. Ruined the party for me. I just wonder if I was in the wrong but even then there are some things that annoy me that other people do but I cant imagine telling strangers to stop like that.

What mental illness does she have? I mean... I know it's a lot of questions, it just... hard to go on assumptions about people's mental health.  I've worked in retail for about, oh, twelve years, and yes, you can spot the ones who're having trouble, but... I dunno.  I don't know how I would have reacted in that situation, so I'm not about to say, "Well, I would have done it this way." 



It's hard for you, I'm sure, to have had that night, but maybe think of it in this way: how hard must it be for her?

Autism. Yeah ofcourse, I was with two kids at the time and explained to them that we should not blame.her for her behavior but that its due to how she was born. I also told them we have to be understanding of other peoples disabilities, and that she probably does not understand what she is doing and I probably said more. 


I understand how hard it must be for disabled people, but I do think a line should be drawn to what I am allowed to do and what not. I just dont appreciate it when people tell me what I am allowed to do or what not.