Maintaining Roleplay Partners

This is what I struggle with the most when it comes to roleplay, or that I can't seem to find any decent partners who have commitment and dedication. I sometimes feel that I'm force-feeding people posts. I ask them whether they're still interested or not, and all say yes. A reply later, they either bail out of the conversation or leave without a trace.


Please, how do I get a partner that is able to stick with me? Where do I find one? What could I possibly be doing incorrectly?

Finding partners can be difficult. I remember how hard it was for me to find someone that I could work well with. But in the end, I'm glad I take the time to lay down my limits. Again, roleplaying is for fun. Roleplaying is just for fun. If the people involved in the story are not enjoying themselves, then it may mean that you have to make a few modifications.


Are you setting specific limits? For me, I tell the person that if I do not hear from the person within a week, I will automatically assume that they are no longer interested. This is one of the first things that I list whenever I am looking for a new roleplay partner. If this is one of the terms they can't agree with, then it's likely that they might not be a good match in relation to dedication.

Musician said:

Finding partners can be difficult. I remember how hard it was for me to find someone that I could work well with. But in the end, I'm glad I take the time to lay down my limits. Again, roleplaying is for fun. Roleplaying is just for fun. If the people involved in the story are not enjoying themselves, then it may mean that you have to make a few modifications.
Are you setting specific limits? For me, I tell the person that if I do not hear from the person within a week, I will automatically assume that they are no longer interested. This is one of the first things that I list whenever I am looking for a new roleplay partner. If this is one of the terms they can't agree with, then it's likely that they might not be a good match in relation to dedication.

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I don't believe that I set too many limits when I ask for roleplay partners. I only require dedication/effort, a post once per week, and a reasonable sense of grammar. When it comes to length, I always put up the phrase quality over quantity. Really, it's not that much.


I allow my partners and I to compromise what gender and what role the two of use want to be. I normally allow them to select which role of the two they wish to be.

You may want to consider how you word your requirements, or what those requirements even are. Make sure you ask for what you want, especially if you feel like you aren't receiving what you want. From my experience, it makes it easier for both parties when they know exactly what to expect. ( )

Musician said:

You may want to consider how you word your requirements, or what those requirements even are. Make sure you ask for what you want, especially if you feel like you aren't receiving what you want. From my experience, it makes it easier for both parties when they know exactly what to expect. ( )

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I try to word my requirements the simplest, clearest way as possible, but I don't really ask what I want in terms of role. I'm not too needy-greedy when it comes to roleplay.

While it's rather sneaky, an effective way to investigate on a potential roleplay partner and their habits is to "post check". By this I mean, take a look at their posting history on the site for group roleplays. If you see that their posts are sporadic and they seem to jump in and out of RPs, they probably won't make a good partner, it may seem dirty and unfair, but so is being dumped by a roleplay partner without any explanation or warning. It's a pain restarting roleplay ideas every week simply because someone can't/won't hold up their end, so doing a background check would be a good way to ensure you know what you're getting into. To maintain fairness, maybe provide links to your own RP stuff so that the potential partner knows what kind of writer you are as well.

Just... You gotta play along (Sorry about the random post. I'm REALLY tired.. don't judge me xD )

Saturnity said:

While it's rather sneaky, an effective way to investigate on a potential roleplay partner and their habits is to "post check". By this I mean, take a look at their posting history on the site for group roleplays. If you see that their posts are sporadic and they seem to jump in and out of RPs, they probably won't make a good partner, it may seem dirty and unfair, but so is being dumped by a roleplay partner without any explanation or warning. It's a pain restarting roleplay ideas every week simply because someone can't/won't hold up their end, so doing a background check would be a good way to ensure you know what you're getting into. To maintain fairness, maybe provide links to your own RP stuff so that the potential partner knows what kind of writer you are as well.

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Thank you for the useful information. I'll be sure to use this next time. ^

Tie them up and lock them in your basement.


But more seriously... be more choosey. If you try to be too accommodating with a partner you aren't going to find what you actually want out of a partner. Even if you're very flexible, be a little more rigid when looking for a partner. Come to the plate being decisive. And if someone isn't meeting what you want? Keep looking! I know it can be very frustrating.

Zilla said:

Tie them up and lock them in your basement.
But more seriously... be more choosey. If you try to be too accommodating with a partner you aren't going to find what you actually want out of a partner. Even if you're very flexible, be a little more rigid when looking for a partner. Come to the plate being decisive. And if someone isn't meeting what you want? Keep looking! I know it can be very frustrating.

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Honesty, I wish that I could do that. xD


That may be another one of my problems when it comes to selecting. I'm not very picky and choosy when it comes to selecting a partner. I have a few rules, which aren't too hard to follow in my opinion. You're right. I need to start to unlock my strict side a bit.


Thanks. ^-^

[QUOTE="The Edwardian Edna]Honesty, I wish that I could do that. xD
That may be another one of my problems when it comes to selecting. I'm not very picky and choosy when it comes to selecting a partner. I have a few rules, which aren't too hard to follow in my opinion. You're right. I need to start to unlock my strict side a bit.


Thanks. ^-^

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It's super hard, man, but otherwise you're just getting yourself frustrated, investing time on partners who don't align with you. But you can find people who you just mesh with and it's the best. I have RP partners I've been friends with and have been writing with for ~10 years.

[QUOTE="The Edwardian Edna]Honesty, I wish that I could do that. xD
That may be another one of my problems when it comes to selecting. I'm not very picky and choosy when it comes to selecting a partner. I have a few rules, which aren't too hard to follow in my opinion. You're right. I need to start to unlock my strict side a bit.


Thanks. ^-^

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If it helps you might try asking your partner what their "rules" are.


What their hours of availablilty , what they want in terms of posting, what their limits are in terms of content.


This in itself will tell you what the other person will bring to the table.


And then think realistically what you want. How often so you really want to post - based in actual free time not just when you'd be okay with posting.


The same with the other areas. What characters are you actually interested in playing not just willing to play.


What length do you actual want to post at not just what you'd be willing to tolerate.


And if it's being mean is something that bothers you I find its best to just take the blame so to speak.


I'm just looking to try something different is a good way to politEly bow out.

Zilla said:

It's super hard, man, but otherwise you're just getting yourself frustrated, investing time on partners who don't align with you. But you can find people who you just mesh with and it's the best. I have RP partners I've been friends with and have been writing with for ~10 years.

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That would be a dream come true. I do have a friend that I've been roleplaying with for about two years. It seems like she took a little bit of a delay. Least we chat.

readingraebow said:

If it helps you might try asking your partner what their "rules" are.
What their hours of availablilty , what they want in terms of posting, what their limits are in terms of content.


This in itself will tell you what the other person will bring to the table.


And then think realistically what you want. How often so you really want to post - based in actual free time not just when you'd be okay with posting.


The same with the other areas. What characters are you actually interested in playing not just willing to play.


What length do you actual want to post at not just what you'd be willing to tolerate.


And if it's being mean is something that bothers you I find its best to just take the blame so to speak.


I'm just looking to try something different is a good way to politEly bow out.

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I exchange them my preferences and ask whether they are okay with it or not, but I don't really recieve anything in return except for a yes or a no. I'll start to do that.


Thanks. ^-^

personally i know exactly how you feel. i literally just started on here a few days ago, but i know what its like to go through finding someone to roleplay with/person gets uninterested/leaves, due to the face i have been roleplaying for quite along time now on different sites. i guess it just depends on what type of attention span your partner has, simply put. ........ if you would like, i would be open to be a roleplay partner, but im not certain if thats what your asking, so if its not, disregard this sentince.

SweetCandy said:

personally i know exactly how you feel. i literally just started on here a few days ago, but i know what its like to go through finding someone to roleplay with/person gets uninterested/leaves, due to the face i have been roleplaying for quite along time now on different sites. i guess it just depends on what type of attention span your partner has, simply put. ........ if you would like, i would be open to be a roleplay partner, but im not certain if thats what your asking, so if its not, disregard this sentince.

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I have a short attention span myself, but I don't drop out a roleplay after the five starting posts. The only problem with me is that I'm a "one-a-day" replier, so that may be the case


No, I'm not looking for roleplay partners. xD I'm looking for advice on how to maintain a partner and how to choose one wisely.