I did, in fact, enter this thread because when my mouse went over the title up popped a xkcd comic.
Having read it all, however, I'll give you a legit answer:
I've never done a roleplay that wasn't the tabletop kind where we had a GM. No one has ever suggested to me that my writing was 'ooc...
I am a die hard 1x1er (got over group roleplays way back when because the reply lag killed me) and I have had a fair number of search threads in my day.
In my experience I have rarely had people come on too strong. More often I think the opposite might be true where people are indecisive or...
Particularly in reference to niche ideas: Try writing something for it.
Sometimes people can't see where an idea might go or if it's a fandom where you want to focus on a side ship instead of the main pairing people may just have never found a reason to be interested in the side characters...
I let them.
Either I or my partner (pretty much only do 1x1s) was losing interest, posting schedule slowing down because of real life stuff, other roleplays I was more excited to reply to took priority, and a variety of other factors might have been involved but ultimately all it came down to...
Character-sheet style introductions in a 1v1.
Character sheets are good for tabletop games or group roleplays and for keeping track of a particular character's attributes either for yourself or a partner but do not a good roleplay introduction make.
A lot of you talked about spending too...