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I think it's a good idea to post this in Personal Discussions instead.

Polygamy sounds like a bad idea, hoss

Hrm. Well, this is new.  

Alright, these cryptic responses don't stress me out more at all

While I'm not gonna sit here and tell you that Polygamy shouldn't be practiced, because there's nothing wrong with loving more than one partner if all parties feel the same way, I think you should first lay the cards you have on the table and study then for a day or two. 


If you're ABSOLUTELY sure about this, then just sit her down and talk to her in the most logical way you can. Don't get heated if she gets heated.

But like


I love Kat, and I don't wanna mess up with her

Well, how do you feel about the best friend?

I mean, I like her too...not as much, but it's there

Well, if you don't want to mess up, and if you love her, but not as equally, than maybe Polygamy isn't for you? I'm sorry if that sounded harsh, I'm just trying to make sure this doesn't end poorly. 

I'm only going to give my opinion, ultimately the choice is up to you. 


I don't think you should entertain the thought of talking to your girlfriend about having a relationship with all three of you. I have nothing against it, everyone should do their own thing, she might not want to share you with another woman or have anything beyond friendship with her friend. 


You love her just be with her.

Well you may not want to jump ship on a functioning relationship for something that may not be a real feasible option. It is something you should discuss frankly and openly with your girlfriend though. As your girlfriend she has a right to know where she stands with you, and what's been on your mind if it's related to her. And she'll have a right to end the relationship if she so chooses upon learning the truth. You clearly do care about her, so it's important to let her know everything so that she can make up her mind about what will be best for her. Do this before approaching your other friend about a the way relationship, so that your girlfriend will know you respect her and aren't going behind her back. Also, if this is the case (but don't say this is it's not true) tell her that your relationship with her is more important than anything that could potentially happen with the poly relationship, and so you'll put it behind you if she's not comfortable, but that it needs to be out in the open so that you're not leaving her in the dark about what's been on your mind. Note that if this isn't true, don't tell her that. Be honest. I'm sure she deserves that, and you should reflect on what needs to be said before you approach her. I wish you all the best

Thank you all, the multiple bits of advice have been helpful

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; - ; I wish I could've said that