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Thanks for all the tips guys, I really appreciate them. I just try to be a good friend to him but sometimes I really don't know what I need to do because everything I say makes it worse it seems... 

Yup, you are where i always am. Making it worse.


To be honest, talking more at that point could kinda make them think diffrent about you, but too in an negative and weird way. I...im not sure if i shold say this, because IF i whold be an Stalker i whold to very well, so here is an tip for me.


Resarch.


I know this sounds weird, but if you know nothing helps and the person might do something bad or will get crazy, you have to search in all of their online activity, such as posts, links to other profiles like Devian art etc. and then create an little 'Profile' of him in your brain.


At the end you could maybe find an reason why he's depressed an too find an sol...solut...how you spell that xD?


Anyways,


that little 'Resarch' thing can't be done by everyone, it needs something i don't wanna explain in an long text now.


Again, im sure you wholden't feel comftorable (if i spelled that right) with that decicion (dang my spelling), but i could help you.

@Summer Breeze Try different methods. Pay attention to what he says. It'll help you determine how to deal with him. Some people like it when you distract them from the problem, some people dislike that. Some people just don't like talking at all. Pay attention.

I'll try to use different things but I'm not sure what works and what doesn't... Sometimes I feel as if I cause the problem by not being there for him during the day, which is impossible because of timezones, and I try to spend as much time with him as possible but it never is enough for him and then I feel as if it's my fault he feels so lonely and then I try to talk even more to him which leads to ignoring my homework and real life friends and even my family... It's so hard, I wish I could split up myself into multiple me's...

Im sorry if this sounds rude, but...


Real life>Online life


This shold be an rule for everyone every damn time.


But we all mostly ignore it.


In this case, you shold stop talking and do the things you shold.


Just hope someone is there for him, and if there is noone for that sad guy...


He's an total stranger.


I just realized i stopped saying 'them' and instead im saying 'him'.

@Summer Breeze Well, I don't know how much this guy means to you, but don't overstress yourself just for him. 'Cuz you just might put yourself in a negative mood too. Do what you can. He might just have to sort himself out on his own- which isn't a bad thing.

But the problem is he has no one, at least, that's what he tells me, I'm pretty much the only one he talks to and he spends hours a day waiting for me to message him... I know that sounds pathetic but... I dunno, it's difficult. I just wish that there were other people who would also talk to him instead of only me.

Then tell somebody to care about them.


At this point, don't care anymore.

You can't simply tell someone to care about someone else, it doesn't work like that...

I know.


But can you think of something diffrent so you can stop chatting with him?

Uhhh, I don't really think she should abandon him since she's expressing clear concern for him. Though, it is a difficult situation.


@Summer Breeze Perhaps tell him that you have your own problems if hes demanding too much of your time? Just hope that he understands. Do you know any of his other friends? Maybe they just aren't aware of his situation but do care enough about him.

I do not know any of his other friends, because he doesn't seem to have any really... I'm trying to introduce him to some of my friends, who I know would also want to help him, but he doesn't want any other friends besides me... He's a bit clingy.

This guy is creepy. Creepier than i am. I whold try to stay away from him...

@Summer Breeze Oooh... He might need some professional help?

Kek good idea but im sure that guy won't search that up and will even oppose the fact he needs that.


Well, that's what im thinking, i know how crazy people think.


Sorry, but in that state i can call him crazy. If anyone thinks im an jerk right now, i never said being crazy is bad, im too crazy.

@Ohrald you can't judge him only badesbased on the things I tell you. He's a really nice guy on his good days and a really close friend of mine. He Just depends on me a lot.


@Devious Dilbert he does get professional help appearently, I told him too but it doesn't seem to be working since his main problem is, according to himself, his lack of friends, he just wants more friends and people that truely care about him, preferably a girlfriend. 


Because of this I have been tempted to just say 'screw this, I'll be your girlfriend and then this will be over' but I can't do that since it would be a diseaster because I would be unhappy and he would probably get really posessive...

@Summer Breeze


You know some people have 2 sides, or even 3?


If you want me to, then i can say he is temporary crazy.

@Ohrald I know people habehave multiple sides, I've had some split personalities myself so I know that very well... I know he has too, one side is very sad and depressed while he can be a real sweetheart and optimistic and nice and happy. He switches really fast between happy and sad but it takes a while before he is happy again  


Still, I wouldn't call it crazy, he's actually really realistic, and that's the problem...

@Summer Breeze Oh yeah, that would likely end very badly. I'm glad you didn't actually go through with that, LOL. It sounds to me like he could just be using you, so I'd be careful. I could be wrong though.


He wants friends but doesn't? I'd try subtly introducing people to him. Slip somebody into the conversation. Maybe even add him to a group chat. Respect his comfort zone though. Really, he has to want help. There's frankly just not much you can do to help him if he doesn't want it.

@Devious Dilbert that's a good idea, about the group chat, I might try that. Thanks for the idea ^~^