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StuartAnderson
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Particularly as I tend to do roleplays with romance, writing long romantic paragraphs would firstly feel creepy and secondly if anyone else saw it, that could spell big trouble.
Nothing personal but a roleplay isn't worth going to jail for.
Nothing personal but a roleplay isn't worth going to jail for.
nerdy tangents
One Thousand Club
So to clarify something I think people forget. The site already bans writing scenes that would be censored from a PG13 TV show or taken out of a YA novel.
You flat out canβt write an explicit romantic or sexual roleplay anyway, regardless of what age your partner is.
In addition propositioning your partner into a real life relationship is also against the site rules. You canβt ask your partner to date you, exchange explicit art, or go off site to write explicit content. Again that is a site wide rule not a rule just for the under eighteen crowd.
So like if you think something is illegal to do with a minor, you probably canβt do it with an adult on this site anyway.
Just something to keep in mind.
StuartAnderson
New Member
That is true, I don't only use RPnation to find partners though so I was thinking more generally.
nerdy tangents
One Thousand Club
Fair enough, I just see the sentiment from a lot of people in this thread so I thought I would remind them that RPN already has some pretty strict rules on content.
StuartAnderson
New Member
And to be honest, even with no romantic/erotic content, it feels a little weird sending private messages to a minor I don't know. a group roleplay, i'd be ok with.
nerdy tangents
One Thousand Club
Yeah Iβm not talking about comfort level. I just wanted people to know that if they were worried about the legality of their posts then itβs probably not content suitable for this site regardless of how old your partner says they are.
For my own comfort level Iβm not very good with writing romance anyway so it doesnβt bother me to write with minors. Since itβs usually just us geeking out over a shared fandom anyway.
Steve Jobs
Died of ligma
As long as all of the content stays PG-13 then I have no issue Rping with a minor. My rule is essentially that if it's not something I would be comfortable doing in a stage show/play with them, then I'm not gonna RP it over text.
Owl Knight
Don't let it ruffle your feathers, my liege.
I'm twice as old as most minors, so I wouldn't just on a life experience level. I'm interested in working with folks who have a similar level of life behind them so that our ideas match up.
I'm also a high school English teacher, so the idea of talking to teens and pre-teens online feels icky.
I'm also a high school English teacher, so the idea of talking to teens and pre-teens online feels icky.
PinkSodaPopRemix
She/They/He
I only freshly turned 19. I've thought a lot about changing my requirements to 16+ or 17+. It's more of society's pressure for me. While it definitely makes me uncomfortable role-playing with someone 15 and below, it's just awkward having anything to do in a romance setting with someone who is a minor and is so much younger than you are. But 16-17 isn't really that far away. Given how I felt when I wasn't old enough and couldn't find a role-play partner, I'm going to change it to 17+ because this reminded me of that.hello! Im sage/Hero if you don't know me, and if you do you'd know I'm 17! I struggle to find roleplay partners due to my age, and sometimes it frustrates me because im just so close to fitting the requirement of 18! But, I do understand why adults won't roleplay with someone under 18, and I will never be upset or take offense for that!
But I do wonder why exactly. Maybe it's comfort levels, maybe it's experience, or maybe something way off! I would like to ask you guys why you would or wouldn't roleplay with me/a minor! I want to educate myself on reasons why, because I must admit I do get upset sometimes. For a lot of you I think we'd be a good match! But I'm not 18 so I would HATE to make anyone uncomfortable! So I refrain from messaging people obviously if I don't fit their requirements, even if it's just cause of my age! I'm just saying sometimes it sucks cause I love roleplaying so I need more role-plays, yet can't find anyone like me!
Anyways, thanks for reading!
However, all in all, think about role-playing with a really talented 12 year old. They are still immature and it's weird to role-play romance with someone who is so much younger than you. That, and to you, they are like a child. It's the same to most adults around 21 years old. It's a whole different world apart. Then there are still the difference in maturity levels a lot of times. I mean, if I was thirty, I would feel SO weird. I mean, I would most likely be playing a character who is intimately attracted to a reflection of a seventeen year old and that's a bit strange. (Especially if it was OC x OC) Because then I would be in some way, romantically involved with them. Just the thought makes me want to throw up.
Anyways, I have a forum in one x one I just recently posted at 12:48 pm EST. It should be on the first page in the 1x1 Role-Pay interest Check. If you see it, and we match up, feel free to hit me up on it.
caecgirl
Member
i have in the past. well not under 13, but most of my games are pg-pg13 anyway.
caecgirl
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caecgirl
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i am 43 and i don't get it either. ive hosted minors in my games. i keep the content general usually so its fine.hello! Im sage/Hero if you don't know me, and if you do you'd know I'm 17! I struggle to find roleplay partners due to my age, and sometimes it frustrates me because im just so close to fitting the requirement of 18! But, I do understand why adults won't roleplay with someone under 18, and I will never be upset or take offense for that!
But I do wonder why exactly. Maybe it's comfort levels, maybe it's experience, or maybe something way off! I would like to ask you guys why you would or wouldn't roleplay with me/a minor! I want to educate myself on reasons why, because I must admit I do get upset sometimes. For a lot of you I think we'd be a good match! But I'm not 18 so I would HATE to make anyone uncomfortable! So I refrain from messaging people obviously if I don't fit their requirements, even if it's just cause of my age! I'm just saying sometimes it sucks cause I love roleplaying so I need more role-plays, yet can't find anyone like me!
Anyways, thanks for reading!
caecgirl
Member
my age group is 13-75 lol
Inno
Forever sleepy.
Okay. Cool.
nerdy tangents
One Thousand Club
PinkSodaPopRemix
I think you finally said something that helped me understand the reason so many people are like βI canβt talk to minors itβs illegalβ.Cuz like low key I talk to minors all the time and no one has every gotten upset or called the cops.
And I think what wasnβt clicking for me was that people felt like they were in romantic relationships with their partners. Which would legit creep me out regardless of age because Iβm aro/ace. So I have zero desire to ever be in real life romantic relationship and do not see real life people as potential romantic partners
For me writing romance is more about literary themes and character arcs. So itβs easy for me to be like βyeah this is an entirely fictional person that has nothing to do with me or my partner. Weβre just putting together some tropes for tell a fun story.β
So thank for that comment I think it kinda blew my mind and also helped explain where some of the unease was coming from.
Inno
Forever sleepy.
lol, some people act like it's a crime that people don't want to write with minors. That it has got to be a huge reason why. If a person doesn't want to do something, they don't have to do it. Nor do they really need to justify why they don't want to do it to anyone. People just write with whoever they're comfortable writing with and call it a day.
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PinkSodaPopRemix
She/They/He
Of course! Itβs why I always feel a bit creepy with the idea of role-playing with people a lot younger than me.
Cuz like low key I talk to minors all the time and no one has every gotten upset or called the cops.
And I think what wasnβt clicking for me was that people felt like they were in romantic relationships with their partners. Which would legit creep me out regardless of age because Iβm aro/ace. So I have zero desire to ever be in real life romantic relationship and do not see real life people as potential romantic partners
For me writing romance is more about literary themes and character arcs. So itβs easy for me to be like βyeah this is an entirely fictional person that has nothing to do with me or my partner. Weβre just putting together some tropes for tell a fun story.β
So thank for that comment I think it kinda blew my mind and also helped explain where some of the unease was coming from.
PinkSodaPopRemix
She/They/He
to reiterate because I reread this and I realized you said in love with their partners. I donβt feel like Iβm in a relationship or in love with my partners, but I still feel a bit weird because Iβm usually playing someone who is romantically interested in a reflection of themselves. For an example, itβs kind of like youβre told to play a character in a play or movie and youβre 18, but a 12 year old is playing the love interest of that character. The thought kind of makes you feel all gross and slimy inside.
Cuz like low key I talk to minors all the time and no one has every gotten upset or called the cops.
And I think what wasnβt clicking for me was that people felt like they were in romantic relationships with their partners. Which would legit creep me out regardless of age because Iβm aro/ace. So I have zero desire to ever be in real life romantic relationship and do not see real life people as potential romantic partners
For me writing romance is more about literary themes and character arcs. So itβs easy for me to be like βyeah this is an entirely fictional person that has nothing to do with me or my partner. Weβre just putting together some tropes for tell a fun story.β
So thank for that comment I think it kinda blew my mind and also helped explain where some of the unease was coming from.
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barring rp, it just feels weird to interact for any extended period of time with minors i'm not related to. that's it for me.
nerdy tangents
One Thousand Club
Lol true I think I misspoke, what I meant to say is I donβt see characters as reflections of their writers. Mostly because I do a lot of fantasy and international roleplays. So like for instance in my current idea I am playing a Brazilian mermaid and my partner is playing a Romanian vampire. * mostly in the sense weβre basing on our characters on specific folklore. *
Weβre both from small towns in the US. So the characters arenβt remotely reflections of ourselves itβs more like we just happen to be borrowing from pop culture or folklore to build them.
And that is more or less how my roleplays go. So itβs never the sense that βoh this is a twelve year old playing a part.β Itβs more like βthis twelve year old really loves the little mermaid and wants to write fanfic of Arielβ.
* only in my case replace twelve with seventeen. I mean I would love to chat folklore with a twelve year old I just donβt think their are that many kids that young which are into the literary canon of magical beings. Your gonna need to be at least sixteen or seventeen to be that nerdy.
.titania
queen of the fairies
Now I'm only twenty-two and my comfort range is usually two years younger or two years older simply because of personal preference. There's a lot of ways to answer that question in all honesty but one of the biggest reasonings is the Western/United States ramifications associated with minor interactions. It's very uncomfortable to roleplay one on one with teenagers or youth that if outside IRL would be extremely taboo . However, this is a roleplaying site where we do not know each IRL and the rules of the site prevent otherwise NSFW or, we'll, say triggering content that could negatively influence youth. I was one of those children who highly excelled in literature and writing so by the time I turned twelve, I was well ahead of my peers reading at early high school levels. Back when feral front was still warriorcatsrpg, it was a lot less restrictive and minors like myself were all over the place just trying to learn and get better, sometimes ending up in uncomfy situations with other much older folk. My point is, don't get frustrated and keep searching because there are role-players like myself, young adults, that understand that feeling since it wasn't that long ago that we were also considered minors. Just be cautious.
erzulie
cheers for spring; for life; for a growing soul
It depends for me honestly. If Iβm in a group rp and then rating for said rp is tame, then I donβt have a problem. But personally I always make my own rps 18+ or 19+ just because some of the themes that I enjoy. I prefer those closer to my age, so around 20 or so, for 1x1s. At one point my 1x1s were also 18+ but I felt weird considering there isnβt that much of a difference between a 18 year old and a 17 year.
I know that Iβm probably biased too because Iβve had people outright lie about their ages in get into rps Iβve been in, so Iβm iffy about rping with minors and donβt accept them in the spaces I create.
I know that Iβm probably biased too because Iβve had people outright lie about their ages in get into rps Iβve been in, so Iβm iffy about rping with minors and donβt accept them in the spaces I create.
Merciless Medic
Walking Pokemon Dictionary
I don't really care about age.
I've seen a wonderfully literate 12-year-old who articulated well and sounded a lot like a 24-year-old and wrote as if they already had a bachelor's in literature. Then I've met people in their 30s and 40s who act like children and were illiterate or don't write well (excluding people who don't have English as their first language and people with dyslexia).
When it comes to roleplaying for me, age doesn't matter as much as maturity and knowing what you are getting into, as well as being able to separate yourself from your characters.
I don't mind playing as a "mentor" for younger kids and teens who want to explore RPs/topics and get better at their writing or just have fun. It's hard for me to stay invested, but I sometimes glean some bit of fun from it, lol.
When I was a teen (having started RPing on Quotev at the age of 12-13), I played with adults, I played with other teens, and rarely ever had much of an issue. Of course, being 13-14, I started getting an interest into edgy and darker topics, but I was mainly exploring it through my limited lens of what it all was because I wanted to learn what it was like. I had a sheltered childhood, so I wanted to learn what I could or else I felt like I couldn't understand people, which was what the biggest issue I had growing up. In doing so, I began to relate more to adults as a teen.
I recognize now that what I did back then was borderline romanticizing the darker, edgy topics that most people wouldn't take so light-heartedly, but considering I didn't know how someone should react to something like that (and being extremely flippant where I would still struggle with interpersonal connection with other people to this day because I sometimes lose my empathy for brief periods of time) it would look like I was just doing it because I was making fun of it.
But, as I was doing that, I was learning what I was doing wrong through all of it. XD I just had to do some trial and error and learn with hands-on experience. It's one thing to say "this is bad" and another to give evidence and to "play it out" in a sense (like in RP) for someone to truly understand. Being a slightly emotionally dead person sometimes (or where my emotions were extremely difficult to stir up), I would write horrific backstories and "pity-me" sues because I wanted to cry and explore what that horrific experience was like, as if it was some odd catharsis... Though, most of those creations never see the light of day, it left me realizing and seeing what I was missing back then when I became an adult. And by that, I mean missing the hard point of all those edgy stories because I just didn't have the experience of an older lens to understand until I got older. It didn't hit as hard because I was sheltered, but I was fighting against the sheltered life by doing all that.
But I was grateful for it. Even if it psychologically fucked me up (by doing it to myself lol) and has caused higher anxiety, I have learned to - in a sense - "deal with it" or at least can take higher stress and think things through and understand things a lot better when I hit 16, which is when I had a jump in maturity. Talking to people at that age had people thinking I was 20. XD It was pretty funny.
To wrap it up, I have fucked my mind over so I could understand the topics I was writing better when I got older. I wouldn't recommend it, but if you want to take the "hard route" in life, I guess no one is stopping you except yourself.
Just be careful and be responsible, is all I ask.
Sadly, at the moment, I have way too many RPs I'm in, so I would love to have 1x1 or group RPs with people who feel like they are missing out, but I can't at the moment. XD Maybe when I make an interest check when I have at least knocked out a few RPs from my list...
I've seen a wonderfully literate 12-year-old who articulated well and sounded a lot like a 24-year-old and wrote as if they already had a bachelor's in literature. Then I've met people in their 30s and 40s who act like children and were illiterate or don't write well (excluding people who don't have English as their first language and people with dyslexia).
When it comes to roleplaying for me, age doesn't matter as much as maturity and knowing what you are getting into, as well as being able to separate yourself from your characters.
I don't mind playing as a "mentor" for younger kids and teens who want to explore RPs/topics and get better at their writing or just have fun. It's hard for me to stay invested, but I sometimes glean some bit of fun from it, lol.
When I was a teen (having started RPing on Quotev at the age of 12-13), I played with adults, I played with other teens, and rarely ever had much of an issue. Of course, being 13-14, I started getting an interest into edgy and darker topics, but I was mainly exploring it through my limited lens of what it all was because I wanted to learn what it was like. I had a sheltered childhood, so I wanted to learn what I could or else I felt like I couldn't understand people, which was what the biggest issue I had growing up. In doing so, I began to relate more to adults as a teen.
I recognize now that what I did back then was borderline romanticizing the darker, edgy topics that most people wouldn't take so light-heartedly, but considering I didn't know how someone should react to something like that (and being extremely flippant where I would still struggle with interpersonal connection with other people to this day because I sometimes lose my empathy for brief periods of time) it would look like I was just doing it because I was making fun of it.
But, as I was doing that, I was learning what I was doing wrong through all of it. XD I just had to do some trial and error and learn with hands-on experience. It's one thing to say "this is bad" and another to give evidence and to "play it out" in a sense (like in RP) for someone to truly understand. Being a slightly emotionally dead person sometimes (or where my emotions were extremely difficult to stir up), I would write horrific backstories and "pity-me" sues because I wanted to cry and explore what that horrific experience was like, as if it was some odd catharsis... Though, most of those creations never see the light of day, it left me realizing and seeing what I was missing back then when I became an adult. And by that, I mean missing the hard point of all those edgy stories because I just didn't have the experience of an older lens to understand until I got older. It didn't hit as hard because I was sheltered, but I was fighting against the sheltered life by doing all that.
But I was grateful for it. Even if it psychologically fucked me up (by doing it to myself lol) and has caused higher anxiety, I have learned to - in a sense - "deal with it" or at least can take higher stress and think things through and understand things a lot better when I hit 16, which is when I had a jump in maturity. Talking to people at that age had people thinking I was 20. XD It was pretty funny.
To wrap it up, I have fucked my mind over so I could understand the topics I was writing better when I got older. I wouldn't recommend it, but if you want to take the "hard route" in life, I guess no one is stopping you except yourself.
Just be careful and be responsible, is all I ask.Sadly, at the moment, I have way too many RPs I'm in, so I would love to have 1x1 or group RPs with people who feel like they are missing out, but I can't at the moment. XD Maybe when I make an interest check when I have at least knocked out a few RPs from my list...