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Simon_Hawk

"The ticket to the future, is always blank."
Me, all the time.
I don't even know how I didn't stop roleplaying at all due to permanent exhaustion.
And situations like this come up almost every weekend. I have time but too tired to even think.
I have this happen most days, I try to do stuff early in the morning when I have energy but if it has to wait until evening that's pretty much a guarantee no writing or much of anything for that matter is getting done.
 

Onmyoji

HanGuang-Jun
Moderator
Supporter
That's the problem. I wake up tired, I'm even more tired in the evening, I tend to fall asleep during lunch because I'm too tired to eat.
I still manage to squeeze in rp on occasion but not as often as I would like to. And it is my huge pet peeve, when I technically have time to write but my body refuses to let me. ^^"
 

orbitalpudding

persistently inconsistent, probably a cryptid
this is such a small thing but it's so annoying having to click on and scroll through every search thread just to see that it's only 18+ and i read all that for nothing. just put 18+ in the thread title ughhhhh
 

Xx_AceaFire

"I'm back so enjoy the trip." -NF, 2019
This has been bothering me for weeks now.

When you ask someone how they feel about how the roleplay is going and their response is that they love it and it's good. You ask them if they wanna change anything and you get the 'No not at all' and then the next message they send is just a long #$% list about how they'd change the roleplay to fit JUST them over actually editing the roleplay to make it okay for everyone.

Personally. I hate it, and sure we all do it sometimes, but MOST of us (from my experience) realize the issue and don't try to force it and instead make compromises. But don't say 'No' when I ask you a question and then decide absolutely everything is wrong with the roleplay.


Another thing going on today is when the other person puts ZERO effort into helping with the storyline- I mean, it's one thing to have a turn-based roleplaying style, but it's another to completely ignore part of someone's post and avoid a whole scenario that actually has something to do with the rest of the plot. I mean, come on, if you're not gonna help make an idea on how the roleplay goes then try to follow the other person and branch off from there. But don't just scatter the whole story, or you could've totally botched something that could've been amazing
 

serenity.au.reid.

Certified Jin Guangyao Apologist🧚‍♀️
This has been bothering me for weeks now.

When you ask someone how they feel about how the roleplay is going and their response is that they love it and it's good. You ask them if they wanna change anything and you get the 'No not at all' and then the next message they send is just a long #$% list about how they'd change the roleplay to fit JUST them over actually editing the roleplay to make it okay for everyone.

Personally. I hate it, and sure we all do it sometimes, but MOST of us (from my experience) realize the issue and don't try to force it and instead make compromises. But don't say 'No' when I ask you a question and then decide absolutely everything is wrong with the roleplay.


Another thing going on today is when the other person puts ZERO effort into helping with the storyline- I mean, it's one thing to have a turn-based roleplaying style, but it's another to completely ignore part of someone's post and avoid a whole scenario that actually has something to do with the rest of the plot. I mean, come on, if you're not gonna help make an idea on how the roleplay goes then try to follow the other person and branch off from there. But don't just scatter the whole story, or you could've totally botched something that could've been amazing
Oh, I've had RP partners like this in the past. If anything, it almost always never works out. Better to just drop it because... You'll try to explain or nudge them a little but they'll be having none of it. Then you see them ask somewhere else "why does no one want to RP with me?"

Well....
 

Xx_AceaFire

"I'm back so enjoy the trip." -NF, 2019
Oh, I've had RP partners like this in the past. If anything, it almost always never works out. Better to just drop it because... You'll try to explain or nudge them a little but they'll be having none of it. Then you see them ask somewhere else "why does no one want to RP with me?"

Well....
"Why does no one want to RP with me? I'm SUCH a "compatible" person!"
 

serenity.au.reid.

Certified Jin Guangyao Apologist🧚‍♀️
"Why does no one want to RP with me? I'm SUCH a "compatible" person!"
I've had times when I was really discouraged and would ask this, "why won't anyone rp with me?" but I've had the opposite happen. What you've described, where I try to work with my partners but they just don't want to do anything at all.
"What do you think of x y and z?"
eh
[explaining something that could be added to the RP storywise] "What do you think? Do you have any other ideas that could add to this?"
no, that's fine :)

And then what they give me feels like they're just not into it but they'll keep stringing me along until they either ghost or I leave because I can feel that they're not on it. In the past, I've even thought it was my fault, that it was my problem and that something in my style or how I've come across rubs those partners the wrong way... I'm not sure. However, in the recent months, I've gotten in an RP with a partner that is fantastic both in OOC and IC. Every issue I've had with past partners (things you've mentioned and what I just said) is nonexistent in this case. Having someone that is more than willing to bounce around ideas to make the RP more engaging for the both of us, not to mention being enthusiastic about what is happening IC turned my thoughts all the way around. It wasn't me, it was just that I kept ending up with partners that did not want to give anything back. And at this point, when I encounter people like that... I just do not force it. As I've said, it's better to drop it before things get worse lol. Because people like that won't change. Hell, they feel offended if you try to say.. (in a polite manner) hey, this is not really working out because x y and z.
They immediately think you're attacking them personally which is not the case.

Shenanigans like this make me value my current RP partner even more because we're just vibing. xD
 

Xx_AceaFire

"I'm back so enjoy the trip." -NF, 2019
I've had times when I was really discouraged and would ask this, "why won't anyone rp with me?" but I've had the opposite happen. What you've described, where I try to work with my partners but they just don't want to do anything at all.
"What do you think of x y and z?"
eh
[explaining something that could be added to the RP storywise] "What do you think? Do you have any other ideas that could add to this?"
no, that's fine :)

And then what they give me feels like they're just not into it but they'll keep stringing me along until they either ghost or I leave because I can feel that they're not on it. In the past, I've even thought it was my fault, that it was my problem and that something in my style or how I've come across rubs those partners the wrong way... I'm not sure. However, in the recent months, I've gotten in an RP with a partner that is fantastic both in OOC and IC. Every issue I've had with past partners (things you've mentioned and what I just said) is nonexistent in this case. Having someone that is more than willing to bounce around ideas to make the RP more engaging for the both of us, not to mention being enthusiastic about what is happening IC turned my thoughts all the way around. It wasn't me, it was just that I kept ending up with partners that did not want to give anything back. And at this point, when I encounter people like that... I just do not force it. As I've said, it's better to drop it before things get worse lol. Because people like that won't change. Hell, they feel offended if you try to say.. (in a polite manner) hey, this is not really working out because x y and z.
They immediately think you're attacking them personally which is not the case.

Shenanigans like this make me value my current RP partner even more because we're just vibing. xD
I so feel this on a spiritual level. And me too! I'm extremely happy to have a partner that I can just vibe with and not be too worried about y'know? *Hey if you ever tryna roleplay...:angelD:*
 

serenity.au.reid.

Certified Jin Guangyao Apologist🧚‍♀️
I so feel this on a spiritual level. And me too! I'm extremely happy to have a partner that I can just vibe with and not be too worried about y'know? *Hey if you ever tryna roleplay...:angelD:*
Yeah that's what's most important... Feeling comfortable on both sides and not feeling "under pressure"
haha thank you for the offer, but I'm alright for now! :)
 

Lover

Goddess Of Love
This little forum is just to vent and let your frustrations out. I find joy hearing other people's frustrations and being able to relate so I'm feeling very... frustrated right now.

"i onLy pLAy aS a fEmALe"

or when people will say they looked at your search thread but then ask redundant questions that are already answered on the thread.

JUST PAY ATTENTION PLEASE ITS NOT THAT HARD ;_;

ok I'm done.

EDIT:

this thread is SPECIFICALLY for pet peeves, not comic book heroes, not about if you think your character is x, y, or z -- PET PEEVES. please make ur own thread or pm to discuss that, this aint the place for it sweetie
When you discuss an RP, they say they're multi para. Their punctuation and English is at least understandable, and then they do the complete opposite.
Their writing isn't really up to par with my own, the way they said it would be. And.. I'm not flawless, but I know the difference between there and their and not to put a space before a period.
At least be honest English isn't your first language.

Or when you don't even know how to bring it up to them without being afraid of offending them.. What are you supposed to say in that predicament?
 

nerdy tangents

art by Sparrowlicious
When you discuss an RP, they say they're multi para. Their punctuation and English is at least understandable, and then they do the complete opposite.
Their writing isn't really up to par with my own, the way they said it would be. And.. I'm not flawless, but I know the difference between there and their and not to put a space before a period.
At least be honest English isn't your first language.

Or when you don't even know how to bring it up to them without being afraid of offending them.. What are you supposed to say in that predicament?
So the horse is out of the barn at this point but I find a good way to prevent this is to ask for links to past roleplays (or baring that at least a writing sample).

Gives you some example of their abilities.
 

Syntra

Baba Yaga
When you discuss an RP, they say they're multi para. Their punctuation and English is at least understandable, and then they do the complete opposite.
Their writing isn't really up to par with my own, the way they said it would be. And.. I'm not flawless, but I know the difference between there and their and not to put a space before a period.
At least be honest English isn't your first language.

Or when you don't even know how to bring it up to them without being afraid of offending them.. What are you supposed to say in that predicament?
Okay, this is just me being nitpicky, but statistically, it's more likely for native speakers to make the mistakes you've described :) Since English phonology is all kinds of fucked and you guys grow up hearing these words, as opposed to ESLs whose first contact is typically visual. I also don't know a language in which you'd put a space before a period, sooo... yeah, this is just sucking as a writer rather than a matter of one's first language.

But! I have a similar pet peeve, actually. It doesn't really relate to grammar, but it is about different expectations. What I hate is when someone sounds normal, even fun OOC, and when it's their turn to write, their brain switches into this... how to call it? Purple prose mode. Like, laughter-inducing level of it. I know I should have asked for a sample, but you looked like a bro and I trusted you T_T
 

Crayons

Iconoclast
Okay, this is just me being nitpicky, but statistically, it's more likely for native speakers to make the mistakes you've described :) Since English phonology is all kinds of fucked and you guys grow up hearing these words, as opposed to ESLs whose first contact is typically visual. I also don't know a language in which you'd put a space before a period, sooo... yeah, this is just sucking as a writer rather than a matter of one's first language.
Thiiiiiiis. .^^^ I swear to god, I have played with dozens upon dozens of people and the ones whose grammar is all over the place are always the native speakers, not the non-native speakers.

I think that non-native speakers tend to do a more thorough job of checking that their post makes sense, because they want to make sure you understand them. Whereas native speakers sometimes just assume their English is AOK cos they speak it every day.
 

Cosmo

Does Not Know Kung-fu
Religion.

Hold on, now, I see you about to asking. 'What you talkin' bout Cosmo?' but gonna set this here, I am not a religious person, myself, not am I 'anti-religious'. My issue is not with religion being in roleplays. I think they absolutely
should be in the vast majority and that is where my pet-peeve comes from. Few things make me raise an eyebrow faster then joining an RP, having a neat idea for a character that has beliefs in whatever [and that is fairly rare that I want to do that anyways] and the GM goes 'Oh, religion doesn't exist in this world.'

Religion doesn't exist in this world. Just... what? Is this world filled with creatures that look, sound and act like humans but aren't actually humans? Are we just pretending that isn't part of the human experience regardless of how you feel about it? Some of the excuses I see brought up is just... what? Such as 'Gods don't exist in this world' as if that is some kind of reason to not include it. The being doesn't have to be real for it to be real to the character. There being no such being in your work doesn't mean people wouldn't find something to believe in even if there was nothing actually there, if anything, that discovery could make for an utterly amazing character moment in the story [as well as the opposite, believing no deities could exist in a world as cruel as this only to find out, they do].

Another one of my favorites is when there is magic because, apparently, a mystical magical energy that can't truly be explained [only its effects can] that lets people do incredible things wouldn't have people developing beliefs in something else out there... 'But some individuals in the past were so magically powerful they were like gods, so why worship gods?' yes, because stories of a godlike magic being in the past wouldn't totally inspire a religion based upon them down the line... Cause that has never happened in our world before, nope, never. :xFrolleyes:

I get people sometimes are religious, are anti-religious, aren't religious, don't care about it in any ways or don't really have an interest in making their character that way, but it doesn't mean you should just go full derp and go 'well, nope'. If you hadn't thought of a religion, or series of religions, for your world, just say that. Be open to working with the RPer to help mold a religion for their character that would fit in the world you created. Don't go full derp and just say 'Meh, no religion because I don't understand it and am so enlightened that other people shouldn't beli.. sorry, I was sniffing so much of my own smugness that I got lost in thought, what were we discussing?'

Its always frustrating.
 

nerdy tangents

art by Sparrowlicious
Religion.

Hold on, now, I see you about to asking. 'What you talkin' bout Cosmo?' but gonna set this here, I am not a religious person, myself, not am I 'anti-religious'. My issue is not with religion being in roleplays. I think they absolutely
should be in the vast majority and that is where my pet-peeve comes from. Few things make me raise an eyebrow faster then joining an RP, having a neat idea for a character that has beliefs in whatever [and that is fairly rare that I want to do that anyways] and the GM goes 'Oh, religion doesn't exist in this world.'

Religion doesn't exist in this world. Just... what? Is this world filled with creatures that look, sound and act like humans but aren't actually humans? Are we just pretending that isn't part of the human experience regardless of how you feel about it? Some of the excuses I see brought up is just... what? Such as 'Gods don't exist in this world' as if that is some kind of reason to not include it. The being doesn't have to be real for it to be real to the character. There being no such being in your work doesn't mean people wouldn't find something to believe in even if there was nothing actually there, if anything, that discovery could make for an utterly amazing character moment in the story [as well as the opposite, believing no deities could exist in a world as cruel as this only to find out, they do].

Another one of my favorites is when there is magic because, apparently, a mystical magical energy that can't truly be explained [only its effects can] that lets people do incredible things wouldn't have people developing beliefs in something else out there... 'But some individuals in the past were so magically powerful they were like gods, so why worship gods?' yes, because stories of a godlike magic being in the past wouldn't totally inspire a religion based upon them down the line... Cause that has never happened in our world before, nope, never. :xFrolleyes:

I get people sometimes are religious, are anti-religious, aren't religious, don't care about it in any ways or don't really have an interest in making their character that way, but it doesn't mean you should just go full derp and go 'well, nope'. If you hadn't thought of a religion, or series of religions, for your world, just say that. Be open to working with the RPer to help mold a religion for their character that would fit in the world you created. Don't go full derp and just say 'Meh, no religion because I don't understand it and am so enlightened that other people shouldn't beli.. sorry, I was sniffing so much of my own smugness that I got lost in thought, what were we discussing?'

Its always frustrating.
So in my personal experience “religion” is just code for “bigoted beliefs that you aren’t allowed to call out.”

So I can see the mentality being “I don’t want to start unnecessary drama in the OOC”.

As religion is one of those things that people believe very strongly about IRL and it is not outside of the realm of possibility for whatever religion the character has to lead to fighting.

Either it’s disrespectful to a real religion, pushing an agenda people don’t agree with into the world, or people use it as a jumping off point to preach at people OOC.

So yeah I can see the GM being like “Nope I am not going to be refereeing petty infighting all day.”
 

AndPeggy

New Member
This mainly applies to discord group RPs since that's the bulk of how I RP these days.

When I come into a new server and create a character, and it's time to look for someone to start a scene with... But the only people available and looking for RP are the type of writers I don't want to write with. Either they do one-liners or have awful grammar... But they're the only ones open to RP in the group!

Like am I supposed to just ignore them, or...?

Semi-related - when GMs don't uphold their own rules for the server when it comes to writing quality. When they keep lower-level writers even though it's against the rules because they don't want to seem rude.
 

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