Experiences Whats making you angry today? Rp pet peeves

[Crayons]

Speaking as someone who will play as a male character without doubling up, I really wish people would let me flex my creative muscles more often. I have a lot of male OCs that I love, yet it feels like every time I try to have one show an emotion besides possessive anger it's shot down :c

Is this really a thing??! I guess it must be seeing as so many people have liked the post but, damn, this is weird. And it's not something I've ever encountered playing on other sites at all. I play male characters about 70% of the time, and have often had them in relationships/romances with female characters. Never has anyone even commented on how I should play them a certain way.

Why is this happening? Is it just here - a cultural thing? Or do people get this a lot elsewhere too?

 

[Tove]

Another not at the moment but it is annoying as I've seen it first hand when some people constantly talk about not finding partners to roleplay their ideas with but aren't willing to compromise to accommodate potential partners.

 

[CecilDMMasters]

Another not at the moment but it is annoying as I've seen it first hand when some people constantly talk about not finding partners to roleplay their ideas with but aren't willing to compromise to accommodate potential partners.

Saw this on DA a lot. And talked to a lot of people who also dealt with it on that site. This one is particularly angering when the ones who whine and complain about not having partners and refuse to compromise are the worst ones about whiny guilt tripping when you drop them as a partner for breaking your rules. Or flat out coming off like they didn't read the rules they claimed they agreed to. It got to where I would always search a new partner's page and nope out if they had status updates and journals whining about being blocked or no one RPing with them.

 

[Tove]

Saw this on DA a lot. And talked to a lot of people who also dealt with it on that site. This one is particularly angering when the ones who whine and complain about not having partners and refuse to compromise are the worst ones about whiny guilt tripping when you drop them as a partner for breaking your rules. Or flat out coming off like they didn't read the rules they claimed they agreed to. It got to where I would always search a new partner's page and nope out if they had status updates and journals whining about being blocked or no one RPing with them.

I'm curious about this DA but I saw it a couple of times here. I mean, you want to roleplay right? Why push aside potential partners just because your ideas might not click? Expand your horizons.

 

[CecilDMMasters]

I'm curious about this DA but I saw it a couple of times here. I mean, you want to roleplay right? Why push aside potential partners just because your ideas might not click? Expand your horizons.

DeviantArt seems to have gotten hard to find partners not into fetish, smut or romance. Or people who god-mod horribly and when you reach the end of the chances claim mental disability and try to shame you. Granted I've found some awesome partner their but it seems lately the good one have run dry.

I remember one conversation the person noted me, telling me they saw my RP rule list and wanted to RP. Sharing a link to their rules. On their list they talked about OCs from a fandom and clearly stated romance was a must. So I tell them my rule list clearly stated I don't RP fandoms or romance. I don't care if they use an OC they made in a fandom but they shouldn't expect me to go and by a bunch of DVDs and watch the show. And no romance.

"Well, I need romance or it's boring."
"Not doing romance. Sorry, we aren't compatible."
"I just need a little romance."

I just stopped replying their, I'm not about to try to figure out what a little romance is.

 

[Tove]

DeviantArt seems to have gotten hard to find partners not into fetish, smut or romance. Or people who god-mod horribly and when you reach the end of the chances claim mental disability and try to shame you. Granted I've found some awesome partner their but it seems lately the good one have run dry.

I remember one conversation the person noted me, telling me they saw my RP rule list and wanted to RP. Sharing a link to their rules. On their list they talked about OCs from a fandom and clearly stated romance was a must. So I tell them my rule list clearly stated I don't RP fandoms or romance. I don't care if they use an OC they made in a fandom but they shouldn't expect me to go and by a bunch of DVDs and watch the show. And no romance.

"Well, I need romance or it's boring."
"Not doing romance. Sorry, we aren't compatible."
"I just need a little romance."

I just stopped replying their, I'm not about to try to figure out what a little romance is.

Ah, wow. That sounds terrible and romance, a must? I don't mind it but a must? Nope. They were trying to push the romance hard on you. I guess they thought you might give in after a while. Yikes.
Yeah, fandoms are a no go for me too. Even with original characters, when I did do the occasional fandom, the story always shifted to the source material which I didn't follow and of course the other person would get upset.

 

[Jannah]

This one is not bugging me today in particular, but it's a general thing I've come across that annoys me: people putting up search threads and not giving any sort of suggestions to which genres of RP they like. It's usually followed by "I'll RP anything, just message me" because when I go to message them they clearly have no interest in the idea I present. Clearly they're not up to RPing anything.

 

[CecilDMMasters]

Ah, wow. That sounds terrible and romance, a must? I don't mind it but a must? Nope. They were trying to push the romance hard on you. I guess they thought you might give in after a while. Yikes.
Yeah, fandoms are a no go for me too. Even with original characters, when I did do the occasional fandom, the story always shifted to the source material which I didn't follow and of course the other person would get upset.

yeah, I've tried being okay with people using OCs they made up for fandoms, but you are right about many getting mad when you don't follow the source material. It can get pretty annoying pretty fast. Especially when it leaks OOC as them being mad you aren't getting into the fandom. And I'm not going to lie. I'm that annoying friend that more and more often looses interest in somebodies favorite show after a few episodes. If I have to binge watch a show that isn't catching my interest then, well, the RP broke the needs to be fun for both people rule.

And that is a reoccurring theme on DA. Thinking people will not want to end an RP and slipping stuff in or harassing people with conflicting rules thinking they are desperate. I've had a number of RPs end before they start when after a long discussion and pretending they agree to a rule suddenly slipping in last minute "Oh, by the way. My character has a foot obsession, don't get triggered if your character wakes to them licking their feet."

 

[Becker]

So I can imagine I'm not the only here that detests that old fantasy trope of Dwarves disliking and being overall hostile to other races (especially the pointy-eared kind). There's always that one Dwarf character who's only defining traits is being grumpy, distrustful and extremely predictable (usually entirely hostile) when it comes to interacting with other members of the party. On the flip side, I am also sick and tired of Elvish characters typically being tree-loving, all-high-and-mighty, elitist and borderline unbearable to cope with for any length of time.

Now this is just my observation and opinion so i'm not claiming this is everyone - alot of folk look to the hostilities between the Dwarves and Elves in the Lord of the Rings books/films and so it's become such a main-stream trope that it has branched out to almost every-other fantasy RP that I had taken part in. Whilst I completely understand that having some back-lore linking two species together shouldn't always be happy memories and rainbows, I feel that focusing on a singular event or difference of opinion that brings two species at odds with one another can be just as frustrating for the rest of the party.

Yes, people make decisions that upset others.. But that shouldn't mean an entire kingdom despises another for XYZ reasons.. Every single character is unique in their personality and views of the world, would it be so hard as to come across a Dwarf that does not mind the company of a Elf? - Or a Elf that finds conversations with a Dwarf to be as 'everyday' as speaking to a Human or another Elf? No sudden jumping to conclusions as to the other's intentions or pulling a reason to distrust the other without any justification other than a bit of history.. Would it be that difficult to not have these tropes in almost every fantasy RP?

 

[Becker]

Hi, it's me again.. with another rant

Characters in group RPs that have their own NPC party (Which are obviously going to be completely biased) - Congratulations, no-one wants to have a conversation with you now because they don't want to be completely over-ruled by some loyal body-guard that acts all "You could be a threat to the Prince/Princess. State your intentions!" Seriously, you have a party of characters to help out.. you don't need a escort of 6 heavily armoured knights to go to a Inn and ask around about the Goblin bounties available...

 

[Srale]

For me it's when people make things to hyperrealistic or even unrealistic for the RP event going on but really realistic for real life kinda thing.

I also hate it when people make OP characters. I think it's a general, but one time I was playing as a serial killer in an rp and had spent 2 weeks of rp preparing for a confrontation and it was ruined because the guy i was fighting refused to die. He claimed his armor was impenetrable from my guns(Slug shotgun point blanc range but hey whatever. 3 times by the way.)

 

[Delinquent]

I hate when GM's answer questions like "what's the limit on powers/abilities" with "as long as it isn't overpowered it's fine". That tells me fuck all what the actual limit is because contrary to popular belief, overpowered is a very subjective term and what is and isn't overpowered can shift massively from one setting to another.

It's like being asked "how often do I have to post" and respond with "enough".

 

[Jannah]

I hate when GM's answer questions like "what's the limit on powers/abilities" with "as long as it isn't overpowered it's fine". That tells me fuck all what the actual limit is because contrary to popular belief, overpowered is a very subjective term and what is and isn't overpowered can shift massively from one setting to another.

It's like being asked "how often do I have to post" and respond with "enough".

What is overpowered very much depends on the universe in question. That being said, I'll judge on a case by case basis. Like, if I think someone's character concept is too overpowered for the universe then I'll say so.

 

[BlackoutThieving]

When GM's repeatedly post one- or two-liners. Like, dude, you're setting the scene here. Also, people who refuse to get their shit kicked in every once in a while in roleplays.

 

[Crayons]

Scenes composed entirely of male rpers playing female characters who are all prostitutes/ex prostitutes/nymphomaniacs/seductresses all flirting with and/or having sexy tiems together. It's so fetishistic. Not to kink-shame but seriously, it's the utter lack of thought put into the characters beyond "omg sexy womanz"

 

[Tove]

Scenes composed entirely of male rpers playing female characters who are all prostitutes/ex prostitutes/nymphomaniacs/seductresses all flirting with and/or having sexy tiems together. It's so fetishistic. Not to kink-shame but seriously, it's the utter lack of thought put into the characters beyond "omg sexy womanz"

Good grief.

 

[Becker]

Scenes composed entirely of male rpers playing female characters who are all prostitutes/ex prostitutes/nymphomaniacs/seductresses all flirting with and/or having sexy tiems together. It's so fetishistic. Not to kink-shame but seriously, it's the utter lack of thought put into the characters beyond "omg sexy womanz"

Edit: I once joined a Sci-Fi D&D game that a few friends of mine were playing through. The one female in the group had very high charisma and thus frequently managed to talk/flirt her want out of trouble and saving the team from certain death. As with everything, there were consequences for her good looks and flirty charms ~ Whenever she took a hit in combat, she could persuade a nearby foe (or friend) to make the saving dive into the line of fire to protect her.

Naturally she had the entire group under her spell, until my character somehow managed to roll to not also be controlled by what was basically a succubus ~ As with everything, there were consequences..

The group were convinced my character was gay and thus never wanted to be alone with him at any time. What made things worse was that he was the group's primary medic thus they avoided seeking medical attention since they didn't want to risk contracting "The gay".

¯\_(ツ)_/¯​

 

[Tove]

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Edit: I once joined a Sci-Fi D&D game that a few friends of mine were playing through. The one female in the group had very high charisma and thus frequently managed to talk/flirt her want out of trouble and saving the team from certain death. As with everything, there were consequences for her good looks and flirty charms ~ Whenever she took a hit in combat, she could persuade a nearby foe (or friend) to make the saving dive into the line of fire to protect her.

Naturally she had the entire group under her spell, until my character somehow managed to roll to not also be controlled by what was basically a succubus ~ As with everything, there were consequences..

The group were convinced my character was gay and thus never wanted to be alone with him at any time. What made things worse was that he was the group's primary medic thus they avoided seeking medical attention since they didn't want to risk contracting "The gay".

¯\_(ツ)_/¯​

Just......wow.

 

[Crayons]

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Edit: I once joined a Sci-Fi D&D game that a few friends of mine were playing through. The one female in the group had very high charisma and thus frequently managed to talk/flirt her want out of trouble and saving the team from certain death. As with everything, there were consequences for her good looks and flirty charms ~ Whenever she took a hit in combat, she could persuade a nearby foe (or friend) to make the saving dive into the line of fire to protect her.

Naturally she had the entire group under her spell, until my character somehow managed to roll to not also be controlled by what was basically a succubus ~ As with everything, there were consequences..

The group were convinced my character was gay and thus never wanted to be alone with him at any time. What made things worse was that he was the group's primary medic thus they avoided seeking medical attention since they didn't want to risk contracting "The gay".

¯\_(ツ)_/¯​

Man, those players were jerks. I hope you've gone separate ways since then.

Also I kinda hope all their characters died because they wouldn't take medical assistance from your character.

 

[Becker]

Man, those players were jerks. I hope you've gone separate ways since then.

Also I kinda hope all their characters died because they wouldn't take medical assistance from your character.

In all honesty, it's the kind of humor my friends and I have that keeps us together no matter the subject at hand. They know I'm openly gay and so having my characters turn out gay has become a bit of a recurring joke amongst many of things that makes us all laugh. - The only character in the group unaffected by the beautiful woman's charms? Gay.. definitely gay..

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[Sorin_Sunchild]

I've been rping for a while so I have a few pet peeves, well, top five:
1) I only want to do smut! (Why I gravitate towards places that don't allow it...) Like it's okay if you do smut, eventually get there, or like it, but an rp that's just writing out a sexual fantasy? Pass. The same can be said when Shipping is the end goal and has to 100% be included. I don't mind shipping. A lot of the time, I don't mind having it happen in an rp not specified for it, on a slow-burn/gradually because our characters get to know each other. But when it's the end goal and after that, only fluff (or the above)? Not my cup of tea.

2) When your partner seems to be actively out to kill your character or their own? Maybe they're playing a villain, or maybe even not, but for some reason they like putting you in a lot of danger without rest...ditto for partners that can't keep still for more than two replies without throwing something in that puts them in danger and requires you to save them. Sometimes they bend the reality of the very universe you're roleplaying in to make stuff happen without your permission to get weird first. Drama is good but, I don't feel like we're developing here...especially when a lot of god-modding and deciding what your character does and says about the danger slides in.

3) During the rp, or in requests etc the person keeps throwing hate towards a certain canon fandom character or character type/gender etc. Like they just hate that character so much. Usually it's a canon love interest that opposes the rpers fave ship. They always find a way to bring the hated one into a conversation and rp just to hate on it. Just...let it go.

4) People who don't reply unless you basically have a four paragraph starter ready to go right away, or bug you to write the starter then ghost you. Like you didn't want to give ideas and talk to me, so I had to make it all up, and now it's not good enough? At least tell me and we can work on it...

5) Weird gender rules. Like: 'I play this canon male, but as a female, because I'm a girl but I also like this character.' Then just be them as they are? It's roleplaying, I'm not going to actually think you're a boy or criticise you for how you portray men or something...I understand everyone has their comfort zone and I will never force someone out of it, but I personally get tired of always playing the guy if my fave characters aren't guys or an OC of mine is a girl and I want MxM as well as FxF relationships. Same with people just really against rping with a trans or non-binary character and will change the characters gender whether they're the one playing the character or not. Like,was that such a big deal you had to change it? Kinda disrespectful...

 

[MidsummerNightmare]

I just experienced this earlier. You see, I was just minding my own business, finishing a character sheet for a roleplay. Then a small, red number one popped up at the corner of my screen, notifying me that I just got an alert. So naturally, I opened the tab to take a quick peek of what alerted me. Someone liked one of my posts, that's very cool. So I clicked the alert symbol again, you know just to close the tab that I just opened.

And then it happened. After I clicked it, that tiny, little, blue-lined, bell-shaped fork took me to another webpage for the alerts.

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At first I thought it was all well and good, cause my writings were just automatically saved in the box as a draft. So I navigated back, scrolled down to the reply box, and what did I find?

Spoiler: What did I find?

And then I realized I wasn't normally writing my post inside the reply box, but was actually editing a character sheet I sent days back.

And EDITS. DO. NOT. SAVE. AS. DRAFTS.

So yeah, today I didn't save the character sheet that I edited for the past hour, and I didn't save myself from an emotional breakdown either.

Always save your writings friends, save a draft, save a life

 

[Tove]

In a roleplay galaxy long long ago when I did participate in group roleplays....

Character sheet for another player's character explicitly says said character is a doctor, has treated patients, has saved lives, has all the credentials of a medical professional, knowledgeable about medicinal herbs, poisons, etc.
Player of the doctor character in question creates a situation in the roleplay where all the other characters including my own are wounded. The doctor character does nothing to treat them and when asked whether the player would realistically have their character do their job the player responded by saying "I don't know how to make her help them."

So, my annoyance is when some people give characters certain jobs but don't do at least some research on what the job involves. A doctor that can't treat a patient, a cop that doesn't know the law...honestly.

 

[zippy]

I just experienced this earlier. You see, I was just minding my own business, finishing a character sheet for a roleplay. Then a small, red number one popped up at the corner of my screen, notifying me that I just got an alert. So naturally, I opened the tab to take a quick peek of what alerted me. Someone liked one of my posts, that's very cool. So I clicked the alert symbol again, you know just to close the tab that I just opened.

And then it happened. After I clicked it, that tiny, little, blue-lined, bell-shaped fork took me to another webpage for the alerts.

Spoiler: surprise.jpg

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At first I thought it was all well and good, cause my writings were just automatically saved in the box as a draft. So I navigated back, scrolled down to the reply box, and what did I find?

Spoiler: What did I find?

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And then I realized I wasn't normally writing my post inside the reply box, but was actually editing a character sheet I sent days back.

And EDITS. DO. NOT. SAVE. AS. DRAFTS.

So yeah, today I didn't save the character sheet that I edited for the past hour, and I didn't save myself from an emotional breakdown either.

Always save your writings friends, save a draft, save a life

I would stupidly do the same. Edit the character sheet instead of typing it in the reply box. Of course, it worked for me since I'd sooner open a new tab than click something new on the screen I was on. One small problem. My computer was old, shit and blue screened

all

the

time.

I lost several characters and often the muse with it from making the same mistake over and over and over again. Did I change my ways?


....Nah I bought a new computer LOL

 

[Crayons]

In a roleplay galaxy long long ago when I did participate in group roleplays....

Character sheet for another player's character explicitly says said character is a doctor, has treated patients, has saved lives, has all the credentials of a medical professional, knowledgeable about medicinal herbs, poisons, etc.
Player of the doctor character in question creates a situation in the roleplay where all the other characters including my own are wounded. The doctor character does nothing to treat them and when asked whether the player would realistically have their character do their job the player responded by saying "I don't know how to make her help them."

So, my annoyance is when some people give characters certain jobs but don't do at least some research on what the job involves. A doctor that can't treat a patient, a cop that doesn't know the law...honestly.

Just fricking google first aid techniques, it's not hard. XDDDD depending on the setting you can get away with all kinds of stuff as medical treatment, there's really no excuse for that kind of thing.