Experiences Whats making you angry today? Rp pet peeves

[Inno]

People who tell me, when we partner up, they want to improve their writing, cool-all for that- nothing wrong with helping one another, then get angry at me for not only writing a lot but putting detail in my writing while at the same time trying to make me guilty for doing so.

Don't get mad at me because you skipped the important details in my request thread.

 

[Murdergurl]

People who tell me, when we partner up, they want to improve their writing, cool-all for that- nothing wrong with helping one another, then get angry at me for not only writing a lot but putting detail in my writing while at the same time trying to make me guilty for doing so.

Don't get mad at me because you skipped the important details in my request thread.

Yeah, I've been told in at least three (that I remember) Discord groups that I should just "go write by myself" or "Write a book" or We don't do that here" because I drop posts in detailed multi-para form. I've learned the hard way that RP servers on Discord are generally not a friendly place for "lit" writers.

 

[Gato Meowleone]

Yeah still grinds my gears that I tried to be engaging only to have my rps go nowhere or ignored whenever I posted an ad. Yeah one of the reasons I left..

 

[saniachan]

Too much brain dumping from my side.

Don't get me wrong, though. I love reading OOC convos (including people's random theories of the RP-verse) and sometimes getting involved in it. But the random theories part can be pretty annoying if I randomly come up with them. Like, a lot of them, hence the need to brain dump.

 

[Inno]

Yeah, I've been told in at least three (that I remember) Discord groups that I should just "go write by myself" or "Write a book" or We don't do that here" because I drop posts in detailed multi-para form. I've learned the hard way that RP servers on Discord are generally not a friendly place for "lit" writers.

That's messed up. And that's why I won't bother with Discord.

 

[Kaisar]

Having ideas that are beyond my skill level to write and do justice to. Or at least, they feel that way.

 

[Comicwolf]

When you get a message but its not for a intrest in rping or its for a rp you dont want to play in

 

[Murdergurl]

Having ideas that are beyond my skill level to write and do justice to. Or at least, they feel that way.

I'll follow this with:

Having ideas that I'm more than capable of doing, but just not having the time or motivation to see them through.

 

[Murdergurl]

That's messed up. And that's why I won't bother with Discord.

I really dont care for Discord, But tbh it's kind of impossible for me to find certain fandoms for RP anywhere else. Like, Warhammer 40k, for instance. Pretty much impossible to try to get that going on a general RP forum. You pretty much HAVE to get on Discord to find Warhammer Groups. I've yet to find them anywhere else. Even on RP forums that are geared specifically for Sci-fi stuff.

 

[MysticFaerieQueen]

Not sure if it sounds mean but I find it frustrating when a non English speaker joins an rp. Sometimes the posts do not make sense because their grammar is off. So not only it's confusing to rp with them. But it's difficult to communicate with them ooc as well. I mean I get it, maybe their using roleplay as a way to get better at the language. But dealing with language barriers is so irritating.

 

[Syntra]

Not sure if it sounds mean but I find it frustrating when a non English speaker joins an rp. Sometimes the posts do not make sense because their grammar is off. So not only it's confusing to rp with them. But it's difficult to communicate with them ooc as well. I mean I get it, maybe their using roleplay as a way to get better at the language. But dealing with language barriers is so irritating.

I mean... yeah, this does come across as mean, and also short-sighted. The fact is, when a fluent non-native speaker joins an rp, you have no way of knowing they aren't a native in the first place because they just sound normal. I am a non-native speaker as well and I know for a fact that I am a lot better at grammar/spelling than many native speakers. So, you essentially judge a whole group of people with vastly different abilities and only take into account the least talented members.

I will say it's irritating when your partner can't type, but tbh the bad experiences I've had were mostly with natives who just write what they hear (which, often enough, isn't what you're supposed to write in English.) But I digress.

 

[MysticFaerieQueen]

Sorry if that was unfriendly. I didn't mean to.

 

[Syntra]

Sorry if that was unfriendly. I didn't mean to.

It's fine! Appreciate the apology. This is just a misconception that pops up relatively often and so it grinds my gears.

 

[Inno]

Not sure if it sounds mean but I find it frustrating when a non English speaker joins an rp. Sometimes the posts do not make sense because their grammar is off. So not only it's confusing to rp with them. But it's difficult to communicate with them ooc as well. I mean I get it, maybe their using roleplay as a way to get better at the language. But dealing with language barriers is so irritating.

I mean, you are entitled to feel how you do but that does sound insensitive. Roleplayers come from all walks of life and from all over the world so to judge them for, what you consider, to not be fluent in English is not good at all. To be honest, how would you know who is who actually.
I've seen plenty of native speakers that you need a dictionary to translate what they've typed but that's something else entirely. A bit of empathy and patience goes a long way.

 

[Wandering Fae]

This isn't just an issue I have in RP but it's been present. Bi-erasure. I am so sick of people not understanding the fact that my characters are bisexual, no she is not a lesbian just because she is currently dating a girl, no she is no heterosexual because she is currently interested in a boy, no he is not gay because he is currently in a relationship with a guy, they are still Bi, they do not need to be in a poly relationship with both genders at the same time to be Bi. Then you have people who will be up in arms if you even suggest that someone in a same-sex relationship is Bi and it's always the excuse of well people can discover their sexualities later in life, they may not have known they were homosexual before which okay fair that is an occurrence that happens bu why are you so hostile about the idea that they might be Bi, like the very idea is insulting and offensive?

 

[Murdergurl]

Not sure if it sounds mean but I find it frustrating when a non English speaker joins an rp. Sometimes the posts do not make sense because their grammar is off. So not only it's confusing to rp with them. But it's difficult to communicate with them ooc as well. I mean I get it, maybe their using roleplay as a way to get better at the language. But dealing with language barriers is so irritating.

you wanna know something interesting though? Some of the BEST 1x1 roleplays I've been in have been with a non-native English speaker. Two of them were Swedes, and I can't remember where the other one was from, but I wanna say it was Brazil? Either way, their English was pretty damn good. If anything, they avoided all the slang that typically gets used by native speakers.
While I have seen the example stated in plenty where the non-English speaker is just a lot of extra steps for everyone, I can also say that excellent roleplayers exists that hail from the same pool.

 

[Melpomene]

That mag be true, but the issue I'm talking about has nothing to do with Pansexual it has to do with people who insist that your characters are sticky gay or strictly straight depending on who they are dating or are interested in at that very moment and take issue when you even suggest that they are Bi and no straight or gay. Surprisingly no one has ever bugged me about my characters being Pan instead of Bi.

Bi-erasure is a fucking struggle. As someone who is bi myself and by myself I often like to include bi sexuality in my characters. And the amount of people who seem to... forget they are bisexual based on who they are dating is just maddening.

Like yes she dates a woman and then a man. That does not mean her "gay period" was just a phase and she went on to be straight. No, she is still bi. And just because he once dated a woman and then went on to date a man doesn't mean he 'found himself' he just happens to like both. Like please people. Let the little bi gremlins I make exist without their sexuality being questioned.

 

[Wandering Fae]

Bi-erasure is a fucking struggle. As someone who is bi myself and by myself I often like to include bi sexuality in my characters. And the amount of people who seem to... forget they are bisexual based on who they are dating is just maddening.

Like yes she dates a woman and then a man. That does not mean her "gay period" was just a phase and she went on to be straight. No, she is still bi. And just because he once dated a woman and then went on to date a man doesn't mean he 'found himself' he just happens to like both. Like please people. Let the little bi gremlins I make exist without their sexuality being questioned.

Truuue! People swear up and down that because my character is currently dating someone of the same gender as them that it means they've discovered their true sexuality "Uh, no they are still attracted to the opposite gender as well they just vibe more with this person right now who just so happens to be the same gender as them. There is a difference between love an attraction, people.

 

[saniachan]

This isn't just an issue I have in RP but it's been present. Bi-erasure. I am so sick of people not understanding the fact that my characters are bisexual, no she is not a lesbian just because she is currently dating a girl, no she is no heterosexual because she is currently interested in a boy, no he is not gay because he is currently in a relationship with a guy, they are still Bi, they do not need to be in a poly relationship with both genders at the same time to be Bi. Then you have people who will be up in arms if you even suggest that someone in a same-sex relationship is Bi and it's always the excuse of well people can discover their sexualities later in life, they may not have known they were homosexual before which okay fair that is an occurrence that happens bu why are you so hostile about the idea that they might be Bi, like the very idea is insulting and offensive?

And that, folks, is why I don't include sexualities in my CSes unless required by the GM. And even then, I tend to make it either ace or "<insert sexuality here> but currently not interested in romance" with the latter implying that I don't know how things are gonna be once the RP starts. Do you (everyone reading this) think it'll be confusing if I say that a character is "bi but currently not interested in romance"?

 

[Merciless Medic]

Do you (everyone reading this) think it'll be confusing if I say that a character is "bi but currently not interested in romance"?

Lol, that's not confusing, that's completely normal. Characters don't need to date or have a date. XD Like, I have a character in another RP who is bi, but he's a megalomaniac scientist and he is only interested in being the top dog. Yes, he can be attracted to both genders, but it's likely that he won't keep any PC alive lol. And romance is only a stepping stone to get where he wants to be XD at least he doesn't have to fake being attracted to someone if they are actually attractive in his eyes lol.

But some people don't even have to have a reason to not be interested in romance, but they can still have interest in people.

Attraction & Interest =/= Romanceable XD

I don't know why some people don't know that.

 

[nerdy tangents]

And that, folks, is why I don't include sexualities in my CSes unless required by the GM. And even then, I tend to make it either ace or "<insert sexuality here> but currently not interested in romance" with the latter implying that I don't know how things are gonna be once the RP starts. Do you (everyone reading this) think it'll be confusing if I say that a character is "bi but currently not interested in romance"?

No. One because I am ace so I am very aware this is a big difference between someone who is not interested in romance (right now) and someone who is not interested in romance (at all).


**admittedly that’s actually aro or aromantic, ace or asexual just means you aren’t physically attracted to anyone not that you can’t be romantically interested in anyone**

But to circle back Two :

Straight people aren’t straight because their in a relationship. Their not straight because their actively having sex or being physically affectionate. They are straight because they find the opposite gender physically or romantically attractive.

You don’t stop being straight when you are no longer dating someone. Or their would be a hell of a lot more ace representation because literally everyone on the planet would be ace or aro for some period of their life.

So if it sounds stupid when you put straight in the sentence it sounds just as stupid when you put a different sexuality into the sentence.

(( saniachan not saying you needed any of that but for the lurkers. Cuz I have also had people act like someone becomes some sex crazed alien the second they dare to be anything other then straight. Which as an aro/ace is admittedly kinda funny. Like my friend you have entirely missed the point. ))

 

[Wandering Fae]

And that, folks, is why I don't include sexualities in my CSes unless required by the GM. And even then, I tend to make it either ace or "<insert sexuality here> but currently not interested in romance" with the latter implying that I don't know how things are gonna be once the RP starts. Do you (everyone reading this) think it'll be confusing if I say that a character is "bi but currently not interested in romance"?

Not at all, you be attracted to a certain gender or genders and not be interested on romance. I was genuinely not interested in romance until I was 4 years in to being an adult.

 

[Daisie]

Back on topic, y'all!

I think one of my pet peeves is when people don't share my kind of passion for storytelling. Which isn't anyone's fault, lol!

I find it difficult to find other people who will go as in depth as I do, or who want to talk about the latest progressions as incessantly as I do. To be fair this is an issue with more than just RP, hah.

 

[Melpomene]

Back on topic, y'all!

I think one of my pet peeves is when people don't share my kind of passion for storytelling. Which isn't anyone's fault, lol!

I find it difficult to find other people who will go as in depth as I do, or who want to talk about the latest progressions as incessantly as I do. To be fair this is an issue with more than just RP, hah.

OK BUT SAME.

I just get so excited writing my stories alright I like to talk people's ears off about the shit that's going down.

 

[Daisie]

OK BUT SAME.

I just get so excited writing my stories alright I like to talk people's ears off about the shit that's going down.

I must reiterate.
ONE DAY
You and I will RP

But yeah seriously. How am I supposed to just not talk about the fact that character A is heartbroken by character B and desperately making sweeping changee to improve their relationship? Or that character C is finally starting to not hate character D, and instead see him as an older brother type deal??
I can't just hold this in, man!