I don't see how this would be too controversial. While I won't refuse to RP with male writers, I run into a lot of male 1x1 roleplayers that seem to think they are just elaborate (or not so elaborate depending on the dude) cybersex. More often than not, I see them insistent on their RP partner being female in real life as well because of that. I guess that's just one possibility though and you could be talking about something else completely lolMale as in they are male. But before you get offended this is subjective and by no means a gauge for how anyone else should experience the RP community. I've simply been RPing for 18+ years and consistently have very, very unpleasant and negative experiences with male roleplayers that has shaped my preferences. So I no longer RP with male partners.
I will occasionally RP with them in a group setting, if it's an open world/sandbox RP or at my D&D table. Otherwise I build groups with only female players so I can have a safe, comfortable and pleasant environment.
Because you wouldn’t get offended if it was for the same or similar reason.I was pretty offended too, but likely for a different reason. Why is it okay to say "I don't want to role play with guys" and yet if you said that about anyone else it's be more of an issue?
Basically what @middleagedgeek said.I was pretty offended too, but likely for a different reason. Why is it okay to say "I don't want to role play with guys" and yet if you said that about anyone else it's be more of an issue?
Tbh I’d rather the thread looked neat and organized than having gifs and bbcode give me a seizure when I click on a thread titleI nope out of search threads that are not stylistically or aesthetically pleasing. People who don’t adhere to my idea of what “looks” good usually end up being people who I don’t mesh well with in general.
Style and aesthetics doesn’t necessarily mean gifs and bbcode. Just, something. Some sort of organization. Separate your headers. Make the body text look different. Do... Something to make it look like you’ve put actual effort into creating the thread.Tbh I’d rather the thread looked neat and organized than having gifs and bbcode give me a seizure when I click on a thread title
I get this deep down in my soul. There is something about a "threw text in box" compared to a little organization.I nope out of search threads that are not stylistically or aesthetically pleasing. People who don’t adhere to my idea of what “looks” good usually end up being people who I don’t mesh well with in general.
Yeah unless gender division is in the actual plot as relevant (i.e. the magical abilities of the roleplay world only work if you have a male & female bonded together) than it shouldn't matter what genders are present. Especially since people can play characters that aren't heterosexual anyway so it wouldn't even necessarily lead to a romance in the first place.When the GM insist on there being an equal number of male and female characters, it just screams "forced romance".
one time I joined an RP, and I planned to make a lesbian character but all the girls were straight so I was just "):"That's what always get's me; when people say "it's a romance RP so it needs equal genders", you can tell they didn't count on people playing a character that wasn't heterosexual
You could have still made your character a lesbian. It’s not like being sexually attracted to women prevents you from dating men. Or being sexually attracted to men prevents you from dating women.one time I joined an RP, and I planned to make a lesbian character but all the girls were straight so I was just "):"
I'm sorry, but if I'm making a homosexual character, they're homosexual for a reason and not open to dating people of the opposite gender for a reason. If they were bisexual, then the story would be different.You could have still made your character a lesbian. It’s not like being sexually attracted to women prevents you from dating men. Or being sexually attracted to men prevents you from dating women.
I mean there are people who aren’t sexually attracted to either gender that form lasting romantic relationships.
Which I think is my big problem wit the default assumption of heterosexuality. It tends to assume that you can only ever have romantic feelings for people whose pants you want into. And that more over if you ever find a single member of the same gender attractive than suddenly your whole sexuality has to change.
When you can absolutely date someone outside of your preferred gender. It’s why it’s called a preference. It means nine times in ten you feel X way about X gender. But just because one time you feel different doesn’t mean you have to change your whole mindset.
And that is the kind of story I want to see written. Not just cookie cutter boy likes girl / girl likes boy. But maybe a relationship where the characters actually get to really ask questions about their sexuality and how they see themselves. And if what they want is an actual romance or just the trappings of romance. Like do I really like this person or do I think I like this person because everyone says I should.
But yeah that’s my romance soapbox.
Tl:dr I leave a search thread that only has super surface level romance with no room for actual character interaction
My point is that not every person exists in that kind of ironclad binary. Maybe your character would only date one gender but that doesn’t mean every character is the same.I'm sorry, but if I'm making a homosexual character, they're homosexual for a reason and not open to dating people of the opposite gender for a reason. If they were bisexual, then the story would be different.
But no, a lesbian character would not be dating a man in a healthy relationship. She is a lesbian for a reason. People use terms like homosexual, hereterosexual, etc. to describe who they primarily wanting a both romantic and sexual relationship with. There are different terms for those who have different romantic vs sexual feelings, but when I make a lesbian character,
She is attracted to women and will not be having a relationship with men.
If I make my character in the mindset of being attracted to women, I'm not going to change it over the course of the RP unless the RP is specifically about discovering your sexuality and exploring other attractions. I'm making their sexuality known already because that's part of her character.My point is that not every person exists in that kind of ironclad binary. Maybe your character would only date one gender but that doesn’t mean every character is the same.
Sometimes you start out with one idea of your character and it evolves over the course of the roleplay due to them developing chemistry with other characters.
For that matter your character could have purely platonic relationships with other characters as well.
Just because none of the other characters say their romantic prospects in the CS doesn’t mean you shouldn’t still give it a shot.
To be honest I don’t know why people think making it unreadable is nice aesthetics.Anything with small font, nice ~aesthetics~ but I'd like to be able to read your content
I’m the exact opposite with romance. I tend to gravitate towards character driven romance. As no matter what the plot says if I don’t feel like the characters have chemistry than the romance is forced.Ohhh there are a few things that are on my short-list that I look out for:
> Spelling/grammar mistakes in the post. Obviously not just a minor slip up, but if there are multiple I'm out.
> No information about the type of roleplayer they are (post length and average expectation for replies mainly)
> Long laundry list of pairings vs outlining basic plots they're interested in.
I'm not keen on pure romance roleplays that aren't plot driven first, so seeing a thread that just lists a fandom and the ships for it is a huge turn-off for me. This also normally applies to basic lists like 'angel x demon' since those usually lead to gratuitous romances with no substance as well. Sometimes if the concept of the pairing is unique or there's a little plot blurb to go with it this doesn't chase me away, but normally it does. In these cases I will go through the users post history to see if I can find examples of other roleplays so I can make a better determination about whether we'd be a good fit.
Beyond those three things I'm usually willing to overlook other things. If the plot they're looking for is good then things like coding or organization don't bother me, though it is a bonus to have an attractive search thread.
Obviously if its unreadable or in a strange font I'm also unlikely to stick around, but sometimes if their plot idea is good and their other posts aren't done in the same weird style I'll still give 'em a shot.