Viewpoint What makes you nope out of a search thread?

Mmm that last one is debatable. Personally I've seen a lot of magical 'girl' roleplays where there was a guy characters. Just in my experience.

Fair point, it really depends on the GMs vision for the setting. I would say a roleplay following historical warfare would be gender locked to men. It is up to the GM to be inclusive or not
 
Well, there are multiple potential factors for me to make me go nooope.
Firstly, I'd say, attitude.
if there's someone listing five million rules, including things like a description how my character has to be and how they'll have to act through the whole rp, giving me no space whatsoever for my own creativity and character development I'm sure to be out. That's just not how rping work, imo.

Another thing that quickly puts me off is a search thread consisting of just two or three sentences because it always gives me this bad gut feeling that the way the rper presents themselves in the thread is also the way they write in the rp. And I'm just not a person who likes to write with someone who puts zero effort into their posts. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind if you don't like to do some fancy coding to make everything look super awesome (or over), that's not what matters for me- but the bare writing.
Same goes for character sheets, honestly. I don't mind short ones, basic ones, that's fine. But telling me that you ain't doing any CS at all just makes my red flag pop up.

Also, although I absolutely don't mind people doing it if it's their cup of tea, I'm out when someone asks for sub and dom. Just nah. Not my thing, just as master-slave stuff or huge age gaps including minors. Those are just things I generally can't enjoy rping ^^"
 
Someone who isn't open to queer characters/pairings. Not only are the vast majority of my characters queer, but I am as well, and I'm very uncomfy with someone who says "I play mxf ONLY" because then I have no clue if they'll be chill with my trans character and I'm too gay and anxious(ganxious) to ask about that!

There's a difference between that and like "I'd prefer this plot to be mxf" because in the latter, espec if they have other plots in the thread open to mxm or fxf or nbxany, I know that it's just a plot thing and not a homophobe thing.
 
When an op writes the word LUL at any point of the conversation. That person is dead to me afterwards.
LUL
Someone who isn't open to queer characters/pairings. Not only are the vast majority of my characters queer, but I am as well, and I'm very uncomfy with someone who says "I play mxf ONLY" because then I have no clue if they'll be chill with my trans character and I'm too gay and anxious(ganxious) to ask about that!

There's a difference between that and like "I'd prefer this plot to be mxf" because in the latter, espec if they have other plots in the thread open to mxm or fxf or nbxany, I know that it's just a plot thing and not a homophobe thing.
What if I'm not open to any pairings? *rimshot for a joke that didn't deserve one of any kind*
 
Someone who isn't open to queer characters/pairings. Not only are the vast majority of my characters queer, but I am as well, and I'm very uncomfy with someone who says "I play mxf ONLY" because then I have no clue if they'll be chill with my trans character and I'm too gay and anxious(ganxious) to ask about that!

There's a difference between that and like "I'd prefer this plot to be mxf" because in the latter, espec if they have other plots in the thread open to mxm or fxf or nbxany, I know that it's just a plot thing and not a homophobe thing.
It doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with homophobia. It’s the same thing as liking one genre and not caring for another genre. I like medieval fantasy but I don’t like futuristic space-travel sci-fi.

It’s the same thing for pairings - tbh, I don’t often like romantic pairings in the first place (I like platonic stuff), but if I’m going to do romance, I’d prefer it to be mxf.

It’s absolutely nothing against you, your sexuality, or your character’s sexuality - it’s just a preference. It’s totally okay if you don’t want to RP with those people, because again, it’s your preference and that’s fine :) But it doesn’t mean they’re homophobic or anything
 
It doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with homophobia. It’s the same thing as liking one genre and not caring for another genre. I like medieval fantasy but I don’t like futuristic space-travel sci-fi.

It’s the same thing for pairings - tbh, I don’t often like romantic pairings in the first place (I like platonic stuff), but if I’m going to do romance, I’d prefer it to be mxf.

It’s absolutely nothing against you, your sexuality, or your character’s sexuality - it’s just a preference. It’s totally okay if you don’t want to RP with those people, because again, it’s your preference and that’s fine :) But it doesn’t mean they’re homophobic or anything

Yeah no, I get that, and if, say, you had a search thread and said only mxf I'd be chill with it because now I know that it's only your preference. But the issue with most of them is that I don't know whoever's behind the thread and have no way of knowing if it's a homophobia thing or not with them, y'know?
 
Yeah no, I get that, and if, say, you had a search thread and said only mxf I'd be chill with it because now I know that it's only your preference. But the issue with most of them is that I don't know whoever's behind the thread and have no way of knowing if it's a homophobia thing or not with them, y'know?

I honestly don't think that should even be an issue. I personally used to RP on a site where everyone was pretty much a girl and they didn't feel comfortable (or whatever) trying to portray a male character so I usually got "typecasted" for that role because I've been a tomboy for along as anyone can remember. So I've been able to adapt and at one point someone who didn't know me actually thought I was a guy because of how well I can play one online.
When it comes to RPing I don't care who/what you are in real life. My beliefs may be very different from yours, but that's the wonderful thing about playing roles and characters, it doesn't matter. If someone puts up MxF only my first instinct is to think that person is limited on their ability/comfort zone of what they can portray, I never jump to thinking about their belief systems. I don't believe anyone posting that they only do MxF pairing is homophobic. (btw I hate that word but that's just cause of my personal beliefs) I honestly think it's because their comfort zone is in that pairing.

That's my rant/monologue for the day!

For me, an instant Nope, is when they want someone who can post all day, everyday and you have to have perfect spelling and grammar. I've got a full time and part time job, I also have severe dyslexia. There's days I can't spell my name! I'd prefer an easygoing RP partner who understands I am human and I do F stuff up at times and I may go a week or two unable to post and then have one random day where I can post all day.
 
I don't know why I just read almost 30 pages of this but I did and I gotta say I agree with a lot of it.

Attitude is a huge factor. Why are you taking roleplay so seriously? Maybe it's just me, but I have been a hobbyist writer (and a serious writer) most all of my life and Roleplaying is just something that I do to stay sharp and keep my creativity flowing. I get everyone has rules and regulations (which should mostly come down to preference, honestly) but dear lord if you're acting like this is some kind of serious job application I'm out, dude. You don't intimidate me, you're just an asshole.
Writing examples are, I feel, a weird thing to ask for. I do understand them to a degree but also, if it's not a roleplay, my writing is personal or working on being published and I'm not sharing it with some stranger on a roleplaying website, no thanks.
Anime is a straight up no.
Roleplaying real people is extremely uncomfortable and weird and over the top and just, nah.
Lack of detail is a turn off because if I cannot figure out what you are really asking for, I just don't want to put out the effort anymore. I don't like threads that only include pairings and no real plot or drive to come up with a plot.
Speaking of pairings I hate teacher x student, master x slave , you know, fan service (essentially) bullshit that people have been doing for ages, and if I see you listing that kind of stuff I'll probably roll out. I don't mind having an idea for a pairing and they are both specific types of people, but if it reads that pornographic I usually end up dipping.
Pre-made characters is annoying to me. I'm really not sure why. I guess because I feel like I'm just being asked to play against your specific fantasy and I don't feel we worked together at all. I'm fine with people reusing characters or basing their characters off of a previous muse, but giving me a concrete character before we even ever have a plot? Gets on my last nerve.
I only play one specific type of character people are very annoying. Please be capable of variety. Otherwise you're kinda freaking me out.
You must be male IRL this goes for m/f or m/m games. And I see it a lot.... why the hell are you even concerned about what someone is in real life? This is about writing and creating not about, I dunno, dating?
CODING just gets on my nerves and it's mainly because I cannot do it, and I can't find my glasses currently and have a very hard time reading. It's nice that everyone else puts in effort to make their posts pretty but I'm an old man, so I'm good on all that haha. (This won't make me NOT roleplay with you but it's annoying people feel entitled to me putting out the same effort in a response because I can assure you, I will not)
 
CODING just gets on my nerves and it's mainly because I cannot do it, and I can't find my glasses currently and have a very hard time reading. It's nice that everyone else puts in effort to make their posts pretty but I'm an old man, so I'm good on all that haha. (This won't make me NOT roleplay with you but it's annoying people feel entitled to me putting out the same effort in
I think most people don't expect you to put in as much effort into bbcode as them.

At most, some people could be slightly annoyed if you don't put the larger portion of your cs /huge images into a spoiler to make navigation easier (assuming others are doing the same).

Personally I see it as a nice consideration when people limit the width of their post. But then again, I usually resize the browser window anyway.
 
Set roles where the key word for the character is their sexuality. Actually, just set roles in general, but especially those.

Why should I have to force my character into a mold? I can personally never make that work and it just seems so forced.

But really, if you can’t think of a personality trait and then go “Oh, LGBT is a good one!” please stop lol
 
When someone overreacts to my jokes. It's, like, dude I didn't really say something that funny. Are you trying to butter me up?
 
Reply quotas. Roleplaying is a hobby, not an obligation.
I understand being open on how often you would like replies, but when you say you must constantly reply every day, I nope the hell out.
Not only do I personally spend a lot of time on my craft, but I also have a life and times when I don't feel like writing.
Strict quotas feel limiting and pressuring.
 
Yeah if you expect multiple replies a day or even multiple replies a week I nope out.

Also people who call others lazy for not being able to post every day.

Lastly people who attack others for ghosting. It’s one thing if you don’t like it but if your search thread has an angry rant about what you think of ghosting it just turns me off. Like your going to get just go off if things don’t go your way.
 
The truthful answer is seeing a lack of compatibility and I'm gone. My checklist consists of: do they play more than one character at a time or multiple characters, do they write around where I can handle for content, do they play queer characters, do they play any gender, do they roleplay over the same locale, do they do original roleplays, are they 21+.

So basically if they match the criteria I look. A few flags are: only one character, only one gender, writes way to much for me to handle, doesn't RP in the same places or only roleplays in a specific place that I do not, fandom only. Those sort of things make me step away.

My only real INSTANTLY WALKS OUT NOPE WILL NOT if they are a male roleplayer.
 
The truthful answer is seeing a lack of compatibility and I'm gone. My checklist consists of: do they play more than one character at a time or multiple characters, do they write around where I can handle for content, do they play queer characters, do they play any gender, do they roleplay over the same locale, do they do original roleplays, are they 21+.

So basically if they match the criteria I look. A few flags are: only one character, only one gender, writes way to much for me to handle, doesn't RP in the same places or only roleplays in a specific place that I do not, fandom only. Those sort of things make me step away.

My only real INSTANTLY WALKS OUT NOPE WILL NOT if they are a male roleplayer.
Like, Male as in "they only play males" or male as in "they are male." I'm trying to gauge how offended I should be.
 
Like, Male as in "they only play males" or male as in "they are male." I'm trying to gauge how offended I should be.

Male as in they are male. But before you get offended this is subjective and by no means a gauge for how anyone else should experience the RP community. I've simply been RPing for 18+ years and consistently have very, very unpleasant and negative experiences with male roleplayers that has shaped my preferences. So I no longer RP with male partners.

I will occasionally RP with them in a group setting, if it's an open world/sandbox RP or at my D&D table. Otherwise I build groups with only female players so I can have a safe, comfortable and pleasant environment.
 
BackSet BackSet I expect they just ask outright if someone is male or female when they do 1x1.

A lot of people put that in their search thread itself or will just give the information if asked.
 

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