it's just... if you're exclusively looking for compatability there is a certain air of personal interest that goes into that. So of course jumping into a 1x1 rp with someone you've never talked to before or roleplayed with before is the greatest high stake's gamble you could make on an RP partner. You know nothing about their dynamic - personal or public. You're merely throwing yourself to the winds. Whereas if it's someone you've talked to several times over the site and have a better idea of the kind of person they are or at least the things they like... those RP relationships will probably tend to last longer - because you have more to talk about. It doesn't have to be super personal but if the two of you have a world-building synergy... probably a better chance for a successful and healthy roleplaying partnership there than someone who is bound by expectation and rules for the experience; it allows natural growth and conversation.So are you saying that you need to talk OOC and get to know your RP partner as a person? I'm not the type to do that. It's awesome if you are, I have nothing against that, but for me... All I need to know is their interests and what direction they want the RP to go in. If our likes and dislikes line up, and we have a decent storyline planned out, then we start RPing, and I don't really talk to them about stuff outside the RP unless they want to. (I'm not opposed to small talk at all, I just don't ever initiate it.)
I mean... the worst that can happen is that the RP doesn't turn out how you like, and at that point it's easy to politely tell your partner you've lost interest, then move on. In the best case scenario you'll find a fantastic RP that both of you love a lot.
As for group RPs, I don't do them since they're far too stressful and irritating for me. I've GMed and joined plenty in the past, and no matter which side I'm on (creating an RP or merely participating), I hate keeping up with them. I lack the attention span to read tons of posts that I missed during the day or so I wasn't online to keep up...
Then of course there are those group RPs that die before they can even start, and those are kinda disheartening too. For some reason, I find it less disheartening and easier to move on and find more RPs when I'm doing 1x1s?