Experiences Things that instantly make you drop an RP

[GoldenSlime]

I suppose some people would lie about their ages for privacy reasons, even if they were older than 13. I personally don't do this, I simply make it so my age isn't displayed, but I've known some people who have done this before.

Privacy reasons? Like...because someone on the internet knows how old you are....they're gonna come kidnap you?

 

[rae2nerdy]

Privacy reasons? Like...because someone on the internet knows how old you are....they're gonna come kidnap you?

or I don't need strangers knowing personal details about me because I'm a private person.

 

[GoldenSlime]

or I don't need strangers knowing personal details about me because I'm a private person.

Ok.
I'm a private person. As in like, I don't put personal information on the internet. I still put out my age cuz...a bajillion other people are the same age as me? So how does that count as a personal detail?
(Don't get defensive, it's your age, if you don't want to put it out, whatever. I couldn't care less. I'm just trying to understand why.)

 

[Svisttt]

Privacy reasons? Like...because someone on the internet knows how old you are....they're gonna come kidnap you?

Not necessarily. The people I've known to do this usually don't want their personal details floating around on the internet, for one reason or another. It might be so people don't immediately judge them for their age, or whatever. I don't know and don't really care why haha.

I've also known people who do this who are pretty paranoid due to some mental health issues they struggle with. They don't have a particularly logical reason to hide their ages, they simply get bad anxiety over it.

I don't really care what people do either way, I just figured I'd share my thoughts on it haha

 

[GoldenSlime]

Not necessarily. The people I've known to do this usually don't want their personal details floating around on the internet, for one reason or another. It might be so people don't immediately judge them for their age, or whatever. I don't know and don't really care why haha.

I've also known people who do this who are pretty paranoid due to some mental health issues they struggle with. They don't have a particularly logical reason to hide their ages, they simply get bad anxiety over it.

I don't really care what people do either way, I just figured I'd share my thoughts on it haha

Well, I can get not wanting to be judged for your age (as you could probably tell).

 

[WelcomeToHell]

I kinda hate when my partner starts controlling my character.. it just kinda ticks me off a little bit. Cause I’m sittin here like “I don’t wanna be rude and piss them off so I’m just gonna either sit here or call them out..” and my anxious self usually just sits there heh

 

[rae2nerdy]

Ok.
I'm a private person. As in like, I don't put personal information on the internet. I still put out my age cuz...a bajillion other people are the same age as me? So how does that count as a personal detail?
(Don't get defensive, it's your age, if you don't want to put it out, whatever. I couldn't care less. I'm just trying to understand why.)

Well some people feel that any identifiable information should not be shared in a public forum with strangers. It could be due to anxiety, a desire to keep their IRL self separate from their internet self, or really any of a variety of reasons.

I mean everyone has a different point in which they draw the line on what they are comfortable sharing with others. Some people are fine sharing their age, others feel it's no ones business but their own how old they are.

I don't think it's so much about being defensive it's just different people share different things. Like some people might be comfortable talking about their family members but balk at talking about their home town. Some people might be fine using their real names but feel like their age is no one's business.

Some people might prefer to use an entirely separate persona for online that keeps their real life separate and private. They might do this for work reasons, to protect their privacy, to protect the privacy of their loved ones, because their paranoid, or because they just feel it's no one's business that they're Sally Jo Smith from London Kentucky.

 

[chicachu]

One things that ticks me off a bit is when someone doesn't reply for like....a month and they answer back with 1 paragraph. I understand life gets in the way or you get bored or something, but i'd rather you drop it than do that! It's annoys me to no ends.

 

[Tarmagon]

It's not so much a drop issue, more like a stop reading the interest check and never even think about joining. Anyone who requests literate partners, but then cannot seem to understand the basic meanings of words. Grammar and spelling errors happen, no big deal, but please know the differences between words like beet and beat, all and awl, elude and allude, pleas and please. When I have to stop and puzzle out what you're trying to say in every other sentence, it's a huge red flag.

 

[Minako]

I don't usually join RP's unless I know the GM as a friend or at least one of the RPers in it, just due to me being shy as sin and not too keen on branching out and befriending others on here (nothing against the site or community, I just am kinda reserved, AND ALSO it helps to know people for me beforehand just to make it easier to have my character in it since they're more likely to interact with RPers they know) so it would take some MASSIVE OOC drama for me to randomly just drop the RP like a hat after I gave my word I'd commit to posting in it and such... Which has blessedly been quite rare...

But, man oh man, when that does happen I am gone faster than Sonic the Hedgehog sporting the bunny ears from Legend of Zelda: Majoras Mask/ Smash Bros. series...

The only exception would be if the GM or said friend dropped before I did.

 

[SavedBySept]

I'll drop a RP if you can't develop your character. Where you start shouldn't be where you end up months into our story; be a real person, grow, explore things that might be unfamiliar to your usual 'character'. Also, if you're playing multiple characters and can't be dynamic with them, don't play them. If I start easily guessing how all your characters are going to respond to every situation, I'm going to get bored of you.

 

[Hans Johann]

Most people I've played with are respectful and serious about RPing. But I strongly dislike RPs where one character goes off the rails just cause trouble. They overly annoy other players, hinder them at every junction, do random actions that don't fit with their character, etc.

Always turns me off.

 

[Clocks]

I would like to note here that I do find the age requirements based on personal comfort unreasonable under -certain- conditions and very reasonable under other conditions.

Take as an example someone, who is around 13 and someone who is around 30. When I was 13, it would have made me vastly uncomfortable to roleplay with someone who could, if they started early, be my parent. They were an adult and it would have been awkward. Now that I am 30ish myself, I would feel super uncomfortable writing with a 13 year old. Even though I feel and look young, have a band and consider myself a cool person, I would feel awful in an RP with a kid, god forbid if romantic stuff were to arise. (And I have felt this way already at 24 or so.) Whether they are 20 or 50, that is a non issue to me, just please be done with highschool. On the other hand, if two people meet, one of whom is 17 and the other 19, it would be really weird to insist on the under 18 rule, as they are basically peers. But in my experience, people of those ages usually don't insist on it.

It is rather tricky. I mean, roleplay is ment to be fun and stuff, but adults tend to be used to not to censor themselves on various stuff, because they mostly hang out with other adults, so, while the best intention might be there, it might be simply constantly uncomfortable and constantly on ones watch. Speaking as an adult roleplayer - noone wants to be the one to accidentally drop something suggestive or weird or some crude joke.
I mean, such age difference is okay if it is a group roleplay, everything is bound to be 100% non-romantic and so on, after all there is no harm in learning roleplay skills from someone more experiences in such games - but otherwise...
I mean, this magical 18 thing is a legal and cultural thing. Most people are at least open to possibility of romantic scenes in roleplays and I heard one person say something like "If you shouldn't date a person of this age, you shouldn't play-pretend such things with them either"
Besides, people do lie about their age, for example to join activities that are not ment for their age group, and if you decide to do so and join a team that roleplays NSFW - they can be in deep trouble if it comes out.

 

[MechanicalSnake]

I tend to be quite cringy about romance with minors in general tbh. Even if its just a rather innocent manga like Black Butler, it puts me off. It would put me off in a 1+1 roleplay for sure.
But as you say, it is okay in group roleplays - I am in a Star Trek group now and for a while there was a 17 year old and nobody had a problem with that, even though some of us have been adult for quite some time, some even have kids.

Also this? "If you shouldn't date a person of this age, you shouldn't play-pretend such things with them either" - tru fact

 

[annabel]

One to three liners after I write a good paragraph or two.. After this happens enough times, usually, it just feels like the other person doesn't really care either way if the rp continues anyway. Especially when I specified that I prefer a paragraph of writing, you know? But even then, I feel too bad to drop rps most of the time. I think I tend to drop them most when we're still in the discussing stage, but the other person's replies make me feel like we aren't moving forward without me deciding everything. Or like the other person just writing quick, vague one-liners like "i don't care what we rp, whatever is fine" and I have to come up with everything. It doesn't give me a good impression of how this person will be while we actually rp..

But I'm usually pretty nice and I seriously try hard to never drop rps if I can help it because I hate when it happens to me out of nowhere. But one more comment...Do people not reread what they wrote before pressing enter? Once in a while.. I'm baffled by the lack of quality, so bad that I'm not always 100% sure what they are even trying to write.

 

[memphis]

But one more comment...Do people not reread what they wrote before pressing enter? Once in a while.. I'm baffled by the lack of quality, so bad that I'm not always 100% sure what they are even trying to write.

This is an excellent point! If someone sends me a post that is too incoherent or convoluted to even understand what's going on, that's a pretty easy way to get me to drop a rp. Although it is something I'm working on, I'm not a very confrontational person, so I'm not likely to send the person another message like "hey, wtf" when they send me a reply that is just completely unintelligible. If there is a small misunderstanding or just one detail I'm not sure about in an otherwise perfectly fine reply, however, I have no qualms in asking for clarification.

 

[annabel]

This is an excellent point! If someone sends me a post that is too incoherent or convoluted to even understand what's going on, that's a pretty easy way to get me to drop a rp. Although it is something I'm working on, I'm not a very confrontational person, so I'm not likely to send the person another message like "hey, wtf" when they send me a reply that is just completely unintelligible. If there is a small misunderstanding or just one detail I'm not sure about in an otherwise perfectly fine reply, however, I have no qualms in asking for clarification.

Yeah, I'm the same way, not very confrontational myself. Although honestly, if it's really that incoherent, I'm not sure what messaging the person is going to change in the long run, you know? I wouldn't want to have to ask clarification after every bloody post lol. That would just be too much trouble than it's worth heh.

 

[salty_ moustachio]

One to three liners after I write a good paragraph or two..

Three lines minimum. One line?!! I'd drop instantly if that was the case!

 

[Wert]

1. When a roleplay I'm interested in is held on discord, but this isn't stated in the interest check. I don't like roleplaying on discord. So, it's a turn off for me when the gm suddenly posts "The discord is ready!", or something along those lines.
2. When the text is unreadable either because of colors, font type, or the size. Gray font on a white background is terrible. As well as bright, burn-your-eyes-out neon colors.
3. When the GM accepts a character that goes against the setting, story, or rules that were placed on other characters.
4. When the GM vanishes and the writers can't continue.
5. When someone's character in a group roleplay is basically the main character without it being pre-determined, or their character forces dramatic situations for attention.
6. If the roleplay starts off with a decent minimum post length, but a few more people join and write barely three sentences a post. This isn't usually an intimidate drop for me, but I've noticed that more often than not the length of most of the posts further down the road dwindles to one liners. So, I tend to drop the roleplay if I see the post lengths from most of the writers getting smaller.
7. I will drop if the rules for the roleplay aren't being enforced.
8. OOC drama is a big sign that I may not be able to stay in the roleplay. I can deal with little disagreements here and there, but if I get on my device and the OOC is blown up with people arguing, I probably wont stay. I didn't join the roleplay to watch two writers insult one another because of a character disagreement, or even just a small misunderstanding that they blew out of proportion. This is especially so if it happens more than once.

 

[XionKuriyama]

Since I'm very blunt and sarcastic naturally, I want to say that I don't mean to knock on you or anyone else for what you do in your RP. You do you, I don't rule the world and my opinions don't have to be everyone's.

I say this because I have a feeling this will be a controversial opinion. But I have to say it, something pushed me over the edge.

Seriously. If "realistic" faceclaims are a requirement, I WILL NOT ROLEPLAY WITH YOU.
I got into a roleplay, got excited, thought it was perfect for a character I was working on. I post the character. Immediately get told "oh realistic faceclaims only".

This was NOT included in ANYTHING prior to me being told this. I was so pissed off.

I'm not going to commit identity theft for this roleplay. Because that's what it is to me, identity theft. Real people are not fictional characters. I am morally opposed to using these live action faceclaims, and if you try to force me to one more time, I will lose my mind.

Again, this was not included in any of the rules or anything. This was just a complete surprise. If you're going to force people into stealing real people's faces without permission, at least say so in your damn rules.

 

[rae2nerdy]

To above XionKuriyama can use stock images. Those aren’t theft as they are available for public domain. Mind you have to know how to look for them and the pool can be limited. But since most people want generic pretty white folks it’s not impossible.

( if your curious pixabay and pexels are good sites. Also Flickr.com/creativecommons. Not only do they have collections they explain what each license means and requirements for using the images )

That being said yeah letting people know a requirement upfront is always better than springing it on them later.

 

[Lappi]

My instant drops are something along the lines of
1) Are incapable of using basic English.

2) No form of OOC or the people apart of the OOC are never talking.

3) People who would rather insult rather than give good advice when it comes to writing.

4) One-liner roleplays make me die. I have a long history of them but the more I roleplayed then the more I started to despise them.

 

[salty_ moustachio]

Seriously. If "realistic" faceclaims are a requirement, I WILL NOT ROLEPLAY WITH YOU.
I got into a roleplay, got excited, thought it was perfect for a character I was working on. I post the character. Immediately get told "oh realistic faceclaims only".

This was NOT included in ANYTHING prior to me being told this. I was so pissed off.

I'm not going to commit identity theft for this roleplay. Because that's what it is to me, identity theft. Real people are not fictional characters. I am morally opposed to using these live action faceclaims, and if you try to force me to one more time, I will lose my mind.

Again, this was not included in any of the rules or anything. This was just a complete surprise. If you're going to force people into stealing real people's faces without permission, at least say so in your damn rules.

I usually go without face claims myself. Probably because sometimes they turn me off. Someone dropped a roleplay with me because I told them their face claim looked like an instagram model slash porn star. I had in my head that the character was a girl next door type so it bothered me.

I'd prefer no face claims to inappropriate ones.

 

[Jules8008]

Zero planning. And I mean, literally zero. Someone who loves to plan a lot of things and someone who plans basically nothing do not go well together.

When something big happens out of nowhere and you weren't even informed at all. Like...if you have something planned, that's coo'. But if it is something which gives off the vibe that it is important and big, then for gods sake just inform us. We do not want to read everything you have planned. Just tell us "Yes X is happening but it is something I have planned, don't worry."

And suddenly introducing something which seems important without even discussing it with everyone. Or at least the majority. Just because you and the GM like it, it doesn't mean everyone will. (And I'm talking about important, like a new deadly disease or whatever)

 

[salty_ moustachio]

I don't want your character to call mine cute after five replies or start flirting. For me, it just seems rushed and fake, ESPECIALLY if my character has started out on the rude side.

You're cute, Demon of the Wolves. I could just see us together. Don't you feel it?