calypso
fairest
This is just kinda a post I was making to rant/express my current emotions about group RPs in general, and dying motivation for them. (plus kinda how I'm finding myself struggling to get RP partners, and all that jazz.)
so if you wanna read someone complaining, I'm yo gorl for the evening ! (this entire post is a call-out to no one, tis just me recounting my experiences and what I've taken from them)
Since I first started RPing many a years ago, I've found myself solely doing group RPs for the longest time, (just really started 1x1s this year, so pretty recent.) Started on Tinierme, went to Roblox, stayed on there for a while due to my lack of knowledge of other RP sites and my younger age. But I was really starting to sick of the entire roblox thing, mostly because I was growing older and I had little interest in seriously continuing to use the site. (I wouldn't mind going on it with some friends to mess around, but nothing where I'd sit around for hours RPing.)
Collectively, my little group of friends and such moved over to discord, and I liked it way more. I began to type more and more in each post, pushing myself to match with new people I met. At first, it was kinda a struggle. I was a one-liner, and I originally expressed distaste at 'paragraph' RPing. But as I started to get really into RPs, like actually into them, I found myself loving writing again and soon I was pushing the word limit on my posts each time. I ended up here by some people I don't speak with anymore, and I've just been pushing myself since. I've reached where I'm comfortable writing for each posts, which is around 600-1000 words. And I've really come to only want that in return, which makes getting a good RP for me kinda hard.
But this is about group RPs in particular, and how I'm starting to grow sick of them. It's not the formula I'm growing sick of, or how many people, but more how often they come and go, and the difficulties of communication within them. I haven't been in a group RP that got past around...five posts for me, yet. If I did, I can't recall it and all I know is they all die before then.
And it really sucks. I've started recycling OCs instead of making new ones, because I have no desire to pile on more characters if I know deep down, the group RP is just going to die in the end. Maybe it's because the GM left, leaving people uncertain where to take the plot. Players dwindle in interest, or they're simply unreliable. I find the worst offenders people who jump on establishing deep and everlasting relationships before the RP even starts. It makes me wonder if they're rushing to do so because they know it won't carry on long enough to actually get there IRP. My own group RPs, I'm not sure what happens. I try to get people to finish their sheets, but I just end up with apparently forgetful people.
So I decided I preferred 1x1s because I just can't take them dying so often.
Sometimes, I do feel cursed when it comes to getting a partner. I like to think I'm fairly polite, and I do tend to have fun with my partners. (At least, we keep the atmosphere light.) I really only have one active partner at the moment who is amazing, so shout out to her. But everything else just seems to...fizzle!
The conversation randomly halts before the RP even starts, and I just never hear from that person again. (Just, dead middle of the convo when we were actively discussing the plot. Sometimes the person stays active too, sometimes they don't.) Sometimes we get the RP going, but I've had two cases lately of enthusiastic OOC, and then two or even one post in and they're 'lost their muse.' (Which really irks me, because I just want people to stop jumping on any idea they 'may' like, when the other person also gets the idea you're super into it. It hurts, man.)
Of course, the common issue among all of them is me, really. I've been trying to improve my approach to conversations, trying to be extra careful with my posts, but nothing seems to work. (I do ask for writing samples before and offer my own if they want, so I hope my writing isn't the issue if they agreed to it ): If you see any of my posts and think they might need improvement, feel free to tell me below!)
So that's my current situation. Overall, a lack of RPs when I'm probably the most free I've ever been, and the most active I'll be for a good while. I have a lot of ideas, I suppose I'm a bit picky when it comes to partners, and I'm just not having a grand time RPing when I really do love to write, and I do love finding a partner to connect to.
Anyway, I just guess the entire point of this post was for me to lightly rant, and ask a question to anyone willing to talk about it.
Any advice? Should I just wait this out, and hope one day the perfect group rp will come along, or the perfect partner? Should I take matters firmly into my own hands? (Idk how, but maybe you got an idea!) Do you have a similar issue, and if you did, how did you overcome it?
that's all really, not like I got anything else to write right now.
so if you wanna read someone complaining, I'm yo gorl for the evening ! (this entire post is a call-out to no one, tis just me recounting my experiences and what I've taken from them)
Since I first started RPing many a years ago, I've found myself solely doing group RPs for the longest time, (just really started 1x1s this year, so pretty recent.) Started on Tinierme, went to Roblox, stayed on there for a while due to my lack of knowledge of other RP sites and my younger age. But I was really starting to sick of the entire roblox thing, mostly because I was growing older and I had little interest in seriously continuing to use the site. (I wouldn't mind going on it with some friends to mess around, but nothing where I'd sit around for hours RPing.)
Collectively, my little group of friends and such moved over to discord, and I liked it way more. I began to type more and more in each post, pushing myself to match with new people I met. At first, it was kinda a struggle. I was a one-liner, and I originally expressed distaste at 'paragraph' RPing. But as I started to get really into RPs, like actually into them, I found myself loving writing again and soon I was pushing the word limit on my posts each time. I ended up here by some people I don't speak with anymore, and I've just been pushing myself since. I've reached where I'm comfortable writing for each posts, which is around 600-1000 words. And I've really come to only want that in return, which makes getting a good RP for me kinda hard.
But this is about group RPs in particular, and how I'm starting to grow sick of them. It's not the formula I'm growing sick of, or how many people, but more how often they come and go, and the difficulties of communication within them. I haven't been in a group RP that got past around...five posts for me, yet. If I did, I can't recall it and all I know is they all die before then.
And it really sucks. I've started recycling OCs instead of making new ones, because I have no desire to pile on more characters if I know deep down, the group RP is just going to die in the end. Maybe it's because the GM left, leaving people uncertain where to take the plot. Players dwindle in interest, or they're simply unreliable. I find the worst offenders people who jump on establishing deep and everlasting relationships before the RP even starts. It makes me wonder if they're rushing to do so because they know it won't carry on long enough to actually get there IRP. My own group RPs, I'm not sure what happens. I try to get people to finish their sheets, but I just end up with apparently forgetful people.
So I decided I preferred 1x1s because I just can't take them dying so often.
Sometimes, I do feel cursed when it comes to getting a partner. I like to think I'm fairly polite, and I do tend to have fun with my partners. (At least, we keep the atmosphere light.) I really only have one active partner at the moment who is amazing, so shout out to her. But everything else just seems to...fizzle!
The conversation randomly halts before the RP even starts, and I just never hear from that person again. (Just, dead middle of the convo when we were actively discussing the plot. Sometimes the person stays active too, sometimes they don't.) Sometimes we get the RP going, but I've had two cases lately of enthusiastic OOC, and then two or even one post in and they're 'lost their muse.' (Which really irks me, because I just want people to stop jumping on any idea they 'may' like, when the other person also gets the idea you're super into it. It hurts, man.)
Of course, the common issue among all of them is me, really. I've been trying to improve my approach to conversations, trying to be extra careful with my posts, but nothing seems to work. (I do ask for writing samples before and offer my own if they want, so I hope my writing isn't the issue if they agreed to it ): If you see any of my posts and think they might need improvement, feel free to tell me below!)
So that's my current situation. Overall, a lack of RPs when I'm probably the most free I've ever been, and the most active I'll be for a good while. I have a lot of ideas, I suppose I'm a bit picky when it comes to partners, and I'm just not having a grand time RPing when I really do love to write, and I do love finding a partner to connect to.
Anyway, I just guess the entire point of this post was for me to lightly rant, and ask a question to anyone willing to talk about it.
Any advice? Should I just wait this out, and hope one day the perfect group rp will come along, or the perfect partner? Should I take matters firmly into my own hands? (Idk how, but maybe you got an idea!) Do you have a similar issue, and if you did, how did you overcome it?
that's all really, not like I got anything else to write right now.