LittleDreamerOfSorts
The Girl in Yellow
I have known that I had autism, for years, but it wasn't until recently that I realized how much more challenging my life is because of it. I just assumed everyone had their own struggle. Now as I'm taking the time to understand the mind of those without autism, it's sort of getting me down. Some days I wish I could go back to that ignorance.
What can really get me down lately, is the loneliness. Due to the poor social skills that comes with autism, I don't have many friends. I do have a few very close ones. Only about 2 actually, but I'm grateful because I know others on the spectrum without. Socializing takes a lot of energy and sometimes days to recover. On top of that it takes longer for me to gain the same "connection" someone off the spectrum might experience. Someone off the spectrum can meet their need to connect by bonding over simple things like their favorite color or the sport they play or tv shows they enjoy watching. Me, I don't get that spark- I find these conversations boring. I need to get to know someone. I need someone to open up to me and trust me. Normally I need a one on one situation. Parties can be exhausting and lonely.
My connection need is extremely hard to meet. So I have a lot of days where I feel alone when I know I shouldn't.
What can really get me down lately, is the loneliness. Due to the poor social skills that comes with autism, I don't have many friends. I do have a few very close ones. Only about 2 actually, but I'm grateful because I know others on the spectrum without. Socializing takes a lot of energy and sometimes days to recover. On top of that it takes longer for me to gain the same "connection" someone off the spectrum might experience. Someone off the spectrum can meet their need to connect by bonding over simple things like their favorite color or the sport they play or tv shows they enjoy watching. Me, I don't get that spark- I find these conversations boring. I need to get to know someone. I need someone to open up to me and trust me. Normally I need a one on one situation. Parties can be exhausting and lonely.
My connection need is extremely hard to meet. So I have a lot of days where I feel alone when I know I shouldn't.