Viewpoint Roleplaying with younger roleplayers?

[monxmiracle]

This is mainly directed again to people above the age of 18 . This is something I had on my mind for a while. And that is, do you think that it's okay for an older Roleplayer, to be interacting with someone, younger than them? For me I'm 19, turning 20. And even though, I'm an adult, I still don't feel too comfortable RPing with people much older than me, and I'm comfortable RPing with like 16-18 year olds. Though, I've seen even some people, who are in their 20s, like 23 or 24 and so forth who are willing to RP with people like 13 or 14. Which to me, is kinda mind boggling. But at what point would would you say you'd draw the line? Cause I know some minors have strong opinions, about this as in why should age matter? What does it matter if they're 15 and their roleplay partner is 24? While other adults, also don't really want to get into trouble for interacting with a minor. Cause in this day and age, it's kinda hard for an adult to interact with anyone under the age of 18 online, as it can be seen most of the time as an issue. But for me, I'm not here for that, I'm here to write, though I still want to keep myself safe. As an adult. Any thoughts?

For me personally, I do have a limit set, I usually don't RP with anyone too much younger than me, so like a year or two at most. Or better yet, at or above my age. And I'm wondering, do you guys have limits set? Or are you just mindful of how you interact with your partners?

 

[rae2nerdy]

I will role play with anyone who shares my interest and is willing to write with me.

I am in my thirties though so I find younger kids tend to be too intimidated to role play with me (which fair enough) so I tend to end up with partners in their late teens or twenties.

I don’t focus on any kind of adult themes (by which I mean abusive relationships, power imbalance, mental health, and of course explicit sexual content) So I don’t do anything that I would be uncomfortable talking to someone of a younger age about.

Also I feel like people get caught up in maturity when in reality a role play thrives on simple communication. As long as you give your partner a clear guideline of what you are and aren’t comfortable with and respect their guidelines in return it’s fine.

 

[ashwynne]

My philosophy is super simple:

1. I won't rolepay romance/mature themes with anyone under 18
2. Anyone else is welcome, regardless of age, provided our writing style/personality matches

It's really that easy. The main reason people have for not RPing with minors is that there is the potential for legal trouble. That concern goes away if you're not being creepy and/or not writing anything questionable with them. The internet is a double edged sword as far as nothing ever truly being gone goes. If you have a record of all conversations/posts and nothing questionable is ever done/said then any parent who might threaten legal action is going to have nothing to base their accusations on and you have nothing to worry about.

Good partners and bad partners exist in all age brackets and are dependent on the individuals rather than the age. You have people in their 20s and 30s and beyond who have nothing to do all day but constantly pester for replies, just as you often have teenagers with busy extracurricular lives that keep them occupied to the exact same degree as a 9-5 job. It's all individual.

Obviously, RP with who you want to RP but this is my personal take on the matter c:

 

[Simon_Hawk]

I'm a guy, I'm old, I'm not writing with minors no matter how much fun it is. Sorry, ain't happening.

 

[rae2nerdy]

I also think people have a rather incomplete idea of what is actually illegal and what is just something they find morally questionable.

My general guideline is to follow the site rules when it comes to the topic of sex.

But when it comes to other controversial topics (ex. Politics, Racism, Sexuality, Gender, etc.) find your partners comfort level and stick to that. Actually have a conversation with your partner about where their comfort level is rather than assuming something based on their age.

 

[Jannah]

I'm in my late 20's so personally do not feel comfortable knowingly RPing with anyone below 18. I get into a lot of heavier and mature themes in my writing so I'd rather not be a liability if anything were to come up(fortunately that's unlikely).

 

[Tove]

I am above 18, I will not write with anyone under 18 for anything. Period. When I was a teenager I never wrote with anyone above 18, why? For my own comfort and now as an adult I stick to my own age group.

 

[Lexiseeksrp]

It's not an issue at all. From a legal standpoint. They can't even do anything unless you intend to meet and f**k a child. Even if you have intent you need to take a action. That means you have to buy a ticket or drive to their location to commit the act.

If you are are doing NSFW thats cause to look into your s**t further.

Don't Rp in first person.

I think its fine to Rp with people under 18 as long as its SFW.

Websites afraid to get subpoena by the law or held liable IF they are a site clearly for sex trafficing with minors.

The goverment can do whatever they want. They can arrest me right now for saying its fine to Rp with minors. They won't be able to win in court for conviction. (Most people cant afford to defend themselves.)

EDIT(I feel) People who write they aren't comfortable with anyone under the age of 18 clearly want NSFW. I think most of all you should worry about someones skill level in writing. In that case- you should request writing samples. Not say 18+

Ps: I tend not to Rp with any under the age of 18. As they tend to be emo and clingy.

 

[Tove]

It's not an issue at all. From a legal standpoint. They can't even do anything unless you intend to meet and f**k a child. Even if you have intent you need to take a action. That means you have to buy a ticket or drive to their location to commit the act.

If you are are doing NSFW thats cause to look into your s**t further.

Don't Rp in first person.

I think its fine to Rp with people under 18 as long as its SFW.

Websites afraid to get subpoena by the law or held liable IF they are a site clearly for sex trafficing with minors.

The goverment can do whatever they want. They can arrest me right now for saying its fine to Rp with minors. They won't be able to win in court for conviction. (Most people cant afford to defend themselves.)

People who write they aren't comfortable with anyone under the age of 18 clearly want NSFW. I think most of all you should worry about someones skill level in writing. In that case- you should request writing samples. Not say 18+

Ps: I tend not to Rp with any under the age of 18. As they tend to be emo and clingy.

I really can't stand when people say People who write they aren't comfortable with anyone under the age of 18 clearly want NSFW.
It's really bull. Not everyone is looking for that and it sucks when legitimate writers get put in the same category. Everyone is entitled to write with whoever they want but people shouldn't be made to feel like just because you don't want to write with a certain age group, in this case minors, oh you must be looking for some nasty adult content.

I'm one of those people that aren't comfortable writing with anyone under 18 and I'm not looking for NSFW content but at the same time I don't limit myself in what I want to write about either and for that reason I will not write with a minor. I don't want to have to feel like I can't explore darker themes of war and violence because someone might get triggered or their parent might be monitoring what they are writing about. I'm not here to babysit. I don't need that type of drama.

 

[rae2nerdy]

So to be clear triggers aren’t age related. I would make sure you ask all partners what their comfort level is and not just assume based on their age what they will be comfortable with.

 

[CecilDMMasters]

I don't RP with anyone who is still the ward of a parent. It's not my job to decide if someone's kid needs to be hearing about necromancy, cult based plots, and random cat side characters. It's not my job to worry if some kid is at an emotional stage or easily triggered. And it's not my job to give some kid that's overly attached advise that might contradict a parent or not be thought out. I prefer RP, debates, and any deep life issue discussions be with adults. I'm not a parent to humans and have no reason to be babysitting and entertaining children online past telling some kid on a art website I like their art or something simple and safe.

Also, as far as issues, I've had dealings with a parent who's brat lied and discussed drinking advice with me. They told me they were turning 21 and getting their first drink at a birthday party. They lied my a lot of years. That one ended okay but I've had friends with much harsher issues when parents read the RPs. So frankly, whether I'm RPing some small character building skits or a hardcore battle against evil cultist my partner needs to be a legally responsible for themselves. And if I have reason to believe they lied I stop the RP and block if they get whiny.

 

[Tove]

So to be clear triggers aren’t age related. I would make sure you ask all partners what their comfort level is and not just assume based on their age what they will be comfortable with.

I was using that as an example actually and I never assume anything. With any partner I have had, I have made certain of what they are comfortable with versus not. It is always priority but that's not the point of my message.

 

[Tove]

I don't RP with anyone who is still the ward of a parent. It's not my job to decide if someone's kid needs to be hearing about necromancy, cult based plots, and random cat side characters. It's not my job to worry if some kid is at an emotional stage or easily triggered. And it's not my job to give some kid that's overly attached advise that might contradict a parent or not be thought out. I prefer RP, debates, and any deep life issue discussions be with adults. I'm not a parent to humans and have no reason to be babysitting and entertaining children online past telling some kid on a art website I like their art or something simple and safe.

Also, as far as issues, I've had dealings with a parent who's brat lied and discussed drinking advice with me. They told me they were turning 21 and getting their first drink at a birthday party. They lied my a lot of years. That one ended okay but I've had friends with much harsher issues when parents read the RPs. So frankly, whether I'm RPing some small character building skits or a hardcore battle against evil cultist my partner needs to be a legally responsible for themselves. And if I have reason to believe they lied I stop the RP and block if they get whiny.

Exactly all of this.

 

[Lexiseeksrp]

I really can't stand when people say People who write they aren't comfortable with anyone under the age of 18 clearly want NSFW.
It's really bull. Not everyone is looking for that and it sucks when legitimate writers get put in the same category. Everyone is entitled to write with whoever they want but people shouldn't be made to feel like just because you don't want to write with a certain age group, in this case minors, oh you must be looking for some nasty adult content.

I'm one of those people that aren't comfortable writing with anyone under 18 and I'm not looking for NSFW content but at the same time I don't limit myself in what I want to write about either and for that reason I will not write with a minor. I don't want to have to feel like I can't explore darker themes of war and violence because someone might get triggered or their parent might be monitoring what they are writing about. I'm not here to babysit. I don't need that type of drama.

There is always an acception to every rule. (So to speak.) I have some less then pleasent words and arguements in opposition. I'll withhold. I don't think your trying to call me out. Rather call out the quote.

 

[Jannah]

People who write they aren't comfortable with anyone under the age of 18 clearly want NSFW. I think most of all you should worry about someones skill level in writing. In that case- you should request writing samples. Not say 18+

This is not necessarily true. I don't write smutty stuff, like, at all. I'm a fade to black sort of person. However, I still don't like writing with minors because I don't know what goes on behind the computer screen. For all I know their parents could be monitoring what they're writing. That would reflect badly on me when I get into the darker themes like torture, genocide, slavery, etc.

 

[Tove]

There is always an acception to every rule. (So to speak.) I have some less then pleasent words and arguements in opposition. I'll withhold. I don't think your trying to call me out. Rather call out the quote.

Well I was telling you not everyone who says they aren't comfortable writing with those under 18 does not want NSFW content. You can't lump everyone together. Sure, there are horror stories but again not everyone is looking for that.

 

[rae2nerdy]

I was using that as an example actually and I never assume anything. With any partner I have had, I have made certain of what they are comfortable with versus not. It is always priority but that's not the point of my message.

I understand but people do make the assumption that triggers are age related. Which is a big problem on both ends of the spectrum. As there are minors which are fine discussing mature themes and adults that are triggered by mature themes for various reasons.

There are a lot of people on this site that tend to just assume things without bothering to actually ask their partners for their input. It’s something I run into all the time with partners and is a common misconception with this issue specifically.

Both in the idea that adults must all want to do mature themes and thus can’t be allowed to speak to children OR that all children can’t handle mature themes and thus must be sheltered.

When in reality both stereotypes are wrong and the only way to know for sure where someone lies is to just ask them.

 

[Tove]

I understand but people do make the assumption that triggers are age related. Which is a big problem on both ends of the spectrum. As there are minors which are fine discussing mature themes and adults that are triggered by mature themes for various reasons.

There are a lot of people on this site that tend to just assume things without bothering to actually ask their partners for their input. It’s something I run into all the time with partners and is a common misconception with this issue specifically.

Both in the idea that adults must all want to do mature themes and thus can’t be allowed to speak to children OR that all children can’t handle mature themes and thus must be sheltered.

When in reality both stereotypes are wrong and the only way to know for sure where someone lies is to just ask them.

Well I am not one of those people, you honestly don't need to give me this advice no offense. As I said, I used it as an example. My issue was already mentioned above.

 

[Lexiseeksrp]

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Well I am not one of those people, you honestly don't need to give me this advice no offense. As I said, I used it as an example. My issue was already mentioned above.

What advice? (Oh - not me. Nvm.) Website notifications are weird.

 

[rae2nerdy]

This is not necessarily true. I don't write smutty stuff, like, at all. I'm a fade to black sort of person. However, I still don't like writing with minors because I don't know what goes on behind the computer screen. For all I know their parents could be monitoring what they're writing. That would reflect badly on me when I get into the darker themes like torture, genocide, slavery, etc.

To be honest I always feel like it reflects worse on the parents. As that is some excessively controlling behavior if you are censoring your child on the internet.

In the unlikely event a younger teen wants to do a nuanced portrayal of slavery I would say that’s actually a good thing. God knows you don’t get that at school.

Well I am not one of those people, you honestly don't need to give me this advice no offense. As I said, I used it as an example. My issue was already mentioned above.

I am not giving you the advice. My apologies if you felt I was. The issue was meant to be a general bit of advice.

 

[Tove]

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What advice?

Oh I was just talking with rae2nerdy.

 

[Jannah]

To be honest I always feel like it reflects worse on the parents. As that is some excessively controlling behavior if you are censoring your child on the internet.

In the unlikely event a younger teen wants to do a nuanced portrayal of slavery I would say that’s actually a good thing. God knows you don’t get that at school.

I typically don't do master/slave RP's since the vast majority of people seeking those are seeking a sexual RP(it's some sort of BDSM fetish thing as you probably know). However, if someone was to express interest in a realistic RP about slavery that sticks to the facts of how awful and cruel it was then I would be willing to entertain the idea. As far as real historical events events go nothing is off-limits for me. I like my historical RP's gritty and realistic.

 

[rae2nerdy]

I typically don't do master/slave RP's since the vast majority of people seeking those are seeking a sexual RP(it's some sort of BDSM fetish thing as you probably know). However, if someone was to express interest in a realistic RP about slavery that sticks to the facts of how awful and cruel it was then I would be willing to entertain the idea. As far as real historical events events go nothing is off-limits for me. I like my historical RP's gritty and realistic.

Ah my apologies I misunderstood. I thought you meant historic slavery. As for sexual slavery or BDSM, I can definitely see being wary of role playing that with a minor.

 

[Jannah]

Ah my apologies I misunderstood. I thought you meant historic slavery. As for sexual slavery or BDSM, I can definitely see being wary of role playing that with a minor.

Yea, two different things entirely, although a sexual slavery RP is a no-no for me regardless of how old the person is.

 

[CecilDMMasters]

I understand but people do make the assumption that triggers are age related. Which is a big problem on both ends of the spectrum. As there are minors which are fine discussing mature themes and adults that are triggered by mature themes for various reasons.

There are a lot of people on this site that tend to just assume things without bothering to actually ask their partners for their input. It’s something I run into all the time with partners and is a common misconception with this issue specifically.

Both in the idea that adults must all want to do mature themes and thus can’t be allowed to speak to children OR that all children can’t handle mature themes and thus must be sheltered.

When in reality both stereotypes are wrong and the only way to know for sure where someone lies is to just ask them.

Yeah, one of my friends that had to deal with a real parental spaz out was doing a dark cult RP. RPing with someone that turned out to be a kid that was writing some real big time satanic cult stuff in their RP. The kid was way into more than him.

I ended an RP for a person that wouldn't quit making a neko do pet behavior, sexual insinuating and foot fetishing that ended up being 14.

And though I'm an adult I am not interested in reading porn and fetish. I can do a severally dark RP with evil villains, slavery and injury but leave sex and fetish out.

And yes, people's comfort levels need to be respected no matter the age. When I do an RP I expect it to remain porn free and I make it clear in a hero vs criminal story any 'special victim' crime stuff happens off screen. And if someone tells me they don't like certain dark themes I can lower the rating.