Rekai Leon
The Fluffy Kitty
Many of us would love to be in a perfect community where everyone is nice and kind. Unfortunately, such thing does not exist, and I doubt that it ever will. No matter where we are in, regardless of how nice it seems to be, there are poorly behaved people lurking around, waiting to ruin our day, or do something even worse. There are measures that we can take to minimize the chance that such incident occurs, or the negative impact if it happens, but the probability can never be zero. Bad things often happen at a moment, and in a way we least expect, and that is just a risk we have to deal with while being a member of any community.
What I would like to ask is: How much toxicity can you live with in a community? Here are my thoughts:
Livable: I rarely encounter toxic behavior (for example: once or at most twice a week). They are just annoying and cause very little to no long-term negative impact. Staffs are helpful, do not promote any toxic behavior and will take actions against it.
Borderline cases: I encounter toxic behavior very often (for example: almost everyday). Fortunately, they are just annoying and cause very little to no long-term negative impact. Staffs are helpful, responsive and trustworthy. There are just too many toxic members for them to deal with. For such communities, I will take actions on a case by case basis. If that community holds significant value to me, I will stay but I will minimize interactions with strangers whenever possible until the problems are mitigated. If possible, I will work with the staffs to resolve the issues that the community is having. If it is just a casual community, I will just move on.
Absolute deal-breaker: There are risks to one's safety and well-being and/ or staffs are unhelpful and untrustworthy and/ or toxic behavior is endorsed or promoted. This is the kind of community that I would stay away at all cost. If I need something from that community, I will seek alternatives whenever possible. If there are absolutely no alternatives whatsoever, I will take extreme measures to make sure that I am safe there. I will just come in, get whatever I need, and leave while drawing as little attention as possible. I am not going to try being a hero and saving that community from its downfall, because I do not have the bravery or what else it takes to do so. I know that there are people who do so. I really appreciate what they are trying to do, and they have my respect. It is just that I am not one of them.
What I would like to ask is: How much toxicity can you live with in a community? Here are my thoughts:
Livable: I rarely encounter toxic behavior (for example: once or at most twice a week). They are just annoying and cause very little to no long-term negative impact. Staffs are helpful, do not promote any toxic behavior and will take actions against it.
Borderline cases: I encounter toxic behavior very often (for example: almost everyday). Fortunately, they are just annoying and cause very little to no long-term negative impact. Staffs are helpful, responsive and trustworthy. There are just too many toxic members for them to deal with. For such communities, I will take actions on a case by case basis. If that community holds significant value to me, I will stay but I will minimize interactions with strangers whenever possible until the problems are mitigated. If possible, I will work with the staffs to resolve the issues that the community is having. If it is just a casual community, I will just move on.
Absolute deal-breaker: There are risks to one's safety and well-being and/ or staffs are unhelpful and untrustworthy and/ or toxic behavior is endorsed or promoted. This is the kind of community that I would stay away at all cost. If I need something from that community, I will seek alternatives whenever possible. If there are absolutely no alternatives whatsoever, I will take extreme measures to make sure that I am safe there. I will just come in, get whatever I need, and leave while drawing as little attention as possible. I am not going to try being a hero and saving that community from its downfall, because I do not have the bravery or what else it takes to do so. I know that there are people who do so. I really appreciate what they are trying to do, and they have my respect. It is just that I am not one of them.