Zef The Owl
Senior Member
Preface before I get into this, I personally do not think there is anything wrong with not wanting to RP with a guy RPing a female character for reasons I'll explain later. In no way is this a guilting thread, rather me probing for general community opinion.
So, hi! I'm Zef the Owl and I'm new here. Despite this fact, I'm far from new to RP. I've Roleplayed for over 20 years, starting back in the AOL Dial Up days. Thats not to toot my own horn I'm still a rubbish RPer, my point is more over time I've come to adore writing and exploring many different characters and their troubles and woes, I live by the Stephen King quote;
"Kill your darlings, kill your darlings, even when it breaks your egocentric little scribbler’s heart, kill your darlings."
So I have a deep dissociation with my characters. I am not my character, I am the one who has made them, pat them on the back and told them to march forth into the narrative, and I will be the one who sets that Narrative on fire making life horrid and lovely so that they grow as characters. As a result, I dont care what I play, male, female, robot, all romantic orientations even if it doesnt match mine, doesnt matter.
However across many RP hubs I've been turned down when offering to play a female character. "Female RPers only please" is a phrase I'm familiar with by now. I understand why, everyone enjoys RP differently and my dissociation isnt the norm. Many make a self insert or put themselves in the shoes of their characters, which in turn causes them to feel their partner is the same. There is nothing wrong with this, we all enjoy writing for our own reasons and in our own way, my number one rule is fun comes first, and if its an RP someone isnt enjoying it shouldnt be done.
I havent seen much of anyone putting the "Only Female RPers playing female characters please" tags in their request threads, but I didnt want to go assuming. So instead I figured I'd ask peoples general opinions to gauge insight on the overall communities thoughts, given every community I've hopped into has had different overall opinions.
Again, no wrong answers here in my humble opinion, I just wanted a gauge before I stumble into someones RP request and get pointed back out the door because I'm trying to find my goofy elf girl a good fantasy RP home.
Thanks for your time.
So, hi! I'm Zef the Owl and I'm new here. Despite this fact, I'm far from new to RP. I've Roleplayed for over 20 years, starting back in the AOL Dial Up days. Thats not to toot my own horn I'm still a rubbish RPer, my point is more over time I've come to adore writing and exploring many different characters and their troubles and woes, I live by the Stephen King quote;
"Kill your darlings, kill your darlings, even when it breaks your egocentric little scribbler’s heart, kill your darlings."
So I have a deep dissociation with my characters. I am not my character, I am the one who has made them, pat them on the back and told them to march forth into the narrative, and I will be the one who sets that Narrative on fire making life horrid and lovely so that they grow as characters. As a result, I dont care what I play, male, female, robot, all romantic orientations even if it doesnt match mine, doesnt matter.
However across many RP hubs I've been turned down when offering to play a female character. "Female RPers only please" is a phrase I'm familiar with by now. I understand why, everyone enjoys RP differently and my dissociation isnt the norm. Many make a self insert or put themselves in the shoes of their characters, which in turn causes them to feel their partner is the same. There is nothing wrong with this, we all enjoy writing for our own reasons and in our own way, my number one rule is fun comes first, and if its an RP someone isnt enjoying it shouldnt be done.
I havent seen much of anyone putting the "Only Female RPers playing female characters please" tags in their request threads, but I didnt want to go assuming. So instead I figured I'd ask peoples general opinions to gauge insight on the overall communities thoughts, given every community I've hopped into has had different overall opinions.
Again, no wrong answers here in my humble opinion, I just wanted a gauge before I stumble into someones RP request and get pointed back out the door because I'm trying to find my goofy elf girl a good fantasy RP home.
Thanks for your time.