Deal Breakers. What makes you "walk" away?

1. Smut. Honestly, nothing will make me lose interest faster in an rp than smut. It's just so tedious to me and it feels like that's all anyone wants to play. I'm here for the story, not to write characters having sex. I prefer fade to black if necessary.

2. Forced romance. I swear, I can't count the number of rps I've had people describe to me that absolutely must include our characters falling in love. I'm not against romance by any means, but I'll turn down any and every role play that requires it. If it happens naturally over the course of playing, that's fine! If it never develops, that's fine too! What's so wrong with playing characters who are just friends?

3. Huge age gaps in relationships. Sorry, my thirty-year-old character isn't interested in your barely legal newly eighteen-year-old.

4. People demanding that I tell them if I'm stepping away for a few hours or going to bed. I'm sorry, but I don't have to do that and neither do you. If I won't be able to post for more than a few days, I'll absolutely mention it so you aren't left wondering what's going on, but beyond that, I don't need your permission to go about my life.

5. Ridiculous post requirements. I typically write between one and three paragraphs, but if a post really inspires me, I might do more. It's annoying when people expect four+ paragraphs every time. Personally, I get bored when I have to read massive posts.

6. Anime face claims. I don't know why, but these just bug me. I don't mind using realistic face claims if they're needed, but I prefer just describing the characters.

7. Demanding that bust size and underwear be included in descriptions of a character. That just makes me twitchy and sends me in the other direction.

8. Animal and anthro rps. They hold absolutely no interest for me. (Though I do have a fondness for werewolves.)

9. Japanese terms where they aren't necessary. It just throws me off.

10. Demanding things be coded in a particular way. I stink at coding. Please don't make me code.

11. Godmodding. Need I explain?

12. Being expected to play a canon character because someone wants to see if they can hook up their OC with them. I don't play canon characters at all because I'm just more comfortable playing my own creations. I don't care if you play canon characters. Have at it if that's what you want to do!

13. People who freak out over typos. They happen. I figure as long as we can figure out what each other is trying to say, that should be good enough.

14. Rudeness from the other player. If you can't be civil to me, I can't play with you.


I'm sorry that got so long. I didn't realize I had so many deal breakers until I started listing them. I'm not that hard to rp with. Really!
 
Things like I read your request thread and nothing more or even I read your request thread I would love to write with you with nothing beyond that.

Okay so what ideas do you have? What part did you read that caught your attention?
 
I hella nope when the other person tries to control my character. Like it's my character, not yours. I know how my character will act, you don't. Just back off.
 
Master/slave character relationships. Immediate nopeout.

Also, whenever I see bad community management practices for example people who are friends with GMs being given special privileges that are denied to other players, or gms allowing certain players to get bullied in ooc chat and refusing to clearly issue warnings to the bullies for their behavior- I don't nope out riiight away but I've never failed to get tired of it and take measures eventually.
 
Length requirements are a big one for me. I'll post as much or as little as the scene needs. I've written for years, I'm confident in my writing, and I know that cookie cutter one-length-fits-all doesn't cut it when you want to move things along quickly or when there really isn't that much to say. I can understand upper length requirements, novella-sized replies can be absolutely draining, but 4+ paragraphs at all times isn't realistic. It doesn't encourage me to write well, just to write more...and believe it or not, there is a distinct difference between the two. I can understand requesting "no one-liners" or "give me enough to work with" one hundred percent, though and have no issues with those.

Another thing is just...writing style. If I don't understand what someone is getting at with their writing or don't appreciate the way they write, it kills my interest pretty fast. There are just writers one doesn't click with, which is a sad fact of life. Nobody's fault, it simply happens.

And another would be indecision and passiveness. If I'm offering up ideas and trying to brainstorm, I'd really like to see the same from my partner. "Whatever you want", "I'm fine with anything", and "I don't know" may seem polite when they're being typed out by my partner, but they really just mean more work for me. This goes double for actual in character actions. If I'm the one pulling both our weight in making the narrative move along, then the RP is ending right then and there.

I think one of my bigger ones is when someone clearly decides to stop playing by the rules of the universe we'd established and just...does whatever. Saying "I had a cool idea!" OOC and telling me so we can tweak things is a lot better than simply implementing it and hoping I don't mind when it comes to big plot points or setting details. We all make little mistakes, but for certain things? It just has to be intentional.

Finally, I don't really want to roleplay with folks who expect me to put RPing before my obligations and other potential hobbies. I can have a variably busy schedule and one thing I adore is being given time and space to reply. Not everyone is the same, and I'm completely fine with people asking for daily replies from others and on their search threads, etc., but if I've told an RP partner about my schedule and posting ability and a reply is still expected of me daily...please no. Nothing drives me away faster.
 
prismatika said:
1. Smut. Honestly, nothing will make me lose interest faster in an rp than smut. It's just so tedious to me and it feels like that's all anyone wants to play. I'm here for the story, not to write characters having sex. I prefer fade to black if necessary.

2. Forced romance. I swear, I can't count the number of rps I've had people describe to me that absolutely must include our characters falling in love. I'm not against romance by any means, but I'll turn down any and every role play that requires it. If it happens naturally over the course of playing, that's fine! If it never develops, that's fine too! What's so wrong with playing characters who are just friends?

3. Huge age gaps in relationships. Sorry, my thirty-year-old character isn't interested in your barely legal newly eighteen-year-old.

4. People demanding that I tell them if I'm stepping away for a few hours or going to bed. I'm sorry, but I don't have to do that and neither do you. If I won't be able to post for more than a few days, I'll absolutely mention it so you aren't left wondering what's going on, but beyond that, I don't need your permission to go about my life.

5. Ridiculous post requirements. I typically write between one and three paragraphs, but if a post really inspires me, I might do more. It's annoying when people expect four+ paragraphs every time. Personally, I get bored when I have to read massive posts.

6. Anime face claims. I don't know why, but these just bug me. I don't mind using realistic face claims if they're needed, but I prefer just describing the characters.

7. Demanding that bust size and underwear be included in descriptions of a character. That just makes me twitchy and sends me in the other direction.

8. Animal and anthro rps. They hold absolutely no interest for me. (Though I do have a fondness for werewolves.)

9. Japanese terms where they aren't necessary. It just throws me off.

10. Demanding things be coded in a particular way. I stink at coding. Please don't make me code.

11. Godmodding. Need I explain?

12. Being expected to play a canon character because someone wants to see if they can hook up their OC with them. I don't play canon characters at all because I'm just more comfortable playing my own creations. I don't care if you play canon characters. Have at it if that's what you want to do!

13. People who freak out over typos. They happen. I figure as long as we can figure out what each other is trying to say, that should be good enough.

14. Rudeness from the other player. If you can't be civil to me, I can't play with you.


I'm sorry that got so long. I didn't realize I had so many deal breakers until I started listing them. I'm not that hard to rp with. Really!
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People really ask for bust size/underwear in character descriptions? How is that at all necessary???? Lmao
 
Witchyy said:
I just wonder why it's asked at all tho. It doesn't really contribute anything to the character whether they got big honkers or not.
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Nope. Especially when that's usually implied anyway, either through the character's description or their reference picture (Whichever one's used)
 
Witchyy said:
People really ask for bust size/underwear in character descriptions? How is that at all necessary???? Lmao
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I think such people are asking for a combination of reasons.

1. They see roleplaying as a sexual activity. To them roleplaying is like literally roleplaying out some kind of sexual thing with a real life person. Only your doing it over the internet. I've seen multiple search threads ( on this site even ) where the man ( it's always a man ) will outright say : I'm single and looking for a female to date/roleplay with. Like basically they think this is a dating site and anyone who is roleplaying with them is actually dating them. So in that case obviously they want to date someone who they are physically attracted to. Hence why they gotta make sure you give them the right bust size/underwear.

2. She breasted boobily down the stairs. Again a thing you see mostly with men, it's the assumption that a woman is basically a walking pair of breasts/butt. This can either be rampant misogyny tied to the above or just men assuming women care as much about their outward anatomy as men do.

( Here's a hint guys. Women do not care about our breasts that much. The only time we focus on them is if we drop food down our shirt or they're hurting for some reason. Otherwise we don't put that much emphasis on them in a day to day manner ).

I mean the same can be said for like jock size as well. There is literally no reason I need to figure out the size of my male characters dick. It won't come up in the roleplay. I don't care. Maybe men obssess over them to an inordinate degree that I as a lady am not privy too. Well sorry boys in that case it's just gonna have to be some unrealistic thing for my male characters. Cuz I pretty much assume they care about as much about their outward anatomy as I care about mine.
 
geeking out said:
She breasted boobily down the stairs.
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geeking out said:
It's an in joke from the literary world about how male writers describe women. There is a lot of gratitious mentions of breasts and posing like you're on the cover a comic book.
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I'd ask if that term was really used in a book somewhere, but sadly, I wouldn't be surprised if it was XD
 
I "LOL NOPE" when I ask a person what they had in mind for the plot of the story and they go "this character with character". That's not a plot or a storyline. That's a goal you have that you want to accomplish with characters but not a story.
 
#1. Absolute lack of compatibility with rp partner (since I'm only playing 1x1 it's important).
For example , if a partner leaves no room for discussion and only presses their ideas, or if they agree with everything I say without any attempt to give their own inputs.... something along these lines.
Or if writing style doesn't match at all and it makes rp feel unbalanced. (i.e. 2 sentences vs 2 paragraphs)
After all, rp is a two-way game, and it doesn't feel nice when it's one-sided.

#2. Unreadable grammar. I can close my eyes for some minor mistakes, as I'm not innocent myself. But I've seen cases that made my eyes fall out, and even if the person writing is nice, it's just nope... Fighting with understanding text would make rp a torture. But such cases are rare, I think I only encountered one or two over my ... many... years of rp.
##2.1. A subsection of that would be hard-to-read style. I'm not sure if I can give an example and that is purely my personal preference, but again, if I find myself getting tired from reading a paragraph, even if it's written brilliantly with no mistakes whatsoever but it's too 'heavy' to read, it makes rp a chore. See #1 for more reference.

There are other things that may occur, but those two are major for me. The rest can potentially be worked with.
 
Ratterlind said:
Length requirements are a big one for me. I'll post as much or as little as the scene needs. I've written for years, I'm confident in my writing, and I know that cookie cutter one-length-fits-all doesn't cut it when you want to move things along quickly or when there really isn't that much to say. I can understand upper length requirements, novella-sized replies can be absolutely draining, but 4+ paragraphs at all times isn't realistic. It doesn't encourage me to write well, just to write more...and believe it or not, there is a distinct difference between the two. I can understand requesting "no one-liners" or "give me enough to work with" one hundred percent, though and have no issues with those.

Another thing is just...writing style. If I don't understand what someone is getting at with their writing or don't appreciate the way they write, it kills my interest pretty fast. There are just writers one doesn't click with, which is a sad fact of life. Nobody's fault, it simply happens.

And another would be indecision and passiveness. If I'm offering up ideas and trying to brainstorm, I'd really like to see the same from my partner. "Whatever you want", "I'm fine with anything", and "I don't know" may seem polite when they're being typed out by my partner, but they really just mean more work for me. This goes double for actual in character actions. If I'm the one pulling both our weight in making the narrative move along, then the RP is ending right then and there.

I think one of my bigger ones is when someone clearly decides to stop playing by the rules of the universe we'd established and just...does whatever. Saying "I had a cool idea!" OOC and telling me so we can tweak things is a lot better than simply implementing it and hoping I don't mind when it comes to big plot points or setting details. We all make little mistakes, but for certain things? It just has to be intentional.

Finally, I don't really want to roleplay with folks who expect me to put RPing before my obligations and other potential hobbies. I can have a variably busy schedule and one thing I adore is being given time and space to reply. Not everyone is the same, and I'm completely fine with people asking for daily replies from others and on their search threads, etc., but if I've told an RP partner about my schedule and posting ability and a reply is still expected of me daily...please no. Nothing drives me away faster.
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Indecision and passiveness, a bad combination for me. Also, they say they're fine with anything but if you pitch ideas...."Oh no, I kind of want to do something else." Okay, how about pitch some ideas then?
 
My main deal breakers include rude behavior, horrible grammar and maybe syntax, but that one's tricky too. Also, if they use code that makes their word font super small. I just can't read that stuff, because my eyes are bad, even with glasses on.
 
sad boy said:
I have a very close friend who does this and it's entirely draining to deal with. Nothing else really matters outside their precious, perfect baby and it was endearing in the beginning but now it's all the time with literally even things not relating to our RP and god its old.​
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add in the fact that they have a post length that is as long as only 1 paragraph of 3-5 sentences or two if they bother to expound how "her golden blonde locks danced in the air as she walked seductively towards them... Mean while her butler closed her *insert intense description that can only be summarised as Clothes and Propert porn*
 
This:
You have to respond every day otherwise I will lose interest. I'm able to be on all the time I need a partner to do the same and be willingly to reply several times a day and of course I need several paragraphs of description to move the story along.


Good for you cookie monster, next please.
 
"I only RP on Discord/Kik/Google Docs/Frikkin' AIM or something"

I'm sorry, I was under the impression that because you were posting here, on a roleplaying website, that you would be willing to roleplay on the website.
 
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