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memphis
memphis
I think for a lot of people it is a reminder that other people don't always see them as the gender they identify as, and that hurts for some people, even if it is just an accident or a slip.
hologram
hologram
I am Not An Expert so take this with a large grain of salt, but I think it's a matter of perspective where the intent (accidental) doesn't outweigh the transgression (misgendering). If you're in a position where you're exposed to this kind of thing often, even an accidental instance can sting quite a bit.
Caffeine Freak
Caffeine Freak
because attention
Mnemosyne
Mnemosyne
I agree with Memphis, personally though as a trans guy I don’t really care as long as they don’t do it knowingly (aka i’ve told them I want them to call me by male pronouns but they insist on doing the opposite, NO this does not include slip ups).
BLK
BLK
As someone who has never encountered these issues as a straight white male, I believe it is a matter of identity. Personal identity is a big thing to a lot of people, and to some, their gender may be a defining feature of who they are. When you misidentify who they are as a human being, I can understand how the theoretical person would be upset.
Daisie
Daisie
BLK BLK I guess so, but people really need to realise that these things are going to happen a LOT with the path they're going down. It's just bound to happen, and being so upset about it is... pretty pointless. Unless you want to make the other person feel guilty, and paint yourself as a victim of some sort... Though, that is just my narrow view and opinion.
Pine
Pine
If you're cis and getting upset about being misgendered, that's really silly to me. For trans people, I'm not exactly going to defend someone that has some over-the-top reaction to being accidentally misgendered, but try to be a little empathetic here. If a trans person is early in their transition, can't transition at all (lack of familial support, medical reasons, can't afford the expenses), are non-binary living +
Pine
Pine
in a binary society, or have transitioned but simply can’t pass as their gender (transwomen especially), it’s very likely you’re going to be misgendered a LOT. I’d say gender isn’t always necessarily all that important to most trans people, but it’s just really exhausting when you’re in an environment where it feels like NOBODY around you recognizes you for who you truly are. Trans people who don’t pass are often +
Pine
Pine
regarded as “less” than trans people who DO pass by cis people and they’re constantly questioned about the validity of their identity almost any time they disclose their gender to someone that hasn’t (knowingly) encountered a trans person before. I’m not sure if you’ve heard of gender dysphoria before? but that’s a thing, and it’s really painful to the people suffering from it. I think people can step on their toes +
Pine
Pine
just one too many times and they just snap, or the only way that they feel that they can be taken seriously is by aggressively asserting themselves (because a lot of cis people interpret a humble attitude as self-doubt, ergo an acceptable excuse to whip out their pseudo-scientific half-baked psychoanalytic theories and question trans people).
Pine
Pine
tl;dr Yeah it isn’t going to help much at all for trans people to go aggro on cis people for getting misgendered, but please understand when it does happen that however hurt you’re feeling in the moment, that trans person is probably carrying a whole package of dysphoria with them that can really take a toll on someone’s mental health over time.
Daisie
Daisie
Good answer, thank you. Tis appreciated!
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