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The Chronicler
The Chronicler
Who do u have feelings for more? New guys, or whatshisface?
SnuggleThisMuggle
SnuggleThisMuggle
It's a guy that I've been friends with for a while but I never thought of him as someone I liked until recently
ApfelSeine
ApfelSeine
It's really easy to get crushes, there's lots of cute people out there, but actual relationships are very different. There's no harm in finding someone attractive, provided that you don't act in a way that damages the trust you've built in your current relationship. I recommend spending more time with your boyfriend and reassessing how you feel, and being honest with him :)
Aato
Aato
I've found myself in a similar situation except with a guy I met once in college (no good for me, but I like his company). I basically asked myself what's more important: the random attraction to a guy that will likely go nowhere or my dependable relationship with someone I also care about. So, I concur with the above. Many pretty, fun people come around, but you gotta know what you want & what's important to you.
Sibelle Grey
Sibelle Grey
OOOoooh I have advice~
You don't stop noticing attractive folks just because you're in a relationship. You're (presumably) monogamous, not blind. Like ApfelSeine ApfelSeine said, crushes are normal. The most important thing is not acting in any way that violates your partner's trust.
Sibelle Grey
Sibelle Grey
The second thing is to determine whether your relationship is more important than this crush (which is most likely fleeting). If so, I'd suggest doing your best to keep it harmless, and sort of nip it in the bud.
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Sibelle Grey
Sibelle Grey
Thirdly, analyze why you like him. Is he a great guy? Try to see if there aren't any underlying issues in your relationship, things you see in him and not your boyfriend, subconsciously seeing him as an escape route of sorts in case things don't work out or idealizing him because he's different from what (who) you're used to. Humans like new and shiny and different, it's just the way we're wired.
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