Experiences Things that instantly make you drop an RP

Mia Moulop said:

I loathe seeing realistic and anime faceclaims. It gets on my last nerve!

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geeking out said:

Another thing that won't so much get me to drop immediately as it makes me block a user and refuse to roleplay with them in the future.

It's when someone stops replying to a roleplay but then goes on and makes a new search thread looking for more partners. Especially when you don't answer my questions as to what happened to our roleplay.

I mean I don't mind if you just get busy or maybe aren't feeling a roleplay. I just find it super rude when you drop one roleplay without warning then immediately start looking for another. Either let me know you don't want to roleplay or at least pretend it's because you got busy.

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Coco Adel said:

The grammar nazi. Listen I get some people get frustrated when they can't understand what someone is saying but that doesn't mean be an asshole. You don't know this person, English may not be their first language they could be dyslexic or any number of things. I personally suffer from making typos for two reasons as of late. One being the dreaded autocorrect that has even been changing correctly spelled words like liar to the word lists for some reason and secondly because I am using a new keyboard app and it's not set up like the keyboard app I had been using for a couple of years now so places where I'm used the buttons being are not in the same place and sometimes I make some monstrous errors without realizing it.

However, I'll watch people be straight assholes to certain people who don't have "perfecr grammar" and my thing is, why is all that even necessary? Personally if I feel your grammar is bad enough to complain about, I'd rather help you improve upon it than be a dick about it. I feel like if you have time to complain then you have time to help them and if you just can't be bothered to then don't be a dick just explain to them that you don't want to RP with them anymore, don't just leave because that's time they could be using to RP with someone else that they probably reserved for you, but if you're not coming back then make it known in a respectful manner. Don't just ghost on them.

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geeking out said:

See I'm with you up to the end. I'd honestly rather someone ghost on me than be a giant toolbag. At least if you ghost I can give you the benefit of the doubt that something came up on your end.

If your just sitting there starting shit with me because I don't write to suit your specifications than all that's going to do is lead to a fight. And I find being ignored much better for my blood pressure than getting into a nasty argument with some asshole over my inability to use homonyms.

Obviously not being an asshole is of course the best way to handle this. But if that's just not in your wheelhouse I'd rather you be a silent asshole and leave than start a feud in the PMs just because you think I'm not good enough to write a story with you.

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Coco Adel said:

I'm not saying be a toolbag but if someone else not having good grammar is causing you not to have fun and you just don't want to RP with them anymore. I feel it's better to be honest and just say it. I don't find it disrespectful for somone to be honest and say they are not having fun. Am I saying that you specifically have to tell them it's because their grammar is bad, no but simply telling them, your not having fun and you're dropping the RP so they can go and find someone else to RP with I feel is better than ghosting on someone. Personally if you ghost on me I won't care, I'll find someone else to RP with, but I know certain people who doing things like that instead of just telling them the truth is really hurtful, I know people who will keep themselves from rping with other people because they have saved this time for a specific person who didn't even have the courtesy of telling them they were not coming back, so you are preventing this person from having fun because you couldn't just be honest and say "look I'm not having fun anymore it would probably be best of you found someone else to rp with" I know people who get super sad because they see this person is online but they aren't replying them whatsoever and just flat out ignoring them. Everyone is not like me or even you. I could give a damn if you ghost on me, I will find things to do and if you come back, cool if you don't oh well, but that's me. Plus if it's something they need to work on, you can be honest and say they need to work on it without being disrespectful and it turning into a fight unless the other person is sensitive and gets super offended about it.

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geeking out said:

And my reply was to your previous statement which seemed to read

I would rather you be an asshole to my face than ignore me.

Which I disagree with. I would honestly rather you ignore me than just be an asshole and start shit.

Obviously in the best case scenario those would not be your only two options and you could resolve your issues like a grown person with common courtesy.

But if we are assuming our options are

Option 1 : Person is an asshole about grammar to the point that I eventually quit the roleplay after getting into a long argument over the proper usage of a comma.

Option 2 : Person leaves without warning and doesn't respond to subsequent requests for an explanation.

I'm going to take Option 2.

Because I do not need the extra stress of dealing with someone who is deliberately out to cause shit and be an asshole. I would honestly rather you just leave than be a dick.

The whole if you don't have something nice to say then get the fuck out of my face.

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Now that being said yes obviously in a perfect world you would be able to inform someone in a reasonable manner that you don't want to roleplay with them. Make up a reason. Explain that your having trouble understanding their posts and they might be happier with someone else. There are tons of ways to get out of the scenario with dignity and politeness.

That wasn't what I was addressing. I was addressing people who deliberately use grammar as a means to bully and belittle others. I don't need to waste my time listening to their reasons for not wanting to roleplay with me. Because I don't need to listen to someone else go on and on about how I'm not good enough to roleplay with them.

Those people can frankly leave and good riddance.

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Coco Adel said:

I wasn't saying I'd rather you be an asshole to me than ignore me, though personally I don't really care because if you decide to be an asshole I can just as easily decide to be petty and be an asshole right back if I feel like it, but most times I really don't find it worth the effort to do so.

What I was saying is. That I personally feel if you have time to complain about somone's grammar and it really bothers you that much then you have time to help them improve their grammar instead of being an asshole, but if you feel you can't be bothered to help them improve then it's best to just leave and stop rping with them than to be a dick an bully them over it. However, if you are going to leave then please inform them that you are leaving in a respectful manner instead not just ghosting on them. I feel that is better to be honest with someone and tell them you are not having fun so that they can move on instead of ghosting on them and possibly holding this person up who may be waiting on you if you know full well you have no intentions of returning to the rp as there are people who find that to be really hurtful especially when they see you have been or are online and are just flat out ignoring them. Lots of people at least most that I talk to say they'd rather the person had been honest with them and told them they weren't coming back than just ignoring them.

I kind if think of it this way. Leaving an rp is kind of like a breakup albeit far less serious as you are not romantically involved with this person and rp is more or less like writing a story or playing a videogame. However, you did make a commitment to this person and in real life the best way to deal with a breakup is to be honest about it and let the person know you are leaving. If you breakup with someone the thing to do is not to simply ignore them and hope they get the hint and leave you alone, that in my personal opinion is kind of a dick move. Just like in real life, you are potentially keeping someone from moving on because they may be sitting around waiting on you with no idea that you have no intention of returning. I can understand ignoring someone if you already let them know but they persist, but just leaving without a word seems pretty rude to me at least.

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Rathian Diablos said:

The person who signs up for an RP and instantly tries to break the rules before they are even approved. Like they see the rules of the RP and character sheets but decide that somehow the rules the don't apply to them or try to half-ass the rules thinking that the OP won't call them on it because they technically met the requirements. Like when they literally say their character in infinitely powerful but them puts some bogus drawback on their character isn't really even a drawback like their state of mind or emotional states something you know they likely won't enforce or even make a factor. Usually is drop the RP if this person somehow gets apporved if I'm not already too invested but if I am I try to avoid this person like the plague.

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geeking out said:

I see I misunderstood.

As to ghosting I think it depends on the circumstance.

1. Sometimes there is no nice way to remove yourself from the situation. Tempers are high, your partner is the kind to take rejection poorly, you don't want to hurt someone's feelings etc.

2. Sometimes you have anxiety that prevents you from handling conflict in a rational or "polite" manner. Some people just do not have the tools to handle conflict and thus avoid it.

3. Sometimes IRL takes over and you can't respond in a timely fashion. Maybe you had a death in your family, you lost your job, you were in an accident.

4. Sometimes people are rude. They honestly don't care about you or your feelings and will do whatever they want.

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Honestly I find people who ditch a roleplay and immediately start another one rude too. But it's a kind of rude I can live with.

Some people disagree. That's fine we all have different standards that we expect from others.

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geeking out said:

FUCKING PREACH.

I literally had someone join a superhero roleplay waaaaaaay back when I did groups.

I specifically said you can have no more than three powers and they must have weaknesses. ( I did allow for like linked powers. Ex. if you can create fire I would allow you to also be immune to flames without counting that as a seperate thing )

So this guy was basically - I have all the powers of Superman.

I'm like...okay well he has a lot more than three so pick three of his powers and figure out some weaknesses.

His weaknesses?

Villain of comparable power. ( to Knock Off Superman. WTF?)
Antisocial Personality ( ??? His power is super strength and lazer vision and his weakness is he doesn't form social bonds? Bullshit )
Shyness? ( THIS IS A PERSONALITY TRAIT.)

I was like... No. Fix it.

And he proceeded to piss and moan in my pms for at least half an hour.

After which I blocked him and put Such And Such Person Is Not Welcome In This Roleplay.

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Rathian Diablos said:

I hate when they do that too. Like you are blatantly breaking the rules and you somehow think you have the right to complain. Personally I think you are lucky then the OP is nice enough to tell you fix it instead of barring you from joining or just ignoring you. I won't lie, I've done this a few times I will see someone blatantly breaking the rules of the CS and I won't even acknowledge them because I feel like you're trying to play me like I'm stupid. Only recently have I decided to be more understanding because I've seen some people who haven't had a proper RP environment and therefore don't know this is wrong or need pointers and corrections to get them on the right path, but before recently you were about as likely to get ignored as you were to be chewed out by me.

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geeking out said:

Yeah I mean it was in my early days of GMing. And he at least seemed to have thought out his character so I figured I just hadn't been clear enough about the power rules.

Until the weaknesses showed up. At which point I figured out sharpish what he was trying to do and put my foot down.

Which he did not appreciate one little bit.

Now I'd probably be more firm from the get go but also offer some examples of what I was looking for.

Just so I could give constructive advice if he was just confused while still putting a stop to the I'm To Speshul For Rulez nonsense at the gate.

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Malkav said:

1)
Characters what have small fightan skillz but make up for it wit SPESHAL POWERZ or SUPA SMART SKILLZ

2) Characters what have big fightan skillz nd are all gruff like.

3) Characters what look like characters from the Japanese cartoons.

4) Characters what are from the video games or from the Japanese cartoons or what are from the movies. We have a hole fandom forum thingy for that plz keep them in there.

5) Theme songs what are just your favrote song.

6) Teenage characters what have dead/missing parentz.

7) Self inerts so u can be in da st0ry!

8) Antagonists what are INDESTRUKTIONABLE!

9) Characters what have backst0rys what are TO BE REFEELED IN DA RP which are not actually revealed in the rp ever.

10) Characters what are BICYLESEXUAL. (Saucepansexual counts too) ((c'mon guys, straight people exist too))

11) NPCs what are just there 4 tha characters to show off there FIGHTAN SKILLZ.

12) Characters what r gud wit GUNS or SORDS nd carry around a speshel GUN or SORD

13) RPs what are set in the SCHOOLS. Seriously. Like 90% of RPs take place in some academy.

14) Characters what are under 21. COOL KIDZ AMIRITE?

15) Puttin gifs of ur character in tha RP. Just stop.
16) Characters what have personalities what can be summed up in one word. 'Angry', 'strong', 'bossy', etc. It's dull.

17) Characters what can CONTROL PEOPLEZ MINDZ but what get tired or something after.

18) Characters what are dicks for no reason except cuz it says so in their CS bio.

19) Characters what are VAMPIREZ or RPs what HAVE THE VAMPIREZ. Cuz they SUCK

20) Los caracteres que son cute, sensitive teenage boys >.< XD

21) 2 characters what fall in the love after knowing eachother for like three days.

22) Fandom OG characters that are nothing like the OGs

23) Characters what are actually just Sonic the Hedgehog.

24) Players who are just fucking retarded.

25) People telling me to write this thing in English. Yeah, not gonna happen.

Stolen from Caffeine Freak

Experiences - The big list of overdone RP cliches.

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Rathian Diablos said:

Like you see how the rest of the CS are composed, you saw people being corrected over far less than what you did but somehow you think you get to be exception.

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geeking out said:

Premade Characters.

Now I don't necessarily mean things like canon characters in fandoms or having a set role for a roleplay.

I mean when someone has a plot that is so restrictive they might as well has created a character sheet for your character. Complete with backstory, personality, face claim, likes/dislikes, etc.

Like I mean if you are that infested in the character maybe you should play them and I'll make up my own.


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Related when people get way to specific about their romantic fantasies. To the point where they give a point by point list of their ideal romantic partner and ask you to play this person. Like *full body shudder* and no thank you.

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HeathertheGamer said:

Do any of you guys think of someone to tag here to give them a little hint? I'm tempted but I decide against it because that would be too mean.

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Maxine93 said:

Well, peeves, gosh there are many. 1. When someone puts very little effort in their writing is definitely one of them. I'm not a grammar nazi, I often am on this site on a phone, or in the Beta App, which makes actually forming sentences with correct punctuation and grammar difficult. That all being said when your partner is trying to throw in details that is supposed to add to the feel of the RP or suspense, whatever that is, try to shoot some back. You don't have to write a book, I don't expect that, just a little effort.

I suppose the second would be dropping out of an RP without saying anything, I find that really rude then when you ask if they are okay because you haven't heard from them they either block you or don't respond though they are posting in forums for example, that's rude.
Highly sexual RP'ers I do not like at all, I like plot, and I don't really appreciate it.
Weird victim Mary Sue OC's. I don't mind a rough backstory but the OC's that are always hurt, damaged, never getting up, attention grabbing I don't like at all.

I may sound like a snob but I'm just being honest.

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