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Over the past six months finding a decent roleplay has become harder and harder. Browsing the 1x1 section shows that 9 out of 10 people want some plotless romance or a story with romance where it doesn't fit properly at all. Seriously, I'm wondering, is it so hard to get a roleplay that isn't centred around romance?

DrTrollinski said:

Over the past six months finding a decent roleplay has become harder and harder. Browsing the 1x1 section shows that 9 out of 10 people want some plotless romance or a story with romance where it doesn't fit properly at all. Seriously, I'm wondering, is it so hard to get a roleplay that isn't centred around romance?

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You have to go to the right place. But yes.

Drippi the gunsmith said:

You have to go to the right place. But yes.

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I've found a few jems in my time. People who don't want purely romance are sadly a dying breed.

DrTrollinski said:

I've found a few jems in my time. People who don't want purely romance are sadly a dying breed.

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I feel ya.

Well with 1x1s specifically you are very much playing against type. Like it or not that is a subsection that tends to overwhelmingly be about romance. Mostly due to the nature of the set up - two people playing either two or more characters.

So while it is not impossible to find platonic partners it's also not surprising that it would be overwhelmingly filled with people seeking romance.

Now if we were talking about a large uptick in NONromantic 1x1 requests I'd agree that's pretty surprising. Or if we were talking about a large uptick in purely romance driven groups yeah that would be a bit noticeable.

But - people only want to do romance in 1x1s - is kind of the default state over there.

geeking out said:

Well with 1x1s specifically you are very much playing against type. Like it or not that is a subsection that tends to overwhelmingly be about romance. Mostly due to the nature of the set up - two people playing either two or more characters.

So while it is not impossible to find platonic partners it's also not surprising that it would be overwhelmingly filled with people seeking romance.

Now if we were talking about a large uptick in NONromantic 1x1 requests I'd agree that's pretty surprising. Or if we were talking about a large uptick in purely romance driven groups yeah that would be a bit noticeable.

But - people only want to do romance in 1x1s - is kind of the default state over there.

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It's stupid, especially seeing as more than two characters can exist in a 1x1.

DrTrollinski said:

It's stupid, especially seeing as more than two characters can exist in a 1x1.

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I am not arguing with you on that. I myself am not a huge fan of romance either. I am also however aware of what the genre I prefer to roleplay in ( 1x1s) has in terms of demographics.

The thing is 1x1 is largely seen as a "romance" style of roleplaying. Plenty of people do believe that it's ONLY for romance in fact and so the idea that you're only finding romance players in that sub-section isn't really surprising. As it's pretty much the vast majority of what the people who 1x1 want to play.

Now does that mean you can't make a 1x1 about something OTHER than romance? Of course not. Does that mean that you can't have a 1x1 with two people and over twenty characters, when the average is two people with two or four characters? Not at all.

You can play whatever kind of roleplay you want as long as it fits the site rules.

But just don't be surprised if you have to look a little harder to find someone who shares you taste ( especially if that taste is non-romantic in the 1x1 section ).

I don't think so you just have to really look i suppose. I don't like making any plot centered around romance, it's more of a side plot then again if it doesn't happen that's fine too.

You have take control of the situation, set your own bounds and wait for like minded individuals to come to you. This applies to 1 x 1's and group rp's. If something is unsatisfactory to you. Then you be the agent of change and not stoop to the level of plotless romance.

Bacon is fluffy said:

You have take control of the situation, set your own bounds and wait for like minded individuals to come to you. This applies to 1 x 1's and group rp's. If something is unsatisfactory to you. Then you be the agent of change and not stoop to the level of plotless romance.

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Exactly what I'm trying to do.

DrTrollinski said:

Exactly what I'm trying to do.

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Good and gl with your rp.

Yeah. Fuck that shite. Romance comes out of a RP naturally, not because you want it to.

Anyway, I'm in the same straits as you, Dr Trollinski. No one here seems interested in the SCP Foundation. Anyway, good luck.

It's not hard if you are looking at groups imo. But in 1x1, yeah, it's mostly romance.

I think it's seasonal. With the school year starting a lot of things are in flux. But the pendulum always swings back.

Sunbather said:

It's not hard if you are looking at groups imo. But in 1x1, yeah, it's mostly romance.

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Just curious, why is that. There's such a huge divide. One side loves having romance of any kind(gay straight bi) and the other seems devoid of any of this more complicated emotion.

I mean seeing a group character even expressing frustration openly in the ic, is a rarity.

Bacon is fluffy said:

Just curious, why is that. There's such a huge divide. One side loves having romance of any kind(gay straight bi) and the other seems devoid of any of this more complicated emotion.

I mean seeing a group character even expressing frustration openly in the ic, is a rarity.

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There are two main reasons.

The first is that people assume 1×1s are "romance" roleplays so they go into a search or a roleplays with the expectation there will be romance unless you specifically request otherwise. The reverse is true for groups.

The second reason had to do with the nature of 1×1s. They are much smaller roleplays typically between two ( rarely three people ) this means you are able to craft a story around an interpersonal relationship easier. As for the most part your whole roleplays is around two ( or sometime four ) characters and focuses specifically on their rekationship.

And because each of the players represents one side of that in character interpersonal relationship it's easier to express.

In a group Howe er you have a lot more people with a lot more characters. ( even if they only play one character a piece in a group of ten or more players that's at least ten or mire characters )

I'm this scenario breaking people into pre-established relationships is harder as you have to have the agreement of a wider group for them to be effective.

It's also harder to focus on those interpersonal relationships because as this thread proves not everyone wants romance.

So you have to make a story that has enough going on that people not interested in romance are kept entertained while giving people who do like romance the chance to shine.

And this requires essential more player cooperation than a more simple two person rp

Ps apologies for typos on my phone. If u have a question I'll try to clarify when I get on the computer

Bacon is fluffy said:

Just curious, why is that. There's such a huge divide. One side loves having romance of any kind(gay straight bi) and the other seems devoid of any of this more complicated emotion.

I mean seeing a group character even expressing frustration openly in the ic, is a rarity.

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Well, that isn't really my experience, personally (I don't really roleplay on here anymore though, so maybe I'm wrong) but I'm guessing people looking for a 1x1 want a more personal experience with a single, dedicated partner, and that is a setting outside the roleplay itself that makes people comfortable and perhaps even attracted to the idea of romance?

For me it's the exact opposite, personally. I don't like 1x1 romance anymore because when I did do it I often felt uncomfortable, like I have to fullfill someone else's expectation and comply. I'm currently in a subtly romantic position in a group roleplay and it's much more comfortable to me, personally.

Eh. I can take or leave romance. I like it, don't get me wrong--I'm much more into sexual tension and flirting if we're going down that road, but I love and prefer storytelling for itself, not just as heartthrobbing by proxy.

Try somewhere else if this isn't your cup of tea, though. In my experience, doing something different gets you results faster than complaining.

Bacon is fluffy said:

Just curious, why is that. There's such a huge divide. One side loves having romance of any kind(gay straight bi) and the other seems devoid of any of this more complicated emotion.

I mean seeing a group character even expressing frustration openly in the ic, is a rarity.

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If you ask me, I think it has to do with the nature of 1x1 vs Group Roleplaying. Group Roleplays often don't last too long so most people are stuck in the "stranger-danger" introduction phase where just like in real life, they're not peachy keen about showing emotions, sharing personal details, and are still untrusting of the other players in the group. 1x1s are more secluded, more personal on a level, and therefore more of an outlet of romance-type private roleplays.

If you ask me, I think 2016 was the year of the best RPs. For me, at least.

Whisker said:

If you ask me, I think it has to do with the nature of 1x1 vs Group Roleplaying. Group Roleplays often don't last too long so most people are stuck in the "stranger-danger" introduction phase where just like in real life, they're not peachy keen about showing emotions, sharing personal details, and are still untrusting of the other players in the group. 1x1s are more secluded, more personal on a level, and therefore more of an outlet of romance-type private roleplays.

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That makes cents.

Corrosion said:

If you ask me, I think 2016 was the year of the best RPs. For me, at least.

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And it was the worst for me. lel

Point.less.

I've been wondering the same thing for at least a good year or two now. I avoided 1x1 for a while and when I finally decided to start browsing it I realized it's largely about romance. Honestly, my first thought when going into 1x1 was that it would be full of one on one buddy stories about camaraderie. Even barring whatever reservations I might have when it comes to a lot of romance RP, most of the characters I come up with are pretty unsuitable for romance by nature and so I've left the section practically untouched. I just sort of look through it every few days now whenever the other sections are looking dry.

I much prefer group roleplays anyhow but I took it as a chance to maybe expand my horizons and supplement the group sections since it's so rare that I actually join an RP. Doesn't seem to have had that effect, unfortunately. I guess I just underestimated the percentage of romance on there.

Kenjinx said:

I've been wondering the same thing for at least a good year or two now. I avoided 1x1 for a while and when I finally decided to start browsing it I realized it's largely about romance. Honestly, my first thought when going into 1x1 was that it would be full of one on one buddy stories about camaraderie. Even barring whatever reservations I might have when it comes to a lot of romance RP, most of the characters I come up with are pretty unsuitable for romance by nature and so I've left the section practically untouched. I just sort of look through it every few days now whenever the other sections are looking dry.

I much prefer group roleplays anyhow but I took it as a chance to maybe expand my horizons and supplement the group sections since it's so rare that I actually join an RP. Doesn't seem to have had that effect, unfortunately. I guess I just underestimated the percentage of romance on there.

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I wouldn't write it off entirely. I don't do romance at all and I find partners fairly easily ( lol the Roleplays getting past the planning stages is another matter but that's often scheduling )

its more a matter of working with people and putting yourself out there. You might have to actually ask some of the people if they would be okay taking out the romance in their search ( or making a platonic search yourself )

I will say 1x1s do depend more heavily on you clicking with the other player and your schedules linking up. ( lol romance kills far less Roleplays than you and your partner just not being on the same page or your schedules being off )

So if your looking to make friends and connect to your partner outside of the roleplay I'd say give it a shot. Romance isn't nearly as universal as it seems on the surface. If your just here to write stories I wouldn't look to 1x1s as the interpersonal element is a little too central to success for it not to be a big part of the process

DrTrollinski said:

Over the past six months finding a decent roleplay has become harder and harder. Browsing the 1x1 section shows that 9 out of 10 people want some plotless romance or a story with romance where it doesn't fit properly at all. Seriously, I'm wondering, is it so hard to get a roleplay that isn't centred around romance?

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Hey hey, I'm one of the few people that does 1x1 roleplays all the time and I don't do any romance in my roleplays, ever. If you find that appealing, send me a PM and maybe we could get something rolling!

Caroline1539 said:

Hey hey, I'm one of the few people that does 1x1 roleplays all the time and I don't do any romance in my roleplays, ever. If you find that appealing, send me a PM and maybe we could get something rolling!

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I am looking for an RP involving no romance. I posted the plot in 1x1 but no one's replied, I truly think that everyone there just wants romance.