CactusWren
Gruntiest of the Grunts!
I'm reaching an annoying dilemma where I had a slew of very interested roleplayers who just stopped replying all of a sudden.
On that note: I want to make it perfectly clear I completely understand that people get busy-- I've had a few of those roleplayers tell me that an issue came up, or school is ending soon so they're focusing on finals, and I'm completely cool with that. I don't bother them for that, and encourage them to take care of themselves and their lives before replying back.
I'm more bothered when someone doesn't respond in days but they're obviously active on another thread or "bumping" for interest checks when it's been almost a week since they responded to our own roleplay (I swear I'm not a stalker; I've just noticed this when I was looking for interest threads myself).
On another note, I do understand that people forget they even got a response, or they tell themselves to reply later and forget about it-- heck, sometimes I'm guilty of doing that myself. So days later I just give them a poke and ask if they're still interested.
I really, really wish people just came out and told me they got bored/I'm not what they're looking for in a partner/got writer's block. I understand where other people are coming from, and I will not get angry or upset if they make that clear. Nobody is entitled to a roleplay. It just lets me know it's not going to happen anymore so my energy doesn't go to thinking up ideas for a roleplay that isn't going to exist at that point.
So my question is: When is a good time to "Poke" a partner (or ask them if the roleplay is still happening), and how often should I do it? I would hate to be aggressive and/or annoying, so I'd really appreciate some input or personal experiences so that my partners aren't uncomfortable by my prodding.
On that note: I want to make it perfectly clear I completely understand that people get busy-- I've had a few of those roleplayers tell me that an issue came up, or school is ending soon so they're focusing on finals, and I'm completely cool with that. I don't bother them for that, and encourage them to take care of themselves and their lives before replying back.
I'm more bothered when someone doesn't respond in days but they're obviously active on another thread or "bumping" for interest checks when it's been almost a week since they responded to our own roleplay (I swear I'm not a stalker; I've just noticed this when I was looking for interest threads myself).
On another note, I do understand that people forget they even got a response, or they tell themselves to reply later and forget about it-- heck, sometimes I'm guilty of doing that myself. So days later I just give them a poke and ask if they're still interested.
I really, really wish people just came out and told me they got bored/I'm not what they're looking for in a partner/got writer's block. I understand where other people are coming from, and I will not get angry or upset if they make that clear. Nobody is entitled to a roleplay. It just lets me know it's not going to happen anymore so my energy doesn't go to thinking up ideas for a roleplay that isn't going to exist at that point.
So my question is: When is a good time to "Poke" a partner (or ask them if the roleplay is still happening), and how often should I do it? I would hate to be aggressive and/or annoying, so I'd really appreciate some input or personal experiences so that my partners aren't uncomfortable by my prodding.