The Infamous Dating!

[Thaurer]

This thread shall be home to many number of things. Rants, calm opinions, cold hard facts, stories, etc. So, I'll open this glorious post with a PERSONAL question to everyone reading! "How old were you when you went on your first date?" Of course, you can add the age of your first kiss, pet peeves you have during dates, questions for other people, or even downright horrible experiences!

Personally, I've never had any horrible experiences. How you ask?... I've, well, never been on a date before. No juicy stories to tell, forgive me. No first kiss, never had a boyfriend (locally), never cuddled... Oh dear, perhaps I need to get out more, I've never even hugged a guy minus one time - and that's because I was pressured into it. BUT! This is a thread to strike conversation up in the hearts (haha, see what I did there) of members still here! So post away, random people.

 

[Project Naiad]

I was 21 when I had my first date, kiss and cuddle. I lived in a rural area so there weren't many gay guys.
First kiss was a bit awkward, but following ones were nice.

 

[SoundNinja4]

I've never really had a girlfriend. I took a girl out to my 8th grade dance, but that was ages ago now and nothing really happened after that. I've been on one other date but that was freshman year and nothing really happened with her either. So I guess I've danced with a girl before but that's about it. I've been out of high school for a few years now so all of this was ages ago. I haven't hugged many girls besides family members either.

 

[SandraDeelightful]

I've never been on a date before, and I'm twenty-one. I've had one kiss. It was so awkward, I've often blocked it from my memory. I sometimes say I've never been kissed, and my best friend will have to remind me of it. It takes me a second, and then I remember. I was seventeen at the time and I had just graduated high school, and he was going to be junior in high school. It was just an awkward experience. We did plan a date, but it never went through. I just felt a little old for him.

 

[Trickster Crayon]

I saw a movie on my first date. No kisses, no nothing. Just watching a freaking movie.

 

[xpstitch]

Okay so please tell me if I'm correct. Is it not the polite thing to do, to break up with somebody BEFORE you start calling some other guy your 'husband' on Facebook? PLEASE tell me if I'm tripping or not over this. I CANT be the only one that would be mad over this right?

 

[Trickster Crayon]

Okay so please tell me if I'm correct. Is it not the polite thing to do, to break up with somebody BEFORE you start calling some other guy your 'husband' on Facebook? PLEASE tell me if I'm tripping or not over this. I CANT be the only one that would be mad over this right?

That's a little messed up.

 

[xpstitch]

That's a little messed up.

I know. And it gets worse. They did other things too.

I don't consider myself the stalking type. I never stalked his Facebook while we were together. I just happened to see it that one time. I saw it the day before he broke up with me. Which means he was already done with me before he even told me.

In fact. I only saw some of the worst of it years later while I was bored/ kind of drunk thing happening. I never had a chance. They had been flirting with eachother since before we even started dating. They have their Facebook profile on public. Meaning I could see they were flirting on Facebook since before we went on our first date.

 

[Trickster Crayon]

I know. And it gets worse. They did other things too.

I don't consider myself the stalking type. I never stalked his Facebook while we were together. I just happened to see it that one time. I saw it the day before he broke up with me. Which means he was already done with me before he even told me.

In fact. I only saw some of the worst of it years later while I was bored/ kind of drunk thing happening. I never had a chance. They had been flirting with eachother since before we even started dating. They have their Facebook profile on public. Meaning I could see they were flirting on Facebook since before we went on our first date.

I am so sorry.. I wish you luck with that.. That's wrong..

 

[xpstitch]

Oh but at least he was HONEST with me when he broke up with me. Oh yeah. Let me tell you. That very same guy he was calling his husband on Facebook... Yeah. Well he basically cheated on that guy once upon a time and openly admitted to me that he has been trying to get this guy back all this time. They broke up. Now he has successfully gotten that guy back, he's breaking up with me. He openly admitted this to me. He basically admitted to me that I was basically just a SUBSTITUTE boyfriend. A substitute boyfriend. Let that sink in. I was just a placeholder. A person to kiss and cuddle whilst he was trying to get someone else back. A temporary placeholder...

 

[Trickster Crayon]

Oh but at least he was HONEST with me when he broke up with me. Oh yeah. Let me tell you. That very same guy he was calling his husband on Facebook... Yeah. Well he basically cheated on that guy once upon a time and openly admitted to me that he has been trying to get this guy back all this time. They broke up. Now he has successfully gotten that guy back, he's breaking up with me. He openly admitted this to me. He basically admitted to me that I was basically just a SUBSTITUTE boyfriend. A substitute boyfriend. Let that sink in. I was just a placeholder. A person to kiss and cuddle whilst he was trying to get someone else back. A temporary placeholder...

That's horrible! Toxic people are the worst.. you don't deserve to be played with like that, I bet that feels down right painful. You aren't a toy!

 

[xpstitch]

That's horrible! Toxic people are the worst.. you don't deserve to be played with like that, I bet that feels down right painful. You aren't a toy!

Oh what's worse is that was my FIRST and pretty much only relationship ever. What that does to someone's self esteem is terrible. Particularly MINE. Everybody was always telling me not to think things like "nobody will ever love you". Don't worry, somebody will eventually love you, I promise. Stuff like that. I thought were just being silly optimists who didn't know what they were talking about. Just lying to make me feel better. To have my first relationship turn out like THAT only made my previous ideas just seem oh so valid. Especially since I've not entered into a steady relationship since that incident.

 

[Trickster Crayon]

Oh what's worse is that was my FIRST and pretty much only relationship ever. What that does to someone's self esteem is terrible. Particularly MINE. Everybody was always telling me not to think things like "nobody will ever love you". Don't worry, somebody will eventually love you, I promise. Stuff like that. I thought were just being silly optimists who didn't know what they were talking about. Just lying to make me feel better. To have my first relationship turn out like THAT only made my previous ideas just seem oh so valid. Especially since I've not entered into a steady relationship since that incident.

Aw.. don't think that! My last relationship was the same way, I was madly in love with him and after 4 years, he broke up with me on our anniversary over a text message in July! I thought I was totally useless and I would never find anyone ever again. I felt like nothing, like a waste of space and I wanted to take my life over it. Trust me, you will find someone, I have! You just have to keep your head high and it's okay to be sad about it, don't bottle emotions, just keep looking up. Eventually, you'll find someone else and remember this last relationship as shitty and stupid, and laugh about it later. I promise.

 

[xpstitch]

Thanks for saying that but I've now come to terms with my worth. I'm currently undateable not because of any self esteem issue it caused me. I'm just extremely poor and sick right now and need to focus on my own stability. I'm not really in the mood for love right now.... And probably never will be again. You probably wouldn't understand if I explained it all. But stuff independent from that incident have made me okay with being single forever so...

 

[Trickster Crayon]

Thanks for saying that but I've now come to terms with my worth. I'm currently undateable not because of any self esteem issue it caused me. I'm just extremely poor and sick right now and need to focus on my own stability. I'm not really in the mood for love right now.... And probably never will be again. You probably wouldn't understand if I explained it all. But stuff independent from that incident have made me okay with being single forever so...

Take your time! Just remember to keep your head up. Okay? Just for the random stranger on the internet?

 

[xpstitch]

Take your time! Just remember to keep your head up. Okay? Just for the random stranger on the internet?

I'll see.

 

[xpstitch]

Oh and that same guy. Ooh he's BAD. So after that whole incident we were both hanging out in the same general area with mutual friend. Without my intervention, the convo steered towards his dating life. He mentions that they had broken up just recently. Um... What? Lol. You left me for somebody else and you guys broke up (again) after two weeks? What? XD.

You know what that dude told our mutual friend with me standing like RIGHT there?

"Well I knew it was never gonna work out for us anyways"...

What XD? So THATS what you left me for? XD something you KNEW was never going to work out? Something you KNEW was doomed to fail? XD I meant that little to you? XD

Okay so I'm a quiet person. I'm barely noticeable in social situations. It's not that I never say anything. It's just that I have this way of commenting in a social situation, and then seemingly be invisible after everyone reacts to my comment. So maybe it was my fault.

I was there. Standing right there. He said it RIGHT in front of me. And the worst part was. He said it as if he didn't know I was there. Or rather, that he forgot WHO I was. Like he forgot I was the EX that he broke up with to be with that guy. XD you forgot what I was to you? lol I was so insignificant to you that you forgot I was your boyfriend lol? You didn't realize you just revealed the worthlessness of your relationship with your ex, TO your ex? Omg You are disgusting lol XD it's so hilariously bad that I'm legit laughing right now.

 

[K.C]

See, I wouldn't say I've ever been on a proper date. I've dated a handful of people, but none took me on a real date. As for first cuddle? Beginning of this year. First kiss? Hopefully soon ;-)

 

[Fearless Sissy]

First kiss... Well, it was an accident! I was 19. In Denmark, when you graduate high school, you get these awesome hats, and there's a number of "achievements" you can get if you do certain things within the week of graduating; like if you skinnydip wearing only the hat, you get to cut a wave out of the inside seam, a square is if you finish a crate (=24) beers by yourself in one night, a semi-circle if you stay up for 24 hours and watch the sunrise, and so on. Well, if you kiss a member of the same sex, you get to flip the little badge on the front upside down. One of my classmates was complaining to me that she wanted to do it, so I was like, okay, and she gave me a very little auntie-peck on the lips. I told her that absolutely didn't count to flip the badge, so she looked thoughtful for a moment - and then grabbed my chin and stuck her tongue in my mouth. It was hilarious and one of my best memories; I'm so glad it happened that way, because it's a great story.

As for first date, it was with the man I'm currently seeing. I was 21, he was 26. He was dropping out of university, so I asked him out for coffee because I thought he was cute and at least wanted to talk to him properly to say goodbye. We ended up spending the whole day together just talking about Dungeons & Dragons, having dinner (falafel wraps on a freezing bench, in the snow, under an umbrella, also a fantastic memory), and he walked me home and we kissed each other goodbye that evening. It was my first proper date, and also still the best date I've been on.

 

[xpstitch]

First kiss... Well, it was an accident! I was 19. In Denmark, when you graduate high school, you get these awesome hats, and there's a number of "achievements" you can get if you do certain things within the week of graduating; like if you skinnydip wearing only the hat, you get to cut a wave out of the inside seam, a square is if you finish a crate (=24) beers by yourself in one night, a semi-circle if you stay up for 24 hours and watch the sunrise, and so on. Well, if you kiss a member of the same sex, you get to flip the little badge on the front upside down. One of my classmates was complaining to me that she wanted to do it, so I was like, okay, and she gave me a very little auntie-peck on the lips. I told her that absolutely didn't count to flip the badge, so she looked thoughtful for a moment - and then grabbed my chin and stuck her tongue in my mouth. It was hilarious and one of my best memories; I'm so glad it happened that way, because it's a great story.

As for first date, it was with the man I'm currently seeing. I was 21, he was 26. He was dropping out of university, so I asked him out for coffee because I thought he was cute and at least wanted to talk to him properly to say goodbye. We ended up spending the whole day together just talking about Dungeons & Dragons, having dinner (falafel wraps on a freezing bench, in the snow, under an umbrella, also a fantastic memory), and he walked me home and we kissed each other goodbye that evening. It was my first proper date, and also still the best date I've been on.

*sniffles* that sounds so beautiful. *cries*

 

[RabbitQueen]

I've never been on a date or had a first kiss but I've had people ask me out. One of them did it over facebook another one put it in a note and gave it to me at the end of the day in middle school and there was on guy who just blurted it out to me in class. I'd never talked to him and that was the only class we had together. I have to applaud his bravery because I'm not brave enough to do that.

 

[Cinder_Rabbit]

My first kiss was playing dumb games like kiss chase in primary school. My first real kiss was in high school around 14-15 it was pretty awful . Like 2 tongues in a washing machine that was filled with coffee my first date errrrm I took said girl out to dinner (I'm a bit old fashioned like that lol 26 btw now) urmm most recent first date wasss sight seeing in the city some nice food and then back home to play zelda =)

 

[Trickster Crayon]

My first kiss was interestingly stupid. Imagine the scene from Cloudy With a Chance of Meatballs, where they like awkwardly hold their breath and kiss. We had talked the night before about kissing, saying that we will. We went on a movie date, and at one point, we both turned our heads and kissed each other very awkwardly. Then, after, he pulled away and laughed and called the kiss bad, then he pulled me in and kissed me way better.

Well, he broke up with me and my entire life went out of control for a little bit, until I started dating this one guy who was like.. suicidal and would threaten me with suicide.. he was mentally abusive. So one day, I had my best friend over, who happens to be a guy I refused to date because I didn't want to ruin our friendship, to play video games with me and that guy, and he had to leave and his junk was upstairs, so I followed him up the stairs, and you know what I did? I fucking kissed him. That's right. The guy didn't even know. Until I told him.

It was by far the best thing I have ever done. Don't abuse your girlfriend.

 

[The_Omega_Effect]

I am somewhat similar to you in that I never really got into that kind of relationship with anybody or did anything like that with anybody. To me, it was just a pointless waste of time and I still think of it as such to an extend today.








...Im gonna die alone aren't I

 

[PanOtterPus]

First date&kiss was when I was 14. We went to the cinema, then back to the park near my place, he kissed me on the swings. We dated on and off for the remainder of high school plus the 2 years after, however, I found out he'd cheated on me a number of times.

Now I'm with the love of my life who I met through my friend at college just over a year ago (theyre brother and sister and we were both single af at the time xD). On our first date we went to the Edinburgh Christmas Market where he bought me pancakes and we took the Ghost Bus Tour around the city. Best date so far.