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Indeed. Controlling your own language should be easy if you're not a big fan of foul languages to begin with.
Not what I mean. My point was that if you are around people that you know don't like foul languages, you shouldn't curse around them.

It's after all, only polite.
 
Random question of the day:

Should people have to get used to being around foul language?

Depends on the extent of “getting used to” that we’re talking about with. I wouldn’t suggest that anyone “has to” be ok with any kind of language really. If something someone says bothers you that doesn’t mean you’re in the wrong and should just do away with those feelings. At the same time however it’s certainly not grounds for any sort of drastic action.
 
There are situations when it is appropriate to use bad language and situations when it's not. People who try to put a blanket ban on swearing etc are annoying but at the same time, you have to be context aware and not be a douche - like not swearing in front of children, old people, customers of yours, or in places of worship for example. Also I think we should definitely not ever have to get used to people using racist or homophobic language or other slurs and call it out when we see it.

I just dislike it when people are really stuck up about harmless curse words or slang.
 
Depends on context. I mean, there's a massive difference between using a general swear word and using a racial slur.
 
Probably. They'll encounter a person using those words in the future. However, if I can handle it, I personally wouldn't want to be in a position where I get too desensitized. Words have power.
 
Yes, depends on the context.
If it's something like "Oh, (bad word) I dropped a plate!" Then it's alright.

But foul language used to attack and demean other people is not. No one should need to be used to being attacked.
 
Random question of the day:

Have you ever had that feeling of having put a lot of your time into a certain website or Discord server, and once you left from that site or server, you didn't know what to do with your time anymore?
 
Yep. However, most of those times where times when I felt I was getting addicted or pouring an ungodly amount of time or effort because of the inneficiency of the process rather than because I liked it.
 
No. Time is so limited, if I free up some time from doing one thing I'd use it on something else I want to do but didn't have time before because I was doing that other thing.
What would happen is that I'd be regretting wasting all that time on something that didn't work out.
 
Maybe not a website, but something unproductive like minecraft. After I decide to stop playing the game for a while, I'm like "welp, what's something productive that I can do?"
 
Sort of? There is a natural tendency for government to expand and there is also the fact that it is much easier to give up rights than to get them back. "To defend a castle you need to succeed every time, but you only need to succeed once to conquer it". For instance, the moment you let someone regulate your speech, you give them the power to decide that your speech should be regulated, which is a really difficult thing to combat- after all, what evidence can you have when your very complaint is the destruction of it? So over time there are more and more assaults on the castle- and it only takes faltering once to lose it.
 
It can be. It all depends on perspective.

Logically, being rejected isn't that bad compared to everything else that could destroy our lives. But in the stage of awkward teenage romance (or sometimes later when we are 20+) when all we do is fantasize about our crush and then finding that any of these fantasies won't come to fruition because they say "no"... It's just better not to deal with the pain and not ask at all, for fear that what we have wasted hours on thinking about would all be for naught. And even then, some people after being rejected keep going, as if hoping that there will be a "yes" in there somewhere or they keep fantasizing about that person and it begins to turn into bittersweet imaginings.

Of course, that's a horrible way of going about it. This is the most common reason why people don't ask someone out. They don't want to be rejected and it doesn't feel good to be rejected, no matter if you try not to let it wound you. Some people are too proud to be rejected or others fear the teasing and bullying for asking out this cute human being and now their friends won't stop bugging you about it.

Other times, it is just soul crushing and world shattering because the person who helped you out of a rut in your life and the person you admire and adore doesn't reciprocate the feelings you share with them. And then afterwards, its awkward as you two try to move on. Sometimes, it's successful, maybe one of you two tease about it to the other later but it just seems to bring you two closer into best friend territory. But most of the time, it's just a mess and the friendship you both had rots away because you asked a question that actually jeopardized the friendship.

Logically speaking, this shouldn't affect the outcome so much, but it does because emotions get in the way of everything.

So, in short, 7/10 (assuming a vast majority of everyone are not Vulcans) rejection itself and the contexts behind it can hurt more than the fear. The fear is what drives us to protect ourselves from embarrassment or damage, whether that be emotional or physical. Fear is just trying to help us, but it is like a little sibling who tries to act big and help you out when there is no need for it. The fear, at least in mine and my friend's experiences, don't hurt as bad. In fact, it just makes us neurotic freaks. But it's our imaginations and fantasies that all ride on a single word to a burning question in our brains and then seeing them all shatter away into dust while your soul breaks in a million pieces is more painful than fear of rejection. Its how we imagine our lives with that person.

But for some who aren't like me and my friends, that fear is worse because they aren't good with people or good at standing up to their fears. So they worry about the "what if" too much and don't do it when they should. They over-analyze themselves, putting themselves down because there is no way that person will ever say "yes" to them, even though there might be conflicting evidence for a "yes" happening.

If you spend more time thinking about that girl/guy/person and don't ask them out, then the fear of rejection will take you. Getting rejected when you don't fantasize so much can feel like ripping off a bandaid or a gut punch, but it won't feel like someone took your deluded heart and shattered it. Ask before you fall into the pit of imagination because, while imagination can be helpful, it is one of the creative human's worst nightmares and it is the progenitor of most, if not all, of our fears.

Just because we are afraid of something doesn't make us weak. It's what we do with that fear: either let it consume us or we use it to strengthen us - that matters the most, whether we become cowards or brave souls in the face of our own doubts and insecurities and danger.

Besides, if you take away all the context of the subtleties behind rejection and just get rejected without any pining or fantasies or "what ifs" or potential consequences for asking, then it's all just a word. "No". And it shouldn't hurt us so much. In fact, if you take all of that away and swallow your pride, then we can move on with a "no" and continue with our lives like it never happened.

But it does hurt and the pain lingers. And that's just us being human:

Fearful creatures of the consequences a simple two-letter word brings to the fate of our emotional and mental stability.

How silly we humans are.
 
Random question of the day:

Is fear of rejection truly worse than rejection?

No. Fear is simple, is primal, it exists and is part of life. Fear is a natural reaction that tries to protect you from harm. It will never be bad to feel fear. Rejection is something different. Rejection is something that will change things, but everything change things. So I dont believe either is worse than the other.
 

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